Why are many men more squeamish and lazy after marriage?

In fact, boys are originally squeamish and lazy, especially after getting married, they feel that they don't have to coax their girlfriends like before, so they will easily expose their true nature, but no one can coax you so endlessly.

The country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to change, so they are all in nature, but they will pay more attention to it at the age of the previous courtship.

Of course, there are men who don't know this, so I can only say that they have found the person they really want to love, and they have really gained love and their nature is also very good. Men may have been coaxing girlfriends before getting married, because they are the kind of motive to find a partner, after getting married, it can be said that their lives will be more busy, especially when they are just married, raising a wife or raising children, they are under a lot of pressure, and in the unit, work is not easy, so they go home and want to relax, they become very lazy and it is difficult to bear the girl not caring for the family.

I got the answer I wanted from my boyfriend to this question. We are post-90s, which means that we are not very old. He is very good to me and thinks about everything in life. In such a situation, I would love to marry him.

But he didn't want to. I also wonder if he doesn't want to grow up quickly, become mature, and have a common home with me. But the answer he gave me was completely unexpected.

He said baby, do you have this idea now because I am not good enough for you? I said no, because you were so good to me, so I was afraid of losing you, so I wanted to make the relationship stable. Then we can get better together.

He told me that he didn't want to get married so soon because he hadn't finished his relationship yet, and he was afraid that once we got married, our relationship was stable, and there would be no goals for the future. So much so that he became lazy and squeamish, did not do housework, and then did not work motivated. Once married, a man will have a psychology that he has already gotten it and doesn't have to give anymore.

Therefore, many men have changed after marriage because their mentality has changed.

Because they have found themselves a "mother" again. Since I got married, I have understood what a "bride" is, especially after giving birth to children, I will find that I have "two children", one is my own child and the other is my "husband".

Maybe it's also because I have given birth to a child after the "flood of maternal love", and my husband especially likes to bear my "flood of maternal love", because he doesn't need to do a lot of things, he can do whatever he wants when he gets home, and slowly he gets used to it, my husband plays with his mobile phone, I cook, my husband plays with his mobile phone, I wash dishes, my husband plays with my mobile phone, I wash clothes, etc.

Later, I found out that in fact, these faults of boys make us accustomed to it, they are used to pleasure, and we are used to giving.

Therefore, in such a situation, to put it bluntly, we also blame ourselves, we should not care about their problems, even if they are "overflowing with maternal love", we must also have moderation, work together, rest together, why do they not work if they are coquettish, shout tired can not work, we are also tired.

When a man doesn't get you yet, he may cook you some good food from time to time, help you do your laundry, and help you tidy up your home. After getting married, you will complain all day long that he doesn't tidy up his room, doesn't wash dirty socks, and litters dirty things. That's when you find out that your husband is really lazy and doesn't understand.

Do men get lazy after getting married? Most of them will. Some people say:

Mother-style mate selection, nanny-style wife, widowed parenting, and widowhood marriage are the four major misfortunes of Chinese women, in fact, the root of these four misfortunes is the lack of men's sense of responsibility in the family, to put it bluntly, because men are too "lazy". This is the case in many realities: a man enters the door after work and throws his shoes, throws his bag on the sofa, lies on the sofa, takes out his mobile phone, starts to brush it all kinds, and laughs from time to time.

You work outside the home all day during the day, and when you come back, you have to take care of the children, and you have to wash clothes, cook and clean up the house, like an old mother and serve him every day.

Why is this the case? It's all you're used to. After getting married, many women think that they have to give wholeheartedly in marriage, and these are what they should do.

Like Luo Zijun's nanny-style marriage in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", after getting married, he didn't work, taught his husband and children at home, took on all the things at home, and became a typical good wife and mother, but he was considered to be unenterprising, and finally ended up in the middle of the third child, and the marriage failed, and a large part of the fault was on Luo Zijun. Habit is a terrible thing, you take care of him like a mother, after a long time, he will naturally take it all for granted, if one day this care is missing, he will definitely feel uncomfortable. In a word, his state is what you are used to.

If you are married to a "lazy" husband, but he loves you and cherishes your family. You can try to change and find a solution, and you won't let it worse. Here are a few suggestions for tidying up:

01Sit down and talk.

Some men are not really lazy, but they have developed a habit, and they have not found it in time, so that they only find out after marriage, it is not easy to change, and their own efforts have made their husbands develop the habit of laziness, and deepen this habit. Some rules can be made, the more detailed the better, such as stipulating who cooks and washes the dishes, socks must be washed by hand, etc.

02Communicate well.

Women speak up when they feel tired and dissatisfied. Blindly forbearance will not bring good results, and don't let your wholehearted efforts be taken for granted. People are like this, they know how to cherish when they lose. You can ask him to help you with some of the household chores.

03 You can be lazy.

You can also let go, do nothing, and stop the "all kinds of serving" to him: if you want clothes, tell him that they are hanging in the closet, and choose them yourself; If you want to eat, you can do it yourself, do whatever you like, and eat whenever you want. This will make your husband aware of the dangers of laziness and let him know that his laziness has hurt the family.