How rejection can affect people when socializing

Rejection leads to growth, and people grow through painful setbacks.

More and more people now reject ineffective socialization, and many people not only reject these ineffective socializations, but even want to escape. In fact, the main reason is that ineffective socialization is not only a waste of one's energy, but also oneself will be affected badly. <>

This is ineffective, social itself will waste their time and energy, after all, as long as it is social, it will put themselves in a state of tension, it is completely impossible to be 100% themselves, compared to living alone, ineffective socializing, wasting not only their own time, but also their own energy, in fact, everyone in the society, every day for work, the family has spent a lot of energy, and in order to barely maintain some unnecessary socialization, but also to waste their own smile, Even their own communication time, this makes many migrant workers feel very broken. Because life is already very hard, it is really tiring to barely maintain your smile and kindness for these ineffective social interactions. Therefore, in order to avoid this unnecessary waste, many people have gradually begun to reject ineffective socialization.

And most crucially, ineffective socialization is not only not helping yourself, but may even have an unwanted influence on yourself. In fact, ineffective socialization means that socializing with this person has no meaning and effect, and even easy to bring negative emotions to themselves, some people are easy to complain when they go to work, and such people have been in contact for a long time, not only can they not learn anything, but they may also be affected by their emotions, and gradually become very negativistic. And play with people who are not self-motivated, and over time, you will become very lazy and tired, and you are not willing to work hard.

These effects are terrible for ruining a person, so these ineffective social interactions must be avoided so that we can move towards a better version of ourselves. <>

There is really no need for ineffective socialization, and it is a very serious internal friction for everyone.

I think it's mainly because everyone has less time and more work now, so many people hate ineffective socializing, and I think it's a normal situation.

Because the current times are very changing, contacting such people is not beneficial to themselves, and will only make themselves particularly irritable and troublesome, so they will refuse.

I don't think it's necessary, I don't like it, I don't get along if it's useless, and it's just to make myself happy and not distracted, so I will refuse.

Ineffective socialization not only consumes our energy but also takes up a lot of personal time, and ineffective socialization is not beneficial to many people, so they reject ineffective socialization.

It may be because ineffective socialization wastes time, and this ineffective socialization also wastes people's energy, and these ineffective socializations are also unnecessary.

1. Recognize life and refuse ineffective socialization.

These friends believe that social interaction should be effective, because the essence of social interaction should be based on "value exchange" in addition to mutual attraction and appreciation.

There is a joke on the Internet: "You are chopping wood, he is herding sheep, you talked with him all day, his sheep are full, where is your firewood?" This sentence profoundly shows that there is a lot of ineffective social interaction around us.

Interacting with others wastes a lot of your time and energy, but it is worthless. The other party at the tea party is enthusiastic, and you are physically and mentally exhausted. At the wine table, everyone pushes glasses and changes glasses, and they talk happily, but you feel that you are an "outsider".

2. Refuse to hurt and close yourself.

We find out "Why do people grow up and become more silent?" Someone gave an answer: "Because some people have nothing to say, and some have nothing to say." It is precisely because we are often hurt by other people's words that we dare not speak.

When we were young, we were always anxious to connect with the whole world, the more friends the better, the more people around us, the more lively we were, we were used to watching it, drinking and playing games, chatting and shopping on the street, we were not used to seeing it, the gay men were noisy and scolding, fighting, and the lesbians were spreading rumors and drawing a dummy behind your back to curse you.

But as I walked, I realized that no matter how good a friend is, there are comparisons, jealousy and gaps, and no matter how hard you hurt the other party, you can't solve your inner unhappiness. It's better to close yourself off.

The most powerful social interaction is to strengthen oneself, and the joys and sorrows of people are not connected, and there is no need to invite everyone into one's life.

No. First of all, people can't be completely social, social interaction is necessary. In fact, I can understand the reason why Lun Que is reluctant to socialize, in fact, many people are always unable to really care about others, but use their own disguise to communicate with others.

The essence of the core is: comparison.

To tell the truth, in fact, many people have a better life than you, your heart is not congratulations but jealousy, you will not be happy because others are doing well, on the contrary, you will be unhappy because others are doing well.

Secondly, human beings are social, political creatures, and we cannot really live in groups out of order and society, especially for young people.

Why do I focus on emphasizing young people, because they can't be truly independent (independence here mostly refers to materialism), my guess: it is precisely because of the inability to be independent that they will be reluctant to reality, but they are strongly dissatisfied with reality, and they want to escape but can't escape from it. In fact, the core of the solution is to change our thinking, since there is no escape and no change, we can only accept.

As the saying goes: the prime minister can hold the boat in his belly. Acceptance is also a kind of generosity, we generously accept some people and things that we are not used to, sometimes it is not the acceptance of the heart, maybe it is a kind of spiritual indifference, we can also disguise ourselves, sometimes pretending may be true.

All I am talking about is not insensitivity, but accumulation, only after we are truly independent, we have the capital to talk about our ideal world.

In the end, I laughed and argued that if you have love for others, others will also have love for you, and only by freely believing in love can you be loved.

A certain amount of social interaction can help you when you are confused, there will always be troubles in life, encounter things that you can't solve, then you will be unable to move an inch, and friends can help you solve problems, the worst can also be a listener, to you some feasible suggestions, but if there is no social interaction at all, when you are confused and at a low point, how can you get out of the inner fear, people can not close themselves forever, let alone completely refuse to socialize.