I m not a good person to talk to, what to do 15

After listening to his confiding attentively, he gently hugged him and said that his wife, it doesn't matter, she will be very comforted if her husband is there.

You just have to listen attentively, accompany her, and she will feel your sincerity.

It must be annoying after a long time, I used to have a strong desire to talk to others, and I wanted to talk to someone, but I was also worried about whether the other party would be annoying to me, so this is really a worrying thing.

However, since you have such concerns, it means that there is still such a possibility, so when you are chatting with someone, according to the content you want to chat, you need to find the right person for the right stool.

First of all, chatting this kind of thing, it's all mutual, if you want to complain to others about your experience, if the other party is not a particularly good relationship, you are more likely to find you annoying, if you have a good relationship with the other party, if you know each other better, you should not have such concerns.

Secondly, if you talk to others, the content of the chat is mainly when you are talking about your own affairs, others may be difficult to empathize, if you chat, both parties can talk about their own things, rather than just listening to one person's speech, this kind of two-person chat has a stronger sense of participation, and the chat is easier to continue, that is, in the process of chatting, don't just think about your own feelings, and ignore the other party's feelings, after all, others don't have to chat with you, Listen to your spit or complain about Yiwu.

Moreover, for the other party to take the initiative to chat with themselves, it really depends on the quality of the relationship, if the relationship is good, there will be no problem at all, if the relationship is average, then you should learn to be indifferent, after all, everyone has their own life, have their own circle of friends, this kind of thing is really normal.

Finally, if you really want to talk to someone about something, if you really can't find someone, you can also choose other ways. For example, if you write down what you want to say, maybe you have a strong desire to talk at first, maybe in the process of writing, your mood will slowly calm down, and then your desire to talk may be reduced, and you may also be full of things in the process. This writing can be handwritten, or it can be an electronic version, such as posting it on Weibo, etc., if you don't want to be known by others, you can also choose some platforms that you don't know to confide in.

Heart Splitting Rational Analysis: You and I are a teacher Keyang who focuses on career planning Through your description, I can see a down-to-earth, trustworthy, and well-liked man. However, he looks very strong, and in fact, he also longs for a trustworthy friend to confide in his emotions.

First of all, this need is quite normal! We all have a need to be understood, to be included. And the question you have now is:

You don't find a person to talk to. We can look at this problem from two sides. The purpose of your confiding is to find an audience to vent your emotions?

Or do you need someone who can give you a reasonable opinion after listening to the problem? If it's the former, as long as the other party is trustworthy and has a tight mouth, this is not difficult to find. In the latter, you have higher requirements for the listener.

Since you have also worked in professional psychological counseling**, you must know that professional counselors generally do not bring their own experience and ethics to talk to you, they will analyze the problem from your perspective through professional skills or empathy. Therefore, when there is no suitable person to talk to, the safest thing to do is to talk to a counselor. Although it costs some money, there is relatively no risk of misbooting.

If the problem is not serious enough to require a counsellor, you can also "talk to yourself", which is probably the most unrestricted and inexpensive solution. The method of self-confiding is called the [emotional ABC] method, which analyzes the irrational beliefs behind the emotions generated by oneself, so as to adjust the beliefs to obtain positive emotions. For specific operation methods, please refer to my [What should I do if I am very unconfident, very weak, and can't balance my mind to gain mental peace?]

With a certain level of practice, you too can become your own "confidant"!! Try it and you'll find out!