How to refuse so that it does not hurt others, and how to refuse so that it does not hurt him?

Honestly, it's impossible to turn down someone and not hurt them, and I think the best way to do that is to make it as easy as possible to make it clear to him that you can't be together

Since he is bigger than you, then his bearing capacity should be higher than you think So, you don't have to think so much, confess your psychological thoughts to him I think, he should also make a choice

Also, selfishly speaking, your own is more important than other people's happiness So, you just need to think about what you want If you really like your current boyfriend, then don't care about anything else, just simply enjoy his good to you If you can't rest assured that this eldest brother who has loved you silently for 7 years, then try to calm yourself down and slowly accept him

The above is my personal opinion and is for reference only

Give up that boyfriend from your college! You can't be together!

Didn't you already tell him that? You said you couldn't be together. That's it, talking too much will hurt people, don't take the initiative to contact him, if he shows love for you, you can happily say to him:

We're both good but not suitable, right? Well, goodbye! "I think he'll restrain himself and if he goes too far, introduce your boyfriend to him and make him die.

But don't let the three of you know that you arranged it on purpose when you meet, he feels that it is best to meet unintentionally.

Tell the truth and be honest with him how you feel about him.

Let him know how much your boyfriend loves you.

Make him feel like your boyfriend loves you more than he does.

Another lost one.

Let's be honest, college love is fast food love. The variables are relatively large, and I can't pour any cold water on your love if you are very firm, but let me tell you that the 7-year wait has definitely risen to a certain level.

Time can make him forget everything!!

If you don't want to do that, you have to reconsider whether you want to reject him!!

College love is fruitless!

It depends on what kind of thing you refuse, if you are not capable enough and are not willing to help, you recommend to him, someone who can help him more, or provide ideas to help him, the other party has a better choice, and will not ask for you, which is equivalent to you rejecting him, and he may still be grateful to you. Rejecting someone is not telling a lie, but forming empathy with him and coming up with a better way for him, which is equivalent to helping him in another way, but there is no problem of refusal.

I think rejection is also divided into objects, if it's a boy, the kind of dead skin that pesters you, you should directly refuse, and the euphemism seems to him that it is still possible, which will only make you more annoyed. If it's a thin-skinned girl, it may be a little more tactful, such as I don't want to fall in love and just want to study hard, and then we are not suitable or something. The most direct and crude reason for wanting the other party to break off thoughts is that you already have someone you like, or you have a girlfriend.

If it's a little more excessive, you can just say that you don't meet my criteria for choosing a mate. First, I would like to express my sincere gratitude to him for his confession.

I think it's a thankful thing to be appreciated and seen, so even if I don't like him, I'll still be very, very grateful to him for letting me know, in addition, everyone who confesses to you may have been entangled and worried for a long time before confessing to you, maybe a lot of drafts, maybe tearing a whole handful of petals uneasily, or throwing a coin with only two sides back and forth many times, In the end, I was able to muster up the courage to say those few words to you that seemed simple but made him ponder for a long time, so everyone who confessed first was a very brave person.

In addition, everyone has a time when they can't ask for it, in this world, feng shui takes turns, so try to make them feel better from their point of view, and have more kindness.

Second, tell them directly that we may not be lovers, but it is not because you are not good enough, it is just that we are not suitable for a "romantic relationship".

If they want to find out the reason behind it, tell them, just like some people don't like to eat mangoes, but you can't say that mangoes are not delicious enough, because maybe in the eyes of mango fans, mangoes are the most delicious fruit in the world, it has a lovely shape, bright color, unique fragrance, just the right taste and so on. But even though mangoes are delicious, some people just don't like them, why don't they like it, there is no reason, and some people don't like it like it, and there is no reason.

So, even if I say I don't like you and I say I can't promise your confession, you're still just as good, and you don't have to be frustrated because you don't like me. You say what you think, and I'd better say what I really feel, and we're all just going to follow our hearts.

Third, be kind and generous in your blessings.

Please don't stay with me, because I have clearly told you my wishes, you are not the person I like, so please continue to move forward with your head high, I wish you to find someone who is on the same frequency as you, and find someone who can bend forward and respond to this like, and can go both ways with you. There must be such a person, and I'm still looking for it, so we all have to work hard.

In short, I have always firmly believed that liking and being liked should not become a bargaining chip between people, and you can't rely on being liked to be high and inexplicably have some superiority, nor can you feel inferior and extremely humble because you like it.