If I want to be close to him, how can I say it tactfully?

Say it directly: What would you do if there was a girl who wasn't pretty like you? Pretending to be shy. And then said: I've always cared about you. The old face is red. Bow your head and be silent.

Agree with the upstairs, find an opportunity to get drunk, preferably very drunk but not so much that you can't wake up from sleep, and grasp it yourself. Truth be told, this is the most useful. Well, I feel guilty to say this.

Wow, just use your charm and he'll listen to you.

You're too cheap, just say it's okay, or just take it off.

Just make an excuse.

Sweat...

Brother: When you send her a message, does she reply to your message? If it is, you can go a little further with her (if she doesn't object), but try not to show a clearer purpose!

In such a situation, if she can still be with you like before, it means that he is not annoyed by you! You can also go further, occasionally show that you care about her, and make a little joke with her when you're fine!

If she still doesn't bother you, you can show that you care about her but don't be very direct!

In the future, you can skewer her hand indirectly, and then inadvertently hold her hand (if she's not stupid, a girl knows what it means), and then you can tell her what you think when you're alone when you're alone!

What does it mean that it's not time to confess? Don't you dare? Do you know what she thinks? Are you sure she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you? Are you sure that if you confess to her, she will ignore you?

Young people, if you really like her, just say it directly, say it sincerely, don't be afraid that she will ignore you after saying it, generally girls don't hate boys who like them. What's more, you're still good friends. Then impress her with action.

According to your description, your sweetheart doesn't like to listen to sweet words.

Of course, she may reject you, ignore it, and if she refuses, don't mention it again. Usually use more actions to prove that you love her silently. You just have to wait for her to be moved.

There is no need to hint that love can't stand up to suspicion, it's better to be direct, it's best to be in the limelight Such a man is the most courageous!

"Would love to be able to send you home every day, in the days to come"

I hope that if I have a child in the future, I can call you mom (or the person closest to you)."

When she hits you a**,"Last night, I dreamed of Yue Lao, and he said that the first woman who gave me ** today will be the most important person in my life"

Whenever I see my lover having a wedding, I am very envious, and I always think of you unconsciously, and I really want us to have a wedding on the same day! "

Be sincere, don't want to lose face, and express yourself completely. To put it bluntly, face-to-face can impress girls the most.

"I would love to know what your plans are after graduation, because I don't want to lose touch with you, and the main thing is to be closer to you, a little closer. "

You've been talking to her for so long, do you still need to hint Smart people know that she can't not know It's okay to just confess

If you're going to take the single-plank bridge, I'll go too.

A girl is very smart, she should be able to feel that you love her.

I love the feeling of being with you.

I can lend you a shoulder when you cry.

If you were Athena, I would like to be a Saint Seiya.

Create your own opportunities, and then without going against her wishes, try to get close, if it's normal to start a little bit of resistance, just try a few more times, and she'll accept you, in fact, she's just embarrassed, you have to take the initiative, a big man has to look like a big man, but don't force it, so she will dislike you, think you're just trying to get her body, etc.。。。 Take advantage of it, and I wish you early success.

Boys need to be bold and at the same time responsible. When she senses your sense of responsibility, it's easy to do.

Hello, I am Lemon Psychological Counselor-Teacher Liu Yihan, and I am also a special second-level psychological counselor of Lemon Psychological Counseling.

It can be seen that you are very troubled by the requests of your colleagues, and your colleagues are not grateful for your help, I feel very sorry for your situation, and it is really important to learn how to tactfully reject someone.

1.Don't wait for others to accept it

You don't have to convince others to accept or agree to your rejection.

You don't understand why I can't? Then I'll see how you can understand ......Such words will make others feel that you have the right to say "no" only if you convince them to agree with you.

If you have to explain to yourself every time someone asks you repeatedly, then you are giving the other person ultimate power。They don't have the final say, you have the final say.

"I know you don't agree, but it's my decision. ”

When your colleague asks for your help again, you don't have to make a lot of excuses for yourself or try to convince him, you have the right to accept it.

2.Accept the consequencesThe reaction of others to your rejection may cause you both to fall out unpleasantly, recognize and accept this.

If you continue to refuse help from a colleague, he is likely to have negative feelings towards you. When we reject someone, it's hard to have no impact on the relationship. Of course, your colleague doesn't care much about you himself, maybe he doesn't like you himself, and just treats you as a tool.

3.Don't ask if you can say no

Remember that you have the right to say "no" and that you don't need the other person's permission. If you ask for permission, they will feel that they are in control of your actions, not yourself.

Don't say, "If I don't ......."May I? Or, "Would you be unhappy if I rejected you?" ”

Refusal is your right, and no one can take away your control over your time. If you are constantly helped, you will fall into a state of fatigue and not benefit.

1. Don't say no right away: Saying no right away will make people think that you are an indifferent and ruthless person, and even think that you have prejudices against him.

2. Don't refuse easily: Sometimes if you reject others easily, you will lose many opportunities to help others and gain friendship.

3. Don't refuse in anger: Rejecting others in anger is easy to hurt others in language and make people think that you have no sympathy at all.

4. Don't refuse casually: If you refuse too casually, others will think that you don't value him, which is easy to cause disgust.

5. Don't refuse ruthlessly: Ruthless rejection means a cold expression, a stern tone, and no room for accommodation, which will make people embarrassed and even turn against each other.

6. Don't be arrogant in refusal: A domineering person with an arrogant attitude will never like to be close to him. Moreover, when he asks for something from you, and you refuse with an arrogant attitude, others will not accept it.

7. Be able to refuse tactfully: When you really have a last resort, if you can explain it tactfully and refuse with a tactful attitude, others will still be moved by your sincerity.

8. Refuse with a smile: When you refuse, you must be able to smile and have a solemn attitude, so that others can feel your respect and politeness to him, even if you reject it, you can accept it gladly.

9. There should be an alternative refusal: I can't help with what you asked me for, I will use another way to help you, so that he will still be very grateful to you.

10. Refuse to have a way out: At the same time, if you can provide other ways to help him come up with another way out, it will actually help him.

Ten. 1. Helpful refusal: That is, although you refuse, you give him some help in other ways, which is a kind of compassionate and intelligent refusal.

Answering this rejection method can be broken down into three steps. Usually thank the other party for the invitation in a tone of thanks; Then state the unacceptable reasons truthfully to obtain the understanding of the other party; Finally, I apologize and give psychological comfort.

For example, if someone asks you for help, if you don't want to, you can refuse: "I know you are my best friend, if you don't believe in me very much, you won't come to me, but I'm too busy, next time you ask me, I will do my best to help you." ”

For example, if you want to go back to your hometown for the New Year, you can refuse if your mother-in-law invites you to her house for the New Year: "Thank you for being old." But I'm not very good at cooking, I think I'll go back to my house for the New Year this year, learn how to cook with my mother, and go to your place next year for the New Year, when I behave well, and make you relaxed.

Roosevelt served as Secretary of the Navy before he was elected to the United States. One day, an old friend asked him about the Navy's secret plans to build a base on a small island in the Atlantic. Rosie Ford looked around, then asked in a low voice

Can you keep it a secret? The old friend thought that Roosevelt had told him to keep it a secret, so he said with certainty: "Of course."

Well," Roosevelt smiled and said, "I can too." ”

Your three tricks: Tip 1: Listen first, then say "no" When your colleagues make a request to you, they usually have some distress or worry in their hearts, worrying about whether you will refuse right away and whether you will give him a look.

Therefore, before you decide to refuse, you should first pay attention to listen to what he has to say, and the better way is to ask the other party to explain the situation and needs more clearly, so that you can know how to help him. Then show him that you understand his difficulties, and that you will do so if you change places. "Listening" can help the other person feel respected first, and when you tactfully express your rejection, it is also better to avoid hurting the other person's feelings or making people feel that you are coping.

If your refusal is due to an overwork, listening allows you to clearly define whether the other person's request is your job and whether it is part of your current priorities. Perhaps after listening carefully to his advice, you will find that assisting him will help you improve your work ability and experience. At this time, sacrificing a little of your leisure time to assist the other party while taking into account the current working principle is definitely helpful for your career.

Another advantage of "listening" is that although you reject him, you can suggest how to get appropriate support for his situation. If you can come up with a valid suggestion or alternative, the other person will appreciate you. Even finding more appropriate support under your guidance can do more with less.

Tip 2: Say "No" Gently and Firmly When you listen carefully to your colleague's request and think you should say no, say "no" gently and firmly. It's like the same pill, and the sugar-coated medicine is easier for people to eat.

Similarly, a tactful refusal is easier to accept than a direct "no." For example, when the other party's request is not in accordance with the company's or department's regulations, you should euphemistically express your work authority to let the other party know, and imply that if he helps himself, he will exceed the scope of his work and violate the company's relevant regulations. On the premise that his work is full and he can't help it, let him know the order of his work, and hint that if he helps him, he will delay his ongoing work and have a greater impact on the company and himself.

Generally speaking, when a colleague hears you say this, they will definitely retreat from the difficulties and then think of other ways. Tip 3: Be more caring and flexible In addition to making alternative suggestions when refusing, you should also take the initiative to care about the other party's situation after a while.

Sometimes rejection is a long process, and the other party will ask for the same from time to time. If you can turn passive into active care for the other party, and let the other party understand your own difficulties and positions, you can reduce the embarrassment and impact of rejection. When the situation on both sides improves, it is possible to meet the other's demands.

This proactive technique is especially important for business personnel, such as insurance companies, when they are unable to cooperate with customer requests. In the process of rejection, in addition to skill, you need to be patient and caring from the heart.

If it's just perfunctory, the other party can actually see it. In this way, sometimes it makes people feel that you are not sincere.

When the wise man refuses the other person, he will say, "Yes, I can understand why things are the way they are, but .......""You're not asking too much, it's ...... the problem"You're right, if I were in your place, I would say the same, but ......And when the fool refuses, he often says, "Your demands are too high for us to do."

No, why are you always like this, and if this continues, how can we cooperate ......"You're not doing it right, it's stupid......”

For example, if someone pursues you, you can say that I already have a partner and am about to get married. The other person can also congratulate you. That way everyone won't be embarrassed

Just kidding:

Is she anxious to care about her?

Then say: But it's my belief that I don't work during breaks or I don't want to work during breaks!

Or find someone else to help you.