I m just too ordinary I need some mental help .

Hehe, you just look back and think, how many Beijings are there in China? How many Tsinghuas are there? And how many so-called stars are there?

As for the look, hehe, if you look good, you look beautiful for a long time but you don't look beautiful, and if you look ordinary for a long time, you feel beautiful. If you don't believe it, you just take a picture of a long star every day, and in less than two days you will definitely be able to grow some defects in their faces.

In fact, when people stand at one height, they will always involuntarily raise their heads and look up to the next height.

It is precisely because of the ordinary that we have to create the extraordinary.

The extraordinary person you see, he was also ordinary before they were extraordinary.

What about ordinary backgrounds?

Work hard, believe that your ordinariness can also release a different brilliance, and rely on your own efforts to let those so-called extraordinary people take a look, so that they can see your extraordinary.

To look ordinary is to have a temperament (and you think now, maybe you don't feel ordinary when you're older, maybe you're handsome, ha, just like me), and the school you study in is ordinary and keeps silent, trying to change yourself, and grasping your weaknesses to strengthen. Learn more. For example, you must be able to sing, you must be able to dance, you must be strong, you must have good taste, you must have a skill (such as a guitarist or something), and most importantly, you must have a manly taste.

I remember a sentence in which an audience member was dissatisfied with the singer on stage, so he scolded:"If you are so ugly, you dare to come out and sing".

The singer laughed"At least more handsome than you, you will always be less masculine than me"Handsome is a demeanor, not a face.

You are too inferior, in fact, you are the same as other people, and you are unique in this world, think about the person who can have the same looks and thoughts as you, is there a second person in this world? So being the real you is more real than anything else. Even if you have the opportunity to meet those successful people, it doesn't mean that they are equally successful, so discover your strengths, plan your future well, make some achievements, and I think you will become an idol for others.

Afford to take it, put it down, be open-minded, and be content and happy.

Everything goes with the flow, neither humble nor arrogant, and no desire is rigid.

Answering hello dear, I have these understandings about the ordinary mind, the ordinary mind is to maintain a normal mentality, calm and calm, go with the flow, not impatient, not exaggerated, to check the things to be examined usually do, to check the things to be examined to be treated. Some people are impatient and nervous when it comes to the exam, but usually, they are lazy and lazy, and they don't take it seriously.

Ordinary mind is a psychological term, which is a state of mind for the development and change of things, which is mainly manifested in whether they succeed or fail to do something, and treat any unexpected results objectively and calmly. Ordinary heart does not require everyone to be negative in the face of success or failure, but requires us to actively strive for, but not demanding perfection, as long as you work hard, the key is to have a calm heart, just go with the flow.

Hope it helps you, dear.

Mentality indicates a person's mental state, as long as you have a good attitude, you can maintain a full mood every day. Good mentality, good luck to learn to adjust the mentality, with a good mentality work will have direction, as long as people do not lose the direction will not lose themselves. The quality of the mentality lies in the timely adjustment and cultivation of the usual time and the formation of habits.

So you should regulate yourself:

1.Less desire, 2Climb less, 3Mindset balance point, 4Contentment and happiness are more , 5Change what you can, accept what you can't, and don't lose yourself

6.Live according to your abilities and don't let other people's living conditions dictate your mood.

Life is a process, not a point. Life is about the process! Life lies in every day, and this every day is unique and cannot be repeated, so we should make every day, every minute of our own beauty, and happiness.

Admit the reality, insist that things are man-made, don't be too naïve, and see the world too beautifully; Don't be too pessimistic and look at the future in a dark light. Don't think too highly of yourself, or you'll be frustrated; Don't think too badly of yourself either, or you will lose confidence in life. Everyone's ability level is similar, and the key is how to bring it out.

It's okay to accept help from others, but don't expect help from others, everything is on your own. Do not seek praise from others, do not succumb to the accusations of others, do not please others, and do not seek sympathy from others. Once a decision is made, dare to bear the consequences, not be indecisive, complain, and shirk responsibility.

Be shrewd, but not tactful. It is someone else's right to believe, and it is someone else's right to discuss. Constantly cultivate your own interests, never satisfied, always fulfilling.

Be curious about everything, be a little more childish and naïve, and be less unwanted.

It is also a relief for people who do not cherish me to leave.

1.Maintaining a normal heart means not being arrogant or impatient, and doing things to enter the WTO with the heart of being born, and maintaining a normal heart means that under the pressure of modern life, there is still a mood to feel the dragon humiliation. Idle in front of the court flowers blooming and falling, looking at the sky outside the clouds and clouds Shu that is comfortable!

2.The so-called ordinary mind is nothing more than a state of mind in which we deal with the things around us in our daily lives. Ordinary mind should be a kind of "normality", which can only be possessed after a certain amount of cultivation, and it belongs to a kind of "philosophy of life" that sustains life.

As Mencius said, "Benevolence is the heart of man, and righteousness is the way of man." ”

Clause. 1. Doing good and not being attached is a normal heart: no matter what you pay or do good, if you have attachment, you will be hindered; With persistence, there will be something to look forward to. When expectations are disappointed, we will inevitably be disappointed, or even irritated and uneasy, and our hearts will not be at peace.

If one is able to do good deeds and give kindness to others, without asking for anything in return, without attachment to the mind, and attaining the three-wheeled body emptiness, the pure and equal mind without the giver or the receiver and without giving things is the ordinary mind.

Clause. 2. Fear of old age and death is a normal heart: the cycle of life and death is the common way of the universe, people will inevitably get sick, face aging, and even the coming of death, can be fearless, not upside down, unhindered, and at ease, so-called: Death is the beginning of life, and life is the preparation for death; Life has not tasted life, and death has not tasted death.

This is called the normal mind.

Clause. 3. It is normal to ignore losses: there is a saying: Learning to suffer losses can cultivate virtue.

Sometimes it is not a bad thing to suffer a loss, you can accumulate life experience from the loss, and from the loss, you can learn to give in to the world. Especially when people get along with others, it is inevitable that there will be injustice and indebtedness. Being able to ignore and compare when suffering losses is a normal mind.

Clause. Fourth, adversity is not annoying is a normal heart: the so-called: the moon has no sun, and people have no sun.

When we encounter the state of disobedience, we must be able to see our worries clearly, let go of our worries, not dance with our worries, and deal with them calmly. It's like when you are competing, you always want to defeat your opponent, in fact, you have to defeat your opponent first, and to defeat yourself is not to be disturbed by the environment, not to be trapped by distracting thoughts, not to be moved by obedience, to forget about the opponent, to forget the victory or defeat, and to treat it with a natural attitude, which is the normal mind.

I can help you if you need it.

I'm not, but I can enlighten. But I've been a bit busy lately.

I don't know, you're going to ask about that.

The relationship between the environment and the mentality When I was in high school, I was in contact with a group that had not yet distinguished the advantages and disadvantages Your ability may be from the tip Plus the energetic psychology of your youth So I feel better Go to college and study for a master's degree People who are exposed to comparison are more and more outstanding Ordinary people have been eliminated Only the excellent ones are left to compare Psychological pressure I feel that I am ordinary.

In fact, who is not an ordinary person Self-feeling is just that everyone has a different life and a different path We are all ordinary passers-by on this road It lies in how we look at ourselves and others The heart is enthusiastic No matter how ordinary you are, you can find something unusual The heart is light, and no matter how extraordinary it is, it is very ordinary.

In high school, everyone has their own dreams and believes that they can achieve them if they work hard. When I was an undergraduate, it was not as mixed as in high school, there were all high-achieving students here, all of them were on the same starting line, everyone came from a single-plank bridge that had experienced high-level recruitment, and how the achievement was only looked at four years later. At the same time, in the face of the reality of employment into the society, I have the idea that I feel very ordinary, in fact, as a member of 6 billion people, everyone is very ordinary, but they all have their own strengths, believe that they work hard, and success belongs to you.

Finally, I would like to send you a word: character determines fate, details determine success or failure, and self-confidence achieves the future!

I don't want to pay for foreign Chinese diplomas, and there is a reason why the society doesn't want to hear a doctorate or something before and think it's great, but now people's perception is a little higher than that of the university, the diploma is important, but in the end the society looks at ability, experience, technology, and you are mature and not simply not the frog at the bottom of the well

Today's society is a society of power and money, education is only a part, the so-called high place is not cold, the higher your education, the higher the psychological burden of feeling more demanding of yourself, adjust your mentality.

The more knowledgeable the thoughts and emotions are, the more mature they will be, and the more mature the person will be, the more realistic they will be!

Because you haven't explored the details around you, it means that your thinking level is getting higher and higher.

This requires understanding why you feel that you are "becoming more and more ordinary" and what is this "very ordinary" feeling?

It may be normal, or it may be the cause of some heart knots. If you don't have specific contact, you can't judge.

Huh....Everyone has what they are good at and what they are not good at, and there are many people who are good at the same thing as you

The so-called human desire is a bottomless pit -- that's how it is.