Is it good to live together before getting married

Updated on society 2024-05-16
10 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Not good! It is definitely not because of conservative thinking that I say this, although there are pros and cons to trying to marry before marriage. But the disadvantages are greater than the advantages, and the trial marriage can also be said to use the body as an experiment to verify whether a relationship is suitable, if you don't fall in love.

    will suffer physical and mental damage, as well as how to explain to her future husband, it will inevitably leave a big or small shadow. If it's the first time, I advise you to leave the best things for your future husband or wife, this kind of precious thing can't be bought with money, and now most young people don't have this qualification, although you can fake it, is that meaningful? Because of the loss, you understand its preciousness, and the person who loses will not say that it hurts, but will only find a better reason to cover up the mistake.

    I'm sure deep down they have said they regret it countless nights.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    When I first lived together, I just thought that two people could be together and take care of each other. At least when I was sick, someone was watching and comforting. At first, they respected each other like guests, and after living together for a little longer, the problem came.

    The shortcomings of the previous time when I didn't live together were exposed little by little, such as being stingy, not getting used to living habits, laziness, not liking housework, and ......money problemsAnyway, after living together, which I usually don't think about, it's an accountant. Then we started arguing, and when I lived with my girlfriend, we had a lot of fights, up to four times a week. I also want to break up because we don't get along with each other.

    But I didn't have this determination, and after the quarrel, I either fought in the cold war or ran away from home, but when I saw my girlfriend's tears come out, no matter how firm my determination was, it turned into a bubble. These problems will definitely arise when you get married, and it's better to quarrel when you live together than to get divorced after you get married, right? So I think it's better to live together, as the saying goes, living together is a trial marriage.

    Makes sense.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Cohabitation, feel good.

    Thought you could find out what each other in life was like before you got married.

    For the time of marriage, I did a run-in in advance.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Cohabitation is irresponsible for feelings, and marriage is the greatest guarantee for marriage.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    It can only be said that it is easy to change from person to person, and there is no determination of good or bad.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Premarital cohabitation is not necessary.

    First, did your parents live together before marriage, and did every couple in society live together before marriage? No, so if both parties agree, they can live together, but it can't be said that this is "necessary", otherwise, people who don't live together will get married without meeting the necessary conditions. Then there is a heavenly reason.

    Second, some people will say that living together before marriage can test whether two people's living habits and values are suitable, and I, as a person who has come over, will tell you responsibly. The question that cohabitation can try out 1234, you will find out 56789 why cohabitation didn't try out after marriage. And the question is, what is the 1234 you tried to live together, you can't wash your socks, you don't snore, if you think in your heart that you can't or are unwilling to adjust to these things, then you can break up directly and don't need to get married.

    Because after marriage there will be more you don't want to. That is, you can indeed try to find some problems in cohabitation, but these problems do not matter even if they are found after marriage, because two people choose to live together, and these differences are what you should have to run into. If you don't want to run in, you can break up without cohabitation.

    Third, and crucially, cohabitation, especially for women, has limited benefits but high risks. Why do people feel that they can't live together if they are "not right". Because once they live together, they don't get married and break up in the end.

    The impact on both parties is not the same, usually it has more impact on the woman, and it has almost no effect on the man (don't argue about how it affects the man, even if it is, it doesn't mean no) but the other party may feel that there is no obvious benefit. That person's wishes need to be respected, why do you want to speed up the process, you can't understand if others don't cooperate.

    There will be many people who tell you that they have lived together, and in the end they find that there are differences, everyone runs in, and now they are doing well, for these stories, in fact, they can't prove anything, these people who are willing to run in can also run in after marriage. Someone will tell you that you live together, find that you can't bear the problem, break up decisively, and fortunately not get married. Except for the special case of medical history, I would like to ask these people, whether it is violent tendencies, bad personality, disrespect for women, or bad habits, what are you usually doing?

    You've developed to the point where you want to live together, and you only see that this person has a bad personality? Co-author: You guys are netizens, and you went to live together the next day, right? Usually spend so much time together, you can also go out to travel, and you may have met the parents of both sides, and you also have a certain understanding of ...... families on both sidesDon't you have to live together and don't know what this person is like?

    You really want to get to know someone, and it's never necessary to live together.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Sanmao once said: Love, if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money, it will not last long if you burp, fart, pick your ears, and have a runny nose in front of your lover.

    So what I'm going to talk about today is that before we get married, we don't have the need to live together?

    It seems that premarital cohabitation is indeed necessary in today's era when the divorce rate is not low, and there is a good saying: practice is the only criterion for testing truth. There is a certain probability of living together before marriage so that each other can see each other more clearly, and some contradictions can only be found when they get along day and night.

    If it comes naturally, I think it is possible to live together, but girls must pay attention to their own safety, not to get pregnant casually, let alone casually ** cause lifelong harm, girls must be weak in cohabitation life, this must always be remembered.

    The first condition for cohabitation is to get to know each other for a long time before you can have the idea of cohabitation. Only by living together can we fully understand each other, understand each other's good and bad. After living together, the impulse and enthusiasm have slowly subsided, so as to show your heart whether you love or like each other, or just have a good impression of each other.

    This is very important, love is the foundation of building a family and marriage, and only by loving each other can we get through all the tribulations in marriage. in order to feel happiness in a long marriage.

    Marriage must maintain the dynamic balance of material, spiritual, and physical conditions, and cohabitation relationships can enable both parties to better experience whether there is a spiritual common pursuit, and the tempering of time after getting along, revealing the contradictions between two people, how to solve the boring and even ugly side. It's hard to experience in a relationship, and cohabitation can help you discover if you can achieve the beauty of all three.

    When two people really live together, after removing each other's disguises, both parties can see each other's most real life conditions. It is certainly beautiful when you are in love, but after peeling off this coat, it is more important whether both parties can share the responsibility of trivial matters such as firewood, rice, oil and salt in life.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Answer this question based on your question. First of all, you should live together before marriage. If some couples try to live together around the clock, then many of the problems that they don't see when they get together once a week will also surface, and if they don't get along, they can be cut off as soon as possible.

    The first thing is to get a full picture of your partner's personality traits, which is not possible without living together. There's no better way to get to know someone than by living together. It's easier to bring out the best in a person on a three-hour date than for two people to be under the same roof day after day; By living with him, you can expose some of his habits, attitudes, and behaviors that are not known to outsiders.

    You can see when he's tired, sick, angry, frustrated, and anxious, and you can grasp the full picture of the other person's emotional reaction.

    Secondly, you can find out if your lifestyle is compatible. There are men who are great lovers but bad husbands. Some women are only suitable for being a happy couple, but not for being a wife.

    You may love someone but hate living with them. Drives you to fall in love with someone and enjoy the pleasure of dating them, but once you live together, there is no guarantee that you will be able to get along together. You may find that the other person's lifestyle does not match yours, which is impossible to know unless you live in the same place for a long time.

    It is best to find out if your partner is capable of getting along. Living together, two unique individuals need to reconcile their habits and desires, share power and control, compromise and be flexible, and you can't know how capable they are unless they live together. Only if you have to make decisions about finances, food, family responsibilities, etc.

    The above is my ability to help friends in need.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    In the past, I thought it was okay, maybe because I didn't meet the right person, but now I think it's okay, maybe I want to know if he is the right person.

    I think it's necessary, mainly because of living habits, just find a roommate, some problems can be exposed at this stage, and there is no need to wait until you get married and regret it, after all, it's difficult to divorce now.

    It's still not necessary, leave a little mystery, but also keep a little yourself, if the freshness is gone, it's easy to separate.

    It is necessary, in case you find out that it is not appropriate to live together after marriage, it is like money falling on, it is a pity not to pick it up, and it feels disgusting to pick it up.

    Respect your own ideas, do what you think is right, and don't do what you think is wrong.

    2w people stated. Yes. No.

    Mad. Why is there no pure friendship between men and women? [laughs and cries].

    Young. If a friend of the opposite sex is pure friendship, he should not hide it from his spouse, and if he hides it, it will be sour.

    Lift. I'm a woman, and I can do pure friendship with the man I like, I'm rational, but so far I haven't found such a man, I'm afraid they won't be able to do it. is willing to be a woman in the men's pile, and doesn't want to play tricks in the women's pile.

    Hair. I'm a man, but I only make female friends, because of gender, I will definitely not be honest with me, but I will not tear my face, and the contradictions between the same sex have no scruples, but are more dangerous.

    Sky. Really, no, I'm a girl, and my male friends are pure friendships, the kind without the slightest distraction.

    Dye. Between men and women, there is rarely a true pure friendship, most of them are with the help of other relationships, step by step, and finally confess in the case of inseparability.

    Pander to. I'm very sluggish, I don't have any other ideas, and my boyfriend and I still have a good friendship.

    Solid. Pure friendship with friends of the opposite sex is very rare, I have experienced, good relationships are really rare.

    Tyrant. It's a public issue, and it depends on the individual, and some people are not pure friendship if they are not pure in heart, and some people are pure friendship when they are right in their heart.

    Ink. In the past, people's hearts were beautiful, their thoughts were pure, they helped each other, their material desires were low, and they paid more attention to the spiritual level. But in today's high-tech development, electronic equipment and communication in a proliferating society, at the moment of materialism, we can't let go of a lot of money, rights and related interests, to pursue the spiritual world of wealth, so that the wounded soul slowly returns to its original position, it is impossible to return to such a pure friendship between men and women, really, the divorce rate will not continue to climb like this.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think it's necessary, but there are a few things that have already been met before cohabitation.

    1. Both parties are engaged or both parents have met and agreed to this family business.

    2. Both parties have decided to get married and have planned a time.

    3. It's okay to live together for three months, don't take too long.

    4. Don't let both parents know about cohabitation.

    I know that some people will doubt the above points, and I will also say that I am still so conservative and feudal in the 21st century, so let's take a look at the root of this problem, why live together, cohabitation is to understand each other's living habits at a deeper level, three months is enough time to understand whether the various habits of TA are acceptable to you, I have seen a divorce case before, because the way the two parties squeeze toothpaste is different, one squeezes from above, one from below, and then neither party will let it, and it will be divorced.

    This is just one of the things, other things like sleepwalking, not brushing your teeth and washing your feet before going to bed, smoking in the room, often being called out by friends to drink and coming back unconscious and incapable of doing anything other than vomiting, are you okay with all of this?

    Marriage is made up of trivial things, compared to a person's life, married life is more down-to-earth, and cohabitation is to pave the way for future married life, not to let people only enjoy the pleasure of possessing each other without responsibility, are not protected by the law, or do less.

    Finally, don't let the parents of both sides know that the matter of cohabitation, no matter what, is still more unfriendly to girls, not to mention that it perishes early in the morning, girls are always the disadvantaged group, China's thousands of years of traditions and habits, not overnight, nor can it be changed in time to the 21st century, and the preference for sons over daughters cannot be changed, let alone others.

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