I quarreled with my husband, but it was actually caused by my petty nature

A woman's willfulness, a little temper, is actually very hurtful, if a man doesn't love you, he won't feel any harm to him at all, they all say that men have to endure, but men are also people, men also have grievances, fragile side, women in the temper, often ignore his man is actually very uncomfortable in his heart, for a long time, when a man endures to a limit, he will make his choice, if this man does not love you, he will go to find someone else and a woman to make up for it, or break up with you, but if he loves you, All he can do when he's sad is not to talk to you, smoke alone, stay up late, but his heart is waiting, waiting for your comfort, waiting for you to smooth the wounds in his heart...

Whoever marries the guy on the 2nd floor is unlucky. In fact, quarrels are the spice of life, and small quarrels will enhance feelings, but there must be a limit. For example, if he is in a good mood, you can play petty, it doesn't matter, but if he is already very busy and tired, and you have to mess with him for small things, he will think that you are not sensible and not a good wife

Hello fygwtt:

The strength of the heart is the most important thing to be happy and good to be happy to live a happy life Reject superstition and believe in science.

I really hate women like you, I'm going to leave you, see if you're still arrogant! Your husband is really not good, why don't you beat you up so hard that your nose is blue and your face is swollen! Let's see if you dare to play.

Loving to beat people is generally a personality problem, this is determined by innate genes, and the acquired education and cultivation may restrain this nature to a certain extent, but your husband is already an adult, and then persuade him to accept education and improve his self-cultivation, it is unlikely.

And you didn't mention who your husband hits. If it's domestic violence, either you are better at fighting than your husband, conquer him by force, and if he can't beat you, you will be obedient, which is in line with the primitive instinct of all animals. A group of animals, why the animals below obediently listen to the words of the leader, is because the leader conquered them by force, simple and rude.

But if you are not an athlete or a black belt xx dan, it is basically impossible to conquer your husband by force. So, you either can't stand it and divorce him. Either you have to suffer like this.

If your husband loves to hit people outside, it is normal for the person who is beaten to let him be educated accordingly. So you generally don't have to worry too much about this. After the accident, you should pay for it, and you should go in, you don't take the initiative to shield your husband, let him be punished accordingly, and he should be obedient a few more times.

Of course, if your father is Li Gang, or your husband is looking for soft persimmons to pinch, I can only say karma, and the crime will be repaid one day.

Are you bothered by this reason now? You can indirectly tell him that this is a palliative and not a cure, and that the relationship will get worse and worse. Now it's all about money, if someone wants to beat me, then I will definitely not fight back, and I will lose money when it's over, no matter who is right or wrong, as long as I do it, it is not right.

And sometimes the contradiction will be more intensified, take myself as an example: some time ago because of some work and colleagues in the company conflict, this colleague spoke very politely, I reasoned with him, and then he got angry and wanted to do it, but I avoided it, and after a while I went to him to explain the matter, and finally he apologized to me, and also realized that his behavior was seen as a joke by others.

It is difficult for a person with a hot temper to fundamentally change, but it is necessary to tell him to try to be restrained, because "one anger reduces three Lu" and "evil words take three blessings", and those who are angry will have many stumbles in their careers, and there will be few fortunes and nobles. And "endure humiliation and blessing", this ordinary person does it a lot. and anger hurts the liver.

Liver damage is hyperimpotence, which is easy to cause cerebral congestion or stroke. It is especially important to pay attention to middle-aged and old age.

You have to fight poison with poison, and you will also make noise with him because of small things (don't be too ruthless), and after a long time, he will think that you are naïve, and when he says that you are naïve, you also reply: Learn from you. In this way, he will associate himself with his own shortcomings.

This still has to be communicated well, and the boy is a bit late-blooming.

Showdown, change it immediately. Otherwise, divorce decisively.

Read less. Naïve indeed. You don't look like a very naïve girl when you speak, how can you fall in love with such a boy?

I suggest you don't tell your husband, lest you even do it when the time comes.

You and your husband are still students, right? Then there's no need to say it, everyone is scattered, there is no solution to this problem.

This kind of person does not leave for the New Year?

3. All of them are impatient and impulsive, and they can find something for him to do and hone their temperament. Let him learn the tea ceremony, so that he can cultivate his health and promote his health. Usually stay in some quiet environments, and after a long time, the personality will become gentle and calm.

First of all, it can't be said that it is to hone your husband's temperament, it is estimated that as soon as you say it, he should be anxious with you. You have to take a roundabout approach and don't let him see through your thoughts, otherwise you'll really get half the effort.

You can also buy some books for your husband to read, and you usually take him to more bookstores, flower shops, coffee shops, and dessert shops. Visiting quiet places more often can be regarded as an environmental influence, a subtle change. This will also avoid the probability of conflict to a certain extent, after all, people who love to go to these places will have a quieter personality and generally won't do it, your husband should not be the kind of unreasonable person, or more impulsive, so no problem.

I think these methods are still feasible, you can try them together.

I think you can try to change him, although his personality is not easy to change, but at least you can change the way he behaves in the world, so that he doesn't want to use violence to solve problems so much.

In addition to that, ask him to think about how bad it is to solve problems with violence and how serious the consequences are. I believe that since he used violence all the time in the past, he has also tasted the pain of using violence to solve problems. Hitting someone is a bad thing after all, whether you beat someone or not, or whether it is serious or not, but as long as you hit someone, you will feel that you are wrong, no matter what the matter is, it is always wrong to hit someone first, so this does not play a role in solving the problem, not only can not help but also help.

And beating someone means that you will be beaten, and you will definitely not feel good when you are beaten, if the beating is serious, it will not be worth it, in case he really beats something, it is not necessary to affect you and the child, why do you want to hurt others and yourself like this, I think he will definitely correct it if he stops like this.

In addition to finding a way to correct him, there is also to suppress him, when something bad happens, you have to control him first, and then deal with this bad situation yourself, and let him see how you have to deal with it, when he sees that you didn't use violence but handled it very well, he will feel that he can still deal with it like this, so it is very simple, and it is very easy to deal with.

It's not that you think his behavior is naïve, it's that he's really naïve!

You're all married, and you often fight, haven't you ever thought about how your family will live if you really fight with someone else one day? Haven't you ever thought that if something happens one day, you will be left alone?

Second, tell your in-laws that after all, they are their sons, how can they fight with others every day? So tell your parents-in-law and let them talk about their son, you can't always fight with others!

Third, the next time your husband fights with others, you cry, and the woman can't help her husband when he fights, and she doesn't want him to fight, at this time you can use it, the girl's unique secret**, as soon as you cry, the next time he fights, he will think of you crying, and he may solve the problem in a civilized way!

Since you think his behavior is childish, it depends on what you plan to do? First of all, he loves violence to solve problems, which is inseparable from his impatient personality. So since he is such a character, if you persuade him and warn him in a bitter way, he will definitely not listen.

I guess you should be a woman who can't control his character, otherwise you wouldn't have a headache because of his childish behavior. For a man with such a violent personality as him, his behavior can only be changed if his own thoughts and subjective consciousness are changed. Otherwise, anything anyone else says won't affect him.

Since you can't get him to listen to you or stop him in the right situation. Then you have to use some methods to slowly influence him. Otherwise, sooner or later, something big will happen, and you will be afraid every day, and you will not be stable.

I think you can show him more films about impulsiveness and violence at the right time, or when he's in a good mood. You can also often pay attention to and search for some typical cases of deeds in this area. It's the kind that is very enlightening, and you talk to him on the side while you are chatting before bed.

Instill in him some tragic facts about violent solutions to problems and serious consequences, so that he will subconsciously form fear and regret. In this way, he will be able to think more about impulsive events in the future. It's not an overnight thing, since he's such a character himself.

Then it is certainly not easy to change him completely. As a wife, you also need to do a lot of homework in this regard. If you work hard and hard enough to influence him, shed some tears appropriately, and let him worry and pity, then I think he will definitely be restrained and scruples in dealing with things in the future.

You can help him correct his bad habits, every time he is angry, you can help him control this emotion, let him silently recite ten numbers in his heart, and the person will be able to calm down at the point where he gets through the most anger.

You should talk to your husband privately about the inappropriateness of these behaviors, and let your husband try to change them.