Why people like to be praised is it their nature .

It's vanity at work. Meaning: Vanity is a misunderstanding of self-esteem, a psychology that pursues glory and brilliance on the surface.

Performance: People with a lot of vanity often use fame and fortune as an internal motivation to govern their actions, and they always care about what others say about them. Once others deny themselves a little, they think that they have lost their so-called self-esteem and cannot stand it.

Hazards: Bad with physical and mental health.

Do: Overcome vanity, self-esteem and self-love.

I'm the representative of the politics class, and I've given you all the original words in the book and the teacher's notes. The dictionary definition of vanity is: superficial glory, false honor.

Psychology believes that vanity is a kind of distorted self-esteem, an excessive manifestation of self-esteem, a character defect that pursues hypocrisy, and an abnormal social emotion that people show in order to achieve honor and attract universal attention.

In daily life, everyone has self-esteem, people want to be recognized by society, people with strong self-esteem are more concerned about their reputation, prestige, etc., and people with strong vanity generally have strong self-esteem.

From the perspective of individual psychology, the reasons for vanity are as follows:

First, the concept of face driven. Love face is a national psychology that is common in Chinese society, face behavior reflects the feelings and needs of Chinese respect and self-esteem, losing face means denying their talents, which is absolutely unacceptable, so some people in order not to lose face, through the way of "slapping a swollen face and filling a fat man" to show themselves.

Second, it is related to the tendency to dramatize personality. Most people who love vanity are extroverted, impulsive, repeatedly fickle, and contrived, with strong and strong emotional reactions, pretentious, lacking real emotions, and showing off themselves in dealing with others, and being restless. Behind vanity is a deep psychological defect such as low self-esteem and weakness.

People with strong vanity are often unwilling to do things in a down-to-earth manner, but often use abnormal means such as lying and speculation to fish and hunt for reputation. They talk about pomp and comparison in terms of material; Be socially showy; In terms of personality, he is very conceited and jealous; Don't study hard.

Because there are two major weaknesses in human nature: vanity and self-esteem. Especially children, who don't know how to disguise, will be very happy to hear that they are praised and that they have been greatly affirmed.

And when a girl hears that she is being praised, she will feel that she has received the attention of others, and she will also be affirmed for her beauty, and she will be quite happy when her beauty is magnified in front of others.

This is the cause of the environment is also its own problem, as long as it is not too like to be praised, it is normal, if a person is too fond of being praised is vanity, it is a psychological problem, people need to be concerned, one of the ways to be concerned is to get their own views in the eyes of others from the mouths of others.

Man is born destined to think about survival, and on this basis, there are all kinds of practical behaviors, and after practice, people always want to know the results of their actions, and always wish that the results are good or what they want--- so that there is a strong will (whether explicit or implicit) for others to affirm themselves - unless it is a fool! Preference to be praised is just a manifestation of this will.

Because we want to be recognized, we want to be important in the hearts of others.

Check out Dale Carnegie's The Weakness of Human Nature

No one likes to be scolded every day, right?

Although some people like to hear the truth, if you praise him twice, he won't scold you, right?

How many more people can tell the truth in this society now? Praise others just wait to pat Ma Pi, but don't overdo it, just stop in moderation!

Need others to identify with you and be appreciated and supported by others Long live understanding.

Praise is the least valuable ,,, kind of receiving.

When we analyze the essence, it is actually the mutual growth of interests.

And praise can make us confident ,,, confident in the decisions we make.

However, if you talk too much, you will lose yourself, become obsessed with the words of others,,, forget your own will.

Therefore,,, it is necessary to be a sober self.

Other people's praise, we smile and don't have to be too persistent.

The son of the night is indoctrinated.

Many motivational books mention that one of the techniques for interacting with people is to praise others sincerely. In layman's terms, it is to praise others more, and to praise the point. Such as a special experience, outstanding work performance, hobbies and specialties, personality traits, family background, hometown climate, etc. may become the object of praise from others.

Especially many small details, others may not have paid attention to themselves, and you find that the effect will be very good if you praise it at the right time. Facing strangers can effectively open the topic, especially when talking to an unfamiliar leader, talk more about his work experience, and humbly ask for advice, which will generally get a positive response, and even make the leader start to pay attention to you. Praise between acquaintances and friends, even between husband and wife, will make the relationship closer and the relationship more harmonious.

Praise for colleagues or subordinates, such as praising him for doing some work well, except for him no one else can do so well, etc., can mobilize his enthusiasm for work and get his sincere help.

However, I'm a bit stubborn, and I don't like to talk to someone I hate when I see him. Even if it is a leader, I don't want to flatter, it seems that I have to change. Praise the people around us a lot, look at all people and things with a praising eye, and a harmonious society is all around us.

Because everyone wants to be affirmed, liked, and considered the best.

When others praise themselves, it is a kind of affirmation of themselves, and of course they are happy.

Human nature - not satisfied.

Human beings are the cells of society and the basic elements of social harmony. Therefore, if we have a correct understanding of the nature of human beings, then this understanding will inevitably be of great help and benefit to our correct understanding of human beings, human beings, and society.

I believe that human nature is dissatisfied, that is, the fundamental difference between man and animal - at the beginning of man, he was not satisfied.

The most direct evidence of the idea that at the beginning of man, "dissatisfied" is that animals are well fed and drunk, and in addition to playing (mainly juvenile animals), they are generally very satisfied, or walking, or lying still (standing), or napping, and don't.

There is no thirst for it; But people are completely different, people are full of food and drink, they are not satisfied, they are idle, they always have nothing to do, they will always look for new desires, in order to obtain new satisfaction.

The opposite example also proves the correctness of the theory of "unsatisfied at the beginning": that is, when a person's unsatisfied nature is suppressed for a long time, the human nature will gradually decline or even disappear (especially when he is young).

children). There are many such examples, for example, a prisoner who has been sentenced to a long prison sentence often appears to be somewhat demented when he is released from prison because of the suppression of his dissatisfied nature for a long time (a person with severe dementia is no longer human).

The unsatisfied nature has no thirst in the heart); The most typical and direct example is the story of the "sheep child", which is a specially produced program of ** TV station, which should be true and unquestionable, so what conclusions can we draw from it? I believe that this fact further verifies the theory of human nature that "people are not satisfied at the beginning".

When the "little lamb child" was born, he was definitely an ordinary person with the nature of a human being, but due to the wrong behavior of his grandmother, the "little lamb child" was tethered to a tree for many years and was accompanied by the sheep for a long time, resulting in "little lamb."

The unsatisfied nature of the "little lamb child" was imprisoned and numb, and finally the original human nature of the "little sheep child" was obliterated, resulting in the "little sheep child" becoming a "non" normal person, without the ability to think, and even unable to learn human words.

The evolutionary history of human beings also provides a brief proof that human nature is not satisfied. The reason why human beings are different from ordinary animals is due to the unsatisfied nature of human beings. Due to the dissatisfaction of human beings, it has led to human thirst (knowledge) and practical desire, which has led to the continuous development and progress of human beings themselves, so that human beings can stand out from the general animal species and become the current human beings; Other animals, because they are easily satisfied, make progress with difficulty or slowly.

Some people say that at the beginning of human beings, their nature is good, if human nature is good, then do they still need people to use various methods to persuade and instill good thoughts? Therefore, at the beginning of human beings, it is not that they are inherently good, but that they are not satisfied.

Human nature is like a seed, in different living circumstances, driven by dissatisfaction, it is constantly growing, thus forming good people, evil people, selfish people, and so on.

People's dissatisfaction will inevitably lead to people's thirst for satisfaction.

Xunzi said that the original nature of human beings is evil, Mencius said that the initial nature of human beings is good, the two philosophers do not have a quasi-spectrum, I think people have no nature, personal character changes with the environment, each person's environment is different, the personality is different, people Shakyamuni has everything since childhood, and as a result, people have practiced, and it does not necessarily mean that human nature is more selfish and more desired.

"At the beginning of man, nature is good" This is the nature of human beings, but with the influence of things and circumstances, some people have changed, and some people can stick to this nature.

Human nature is kind, and he will do whatever it takes to defend himself for the sake of life, and he is not as good as a pig or a dog!

As long as people have a correct understanding of their own capital, they can better coordinate the relationship between selfishness and public heart. Thus becoming a healthy, happy and socially beneficial person.

"Human beings are inherently good"; "The first belief of man is evil"! Everything is dialectical, and the key is how you choose!

Human nature should be good, in order to adapt to society, for the sake of everything, so people become no longer human.

Born with a blank slate, everyone is innocent and kind by nature.

First: everything must have an objective nature. This is the innate nature and the necessity of existence, which means that as long as it exists, countless failures and possibilities are ruled out, and the nature is inevitable to exist. The nature is unchanging, unborn and imperishable.

Second: Eliminate external interference, which is the first step.

Third: Eliminate internal distractions, which is the second step.

Fourth: After the goal is achieved, that is, after the medicine cures the disease, don't even take the medicine. Nature emerges.

It varies from person to person, some people like positive Mary Sue or Virgin-like characters, and some people will like blackened characters from a weak or realistic point of view, in the final analysis, these characters can arouse the rationality and resonance of what aspects of people are concerned, such as people who like blackening, their hearts will more or less agree with some more realistic practices (some immediate interests), this dark side has been suppressed for a long time, and they will want to get some sense of identity very much, and suddenly there is a negative textbook-style blackened role, and the sense of resonance will dominate.

Because people think that people are coolest when they're scary, just like young kids think it's cool to fight, it's just immature.

There is a feeling of venting, as if all the stress, anger is exploding at the same moment, enjoying the feeling of rebellion.

Of course, you think about it

Who doesn't love to be complimented?

But remember, compliments are not sycophants

Be just right, so it's up to you

Do it according to his character

Like my boyfriend just said to me all the time; You can't praise me. In fact, men also need to be praised.

In terms of human nature, everyone likes it, but everyone has their own opinions through the influence of nurture, some people like it, some people don't like it, and it varies from person to person.

Of course satisfaction and pride.

Individuals like to be affirmed and recognized by others, so boys are no exception.