I have a wife but am in love with a divorced woman older than me

Don't get carried away by the satisfaction of the so-called "big man" for a while......Do you still love your wife? Remember the promise you made when you married her? Don't just say you're in love with someone else. There is nothing wrong with love in itself, but don't hurt the ...... of the person you (were) loved with the gorgeous mask of "love".

Hopefully, you don't have a child ...... yet

If you really feel that you and your wife can't get along, then talk about it clearly ......Try to find a way to solve it with less harm, and deal with the child's problem ......The parents are divorced, and the children are the most pitiful!

You say she's not close to your family, but what about you? And her family? If you don't have much affection for her family, then you have no position to ask her to treat your family as she does to hers.

Anyway, let's talk about it, it's not a way to go on like this......good lucky！

I'm talking about divorce first.

Everything else is not responsible.

Love is irresistible, but you have to be sensible, you have to know what you have gained and what you have lost.

I'm curious, what does that feel like? Oh, if only the man I loved would fall in love with me.

If you don't have feelings, leave it, but you have to think about the child first.

Learn to control your feelings.

Personally, I think that the age of 36 is already middle-aged, in this case, you should be cautious if you want to divorce, although you have no feelings for your wife, but your wife loves you very much, you can see that in this matter, it is obvious that your wife is not at fault and responsible, so before you want to make a decision to break up and divorce, you should consider the following factors.

As the saying goes, a husband and wife for a hundred days, the husband and wife have been together for a long time, naturally have a certain feeling, when suddenly one day you find yourself tired of this marriage and want to propose a breakup and divorce, then it is very likely to make yourself experience a dull life for a long time so that you have some inability to accept it in your heart, which to a certain extent shows that you are a person who likes to pursue freshness and perfection, but you should realize that this idea is just a momentary impulse, If your heart is really dominated by such thoughts, and finally makes the decision to divorce, then after a period of time, you will inevitably have some chagrin and regret, and you will find that the life after the divorce is not what you really look forward to, what you really want to pursue, in this case, you want to redeem the former feelings, want to remarry with your wife, obviously the possibility is not very large, therefore, Instead of making you chagrin and regret in the future, it is better to think carefully and weigh now and make a choice and decision that is truly suitable for you.

Secondly, we should also realize that marriage is not child's play, there will be one or another shortcoming and deficiency in marriage between themselves and their blind lovers, and the husband and wife should try their best to understand and tolerate each other in the process of getting along in daily life, only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife be long-lasting, and at the age of 36, you are likely to have your own children, in this case, a hasty divorce has a relatively large impact on your children. It will cause a certain psychological shadow to the growth of your children, and you yourself admit that your wife loves you very much, so to a large extent, it also shows that the main problem lies in yourself, especially your own mentality has not been adjusted, so in this case, the first thing you have to do is to work hard to adjust your mentality, learn to be grateful and content, give up those unrealistic ideas and some excessive pursuits in your heart, only in this way can you change this impetuousness and impulsive thoughts in your heart.

Of course, if you think about it after careful consideration, you still think that the current marriage is unacceptable to you, then in this case, although your wife loves you very much, then such a marriage has no meaning for you to continue to maintain, but you must consider the pros and cons clearly, especially for two people after the divorce, you have to experience and face some things, you must have a basic understanding, to have a minimum of tolerance, after all, they are adults, Be responsible for your own life and choices.

The emotions of two people need to really love each other, if the two old gods can't touch the spark, it is a very sad thing Han Xiao, you should try to love her, after all, she loves you very much.

Then divorce, everyone is also miserable together, and letting go is good for both husband and wife.

Boy, born in the midst of blessings and not knowing blessings, I would rather find someone who loves you than someone you love.

Truth be told, very few parents agree with a 22-year-old guy marrying a woman who is 9 years older than him and has a child.

As a sincere persuasion, you should really leave her. There are many reasons, first of all, physiologically it is not suitable, when you are 40 years old, she is already 49 years old, which is almost the menopause of a woman, and a 40-year-old man is in his old age. Then she has a child, you want to be a stepfather at such a young age, have you thought about the difficulties of being a stepfather?

When you have another child with her, how do you balance the relationship? And you are only 22 years old, and you are not very experienced in all aspects of society, and she is 9 years older than you, and she has been married and had children, when you fell in love, she should have the initiative, but she let you fall into such depth, why don't you say that your parents don't have a deep prejudice against her?

Of course, if your love for her is uncomplaining (believe me above, your parents have already analyzed it for you), then you can only let time dilute all this, and slowly influence your parents--- such as asking your girlfriend to do everything possible to help your parents solve some practical difficulties.

It's easy to fall in love and hard to get along with. You need to be mentally prepared for this kind of complicated family relationship.

Get it first.,So that there will be no regrets.,And then slowly leave her.。。 If you can't soak it, don't think about it so much.