Bride price, feelings, where to go. 60

I am from Shanxi, and my opinion is that you can't live without her unless you have to, don't marry a Shanxi ......womanWe're patriarchal, really! The old people in Shanxi pay attention to raising poor children and rich daughters, and there may be this sentence in other places, but we really do this, not only money, but also other aspects. Boys have been strictly disciplined since childhood, and they are often beaten, while girls are completely different, and some families may not dare to scold, so women in Shanxi are very squeamish and selfish, especially between 85 and 90 years.

And we have a lot of rich people, and we want a bride price to be ruthless, buddy, you have to think about it carefully. The classmates in our hometown are looking for people from other places who have a good life.

We can talk, I'll help you! Leave you Q!

It's only been 3 months of dating, so it's a little early to talk about marriage.

Are you being a little too aggressive?

Love can only last for a while, not for a lifetime, and after the love period, I am thinking about getting married.

I want to marry a wife and I don't want to pay for it, there is no such good thing in the world

Maybe that's the reality!

In traditional culture, bride price has always been an indispensable part of marriage, but with the development of modern society, attitudes towards bride price have also changed. Some people believe that as long as there is a bride price, the marriage is secure, while others believe that the bride price is not a necessary condition for marriage. So, if there is no bride price, should you choose to get married?

1.Marriage is based on love and responsibility. Marriage should not be based on bride price or an exchange of money, but on feelings and responsibilities for each other. It is very important that two people can still love, support and live responsibly together without a bride price.

2.Marriage should be equal. For women, an overemphasis on the bride price can lead to them being seen as a commodity, as well as unfair representation of their status and role.

This notion is outdated, and modern marriage and family should be based on equality and respect.

3.Marriage should be based on rational decisions. Marriage is a life-long event, and decisions should be made based on one's preferences, personality, and interests, not on the size of the wedding or the value of the bride price.

If there is no bride price or there is a small bride price, the husband and wife should also understand each other and respect each other's choices, so as to make the marriage stronger.

4.Society should value marriage without bride price. For those who do not have a bride price for marriage, society should value and bless such marriages, rather than being discriminated against or isolated.

In this way, social awareness of equality, respect and responsibility can be promoted, and awareness and respect for marriage and the family can be raised.

Marriage is a system of two people who accompany each other for a lifetime and support each other. Whether there is a bride price or not, it should not affect the choices and decisions of two people. Marriages are not strong because of the bride price, but on love, responsibility, and respect.

We should promote blessings and support for those who choose to marry without bride price, and establish the concept of equality, respect and rationality in society.

"Bride price" is a bride price, which is a sense of ritual and a traditional custom that has been handed down.

When a man marries a woman, it often involves a bride price and a dowry, whether it is a bride price or a dowry, it is the initial ** of the parents of both sides to give the newlywed couple a family.

Today, many people have twisted their minds and turned marriage into a sale. Many women use the amount of bride price to measure a man's love for themselves, thinking that it is a sense of security. The man believes that the bride price that the woman wants less or no bride price is the embodiment of true love.

In reality, there are many such cases, when the original beautiful love talks about marriage, because the issue of bride price is not negotiated, many men or women give up their original love for this.

Last week we had dinner at CapitaMall with her college classmates and her boyfriend, and we chatted about the current situation of our mutual female friend Xiao Y. Xiao Y worked in Beijing for a few years before, and then because of the pressure in Beijing, she felt that she had no family by her side, and finally chose to return to her hometown to develop.

found that Xiao Y's circle of friends began to change from posting a person, to a pet, to a boyfriend, to posting the daily life of the two, to posting wedding photos.

Later, I learned that Shi Bi Na Xiaoy was with her boyfriend since she returned to her hometown from Beijing, and her boyfriend was a high school classmate, and they talked together in high school, and then they were separated and reunited, and finally they were together again. Although I took wedding photos, I haven't been married, and I heard that it's because the two families are not talking about the bride price, and the man's family has been dragging it out. Although the specific reason is unknown, it is also because of the bride price that the two have not yet entered the marriage hall.

It reminds me of my high school classmate Xiao C, before she got married, maybe because she was pregnant, when the two families were talking about the bride price, the man's family kept the bride price low and low, and the woman's family never gave in, and the bride price lasted for two weeks before it was settled.

During the time when we were talking about the bride price, Xiao C told us in the group that she didn't want to get married, and she regretted it a little and wanted to run away from marriage. So, everyone persuaded her to think about it, not to be impulsive, and so on.

In my opinion, whether in ancient times or in modern times, the bride price is a kind of respect and an attitude of acceptance from the man to the woman. Before getting married, when the two families talk about the bride price together, they are looking at the attitude of both parties, which also reflects the upbringing of the two families. (Girls are also advised to protect themselves).

After getting married, the two people have to live with their ears and temples. I think that talking about the bride price, not talking well, is really hurtful, because with the estrangement of the bride price before marriage, there will inevitably be friction in married life, if there is unhappiness, is it always love to turn over old accounts. If a time bomb was planted at the beginning because of the bride price issue.

Isn't the gain outweighing the loss?

I think that the bride price and the dowry should be done according to their means, and in the end, it will not be used by the small family, helping the small family! However, the most important thing is to have love and know how to cherish.

It doesn't hurt feelings, the bride price is the man's attitude towards the woman, and this must be had.

When talking about bride price, there are a few things to keep in mind:

1. Respect each other's culture and Sun Shu customs: Different regions, different ethnic groups, and different families may have different requirements for bride price. Understanding and respecting each other's culture and customs can increase understanding and trust on both sides.

2. Communicate honestly: Both parties should clearly express their ideas and needs, and also listen to each other's opinions and considerations. In the process of communication, it is necessary to communicate with an attitude of equality and mutual respect.

3. Seek compromise: If the bride price is too high or the two parties disagree, find a reasonable compromise. Both sides should make concessions in order to reach a mutually acceptable outcome.

4. Don't focus on material things: The bride price should be a symbolic gift, not a yardstick to measure love and dignity. Both parties should be free from material constraints and see the bride price as the beginning of a family harmony.

In short, talking about the bride price requires good communication and understanding between the two parties, as well as Kan Kaixiang's handling of spears and disagreements in an equal, respectful and rational manner.

It depends on the situation, and people in some areas attach great importance to this.

In love, for couples who are about to enter the palace of marriage, the most feared thing is to talk about the bride price before marriage.

Because talking about the bride price is related to the choice of interests of the two families, it can also be seen from the side that the humanity and three views of the man and the woman can be seen. This is not for either the man or the woman, and they don't want to make the other party feel the material reality when talking about the bride price.

But reality is reality, and the bride price is clearly something to be solved. At this time, the couple who was a couple on weekdays became a good hand at negotiating business. Once you feel that you are being taken advantage of by the other party, there will be a quarrel, and then it will affect the relationship and the wedding.

This is for the stuffy brother of the couple in the very buried Zen and many real cases, it is all about the bride price that cannot stand the test, the conversation has completely collapsed, and the love is gone.

In fact, the "bride price" has always been a sensitive topic. After all, the woman's family raised her daughter so much, and it is reasonable to ask for a bride price. However, the amount of the bride price should also take into account the man's own family, and if the family is wealthy, it does not care about the bride price.

However, if the economic conditions of the man's family are not good, and the woman's family opens his mouth, it is indeed a bit inappropriate, and the bride price should be given according to the actual situation of the family.

However, if the man's family conditions are relatively good, and the bride price demanded by the woman's family is reasonable, and the man's family wants to prostitute it for nothing, it is a bit excessive. In short, whether to give a bride price or not is the pattern of the woman, and whether to give a bride price or not is the dignity of the man. If you pretend to be confused in that room, it will be undignified.

In fact, because the bride price negotiation collapsed in the end, it was because of the family problems of both men and women, and there must be one party who was not decent before the bride price negotiation collapsed. Either the man thinks that the bride price is too much, or the woman's family lion opens his mouth.

No matter which one it is, I still hope that a good relationship can have a good outcome, and I hope that both parties can give concessions and not embarrass young people. Once couples who love each other start to discuss the bride price, it is essentially tilting from the spiritual world to the material world, and the emotional connection begins to become a transaction. In the context of sensual love, anything can be solved.

But in a deal with clear logic and clear numbers, there is no room for compromise. This kind of contextual transformation is very common in life. For example, when a good friend has a meal, you must AA, and AA is not counted, you must calculate a few cents and a few cents clearly, you will wake up the other party's accounting logic and let the friendship temporarily go offline.

If the relationship between the man and the woman is mature, it is time to talk about marriage, there are such customs in many places, what should be done when the bride price collapses?

First, we must calm down, discuss with both sides, and find the best solution. It is not easy for two people to come together, if it is on the eve of marriage, but because of the bride price problem is unhappy, it is really a pity, if the bride price is not negotiated, I think we should not be impulsive and laugh for this matter, both parties should sit down, discuss well, only in this way can we maintain this relationship, maybe everyone calms down, you will feel that the bride price is not a necessary condition for marriage, two people live a good life, through their own labor, to create each other's wealth is the most important thing to do.

2. If the man does not meet the woman's satisfaction, he must be sincere and make up for the woman in other ways. If the man's family conditions are not good, and the current job does not bring him too high income, can not achieve the woman's satisfaction, the man must apologize. The man should show his sincerity and tell the woman that he will work hard and give her the life she wants in the future, hoping that the woman must give herself a chance and let the two of them have no regrets.

3. If the two parties are deadlocked, they can only break up, because there are still many things to face in the future, and two people cannot tolerate each other, and the relationship cannot go on for a long time. In fact, I think if two people have a conflict before marriage, it really can't be solved, don't feel too pity, this shows that two people are really not suitable for being together, if they get married, it is very likely to divorce because of a trivial matter, the issue of bride price can also reflect the feelings of two people, not very mature, but also can show that two people do not know how to be balanced, if they can't be together, they can only break up, maybe they can meet a more suitable partner.