Parents push themselves to do things they don t want to do

You are a human being, you are thoughtful, and you are an adult, so there is no need to be a puppet of your parents anymore Of course, your parents treat you like this, the starting point is for your own good, but the way is not quite right, take the time to talk to them, if you are not very eloquent, write a manuscript and memorize it, but pay attention to the way of expression, the other is to make sense, you are working right now, but work is not for money, it is to pave the way for the future, for example, for example, if you want to open a clothing store, you can first go to the clothing store to work for others Learn about the boss's purchase channels and business methods, etc., first learn real things in the society for a few years, and then do your own business after you have a certain grasp and have a little savings, it is good to go out and wander, the key is that you must first think about which way to go before you go out, otherwise you will become a lost lamb.

Your parents are doing business for your own good, and it's really getting harder and harder to do business now, what if you don't achieve anything in the future? In the end, the 2 times were all in vain, and it was too late to regret it. After all, parents have a lot of social experience, so it is better to listen to their parents' opinions, and now there are a few people who can do what they like, and it is impossible to do everything as they wish.

Have a good talk with them, it's really too much to bury your youth.

Go out and find a better job, earn money and hire a few workers for them to help them, without delay on either side.

It's really a good idea to go out and break in, take advantage of your youth to go out and see more. But your parents are right, it depends on how you convince them, you can discuss with them and ask them to give you a few years to go out and make a career and continue your own business, or come back to help him.

You are already an adult and have the right to accept and reject what anyone else asks you to do. So in the face of parents like you, be sure to communicate with them comprehensively about this matter. Tell them you don't like that. This should be done concretely.

First, find a time to sit down and talk to your parents about what they think about them always asking you to do things you don't like. If your parents don't think they're asking you to do something you don't like, it means they don't care about your feelings at all.

Second, try to do your part well, so that your parents believe that you can make your own decisions and plan your own life, and you don't need your parents to tell you what to do.

Third, separate yourself from your parents. Because you are an adult who has entered society, you don't need to implement everything according to your parents' wishes and decisions, you have your own thoughts and ideas, and if you are not fundamentally separated, then many of your major decisions in the future will be influenced by them.

In fact, I have a deep feeling for this matter, because my mother is a person who loves to worry about my affairs, and even she likes to "arrange", but I am indeed a person who does not like to let others do a lot of things for me, so in order to avoid such things, I silently did a lot of resistance, such as often doing things first and then playing, and only informing them of the final result. It turns out that I have done a lot of things by myself, and I don't necessarily need the advice and participation of my parents, and I believe that they will reassure you and will not ask you to do this and that often. The premise is that you must correct your idea of relying on your parents, it is not so difficult not to listen to them, try to express your thoughts, and your parents will understand you and choose to let go.

If my parents were always forcing me to do things I didn't like, I wouldn't have agreed. First of all, I'll talk to them about my own thoughts, and if that doesn't work, I'm basically going to run away from home. Anyway, I'm already an adult and can be self-sufficient in life, so it's a good choice to stay away from my parents.

There are too many garbage parents, all for themselves, selfish, only caring about their own face, never caring about their children's feelings, using the so-called love, constantly controlling their children, dominating their lives, not paving the way for themselves, thinking that their children are born to them, that is, they are the tools they raise, and they can do whatever they want.

You can talk to your parents, when you were a child, you were not sensible, at that time you should be obedient, but now you are 25 years old, you are fully capable of making your own decisions, I hope they can understand themselves, if your parents are still not at ease, you can tell them that if what they do is not good, they will come out and give some advice to try, you can't just force yourself to do things, people have to be independent sooner or later, right?

Parents force themselves to do something they don't like, mainly because of the difference in our concepts, some things they think are good but we don't like them become the reason for our conflict, in fact, when this happens, we should sit down and have a good chat, talk about each other's opinions, and find a middle point.

Since you are 25 years old, you must know whether your parents' requirements are correct or not, if what he asks is, what you should do now, then you must listen to them, for example, talk about a relationship, get married as soon as possible, I think these will understand after having a family, if their requirements are not correct, then completely communicate with them, after all, it is a very painful thing to always do things you don't like.

At the age of 25, he has become an adult, and he has his own job, circle of friends, and the foundation of financial independence, so he can be completely free from the influence of his parents. If what your parents are doing is good for you and you just feel troublesome, then it is good to respect your parents appropriately and be filial. But if your parents blindly interfere in your life and make decisions for you in everything, then you yourself want to say no, in fact, it may be that you don't know how to express yourself since you were a child, so you have developed the habit of your parents interfering in everything.

I think the first thing you need to do is to talk to your parents, talk about your thoughts, and tell them about your life plans and thoughts. Parents are generally for the good of their children, but they always look at things from the perspective of their own era, and it is obvious that they are no longer suitable for this era, but they always feel that you have not grown up yet, so tell them that you have ideas and plans for your life, so that they will be relieved and will not care about you anymore.

If your parents force you, you first have to tell your parents what you think, if you don't tell your parents what you think, how can you communicate? Generally speaking, although parents will not listen to their children, they will still consider their thoughts. If your parents are always forcing you to do something you don't want to do, you can think that your parents' elders are asking for help, which is generally more effective.

If he always forces you to do things you don't like, I think you should still tell your parents that you don't want to.

In addition, make it clear to him that you have your own things to do to communicate with your parents in this way, depending on what kind of attitude your parents have, if your parents are still unwilling to change, then you can tell him, if I always ask you to do things you don't like, what should you think?

If you can communicate, you should first communicate with your parents, tell them why you don't like it, understand your parents' thoughts, I think most parents may be like this, talk calmly first, if it still doesn't work, you just think from the perspective of your parents from another angle, after all, it is your parents, it must be from the perspective of being good to you, if you really don't like to do it hard, you can't do it with your parents It's really not suitable for you. When you have the ability to control your own affairs in the future, you don't have to be restricted by your parents, so you still have to improve and strengthen yourself.

This situation is evident in Chinese homeschooling. In such a family, parents will always interfere in their children's lives and instill in them the idea that "this is for your own good" to control them. In fact, this is a very abnormal mode of education.

China has practiced "suzerainty" since ancient times. China has a strict hierarchy and dignity. The country is home, and home is the country.

Listen to your parents at home. In ancient times, parents had to do everything. This custom has been practiced for a long time, and in China the system of "big parents" has been formed.

Marriage cannot be chosen by oneself, let alone some trivial things, parents will do everything.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world! Every parent wants their child's life to be smooth, but they also know that no life path can be smooth, as long as you can express it gently but firmly, reasoned and well-founded, and convince them that your choice is more suitable than your parents' proposal, and you are ready to accept the baptism of life, then I believe that you will definitely get their understanding and support.

Your parents don't want to see you fall. They want you to succeed in everything and never get hurt. Of course, the world doesn't work like that. Protect your child from pain so parents don't have to worry too much about your safety.

It is necessary to communicate with parents, to tell parents their ideas accurately, to have principles and bottom lines when doing things, and to make clear their own positions.

Be sure to communicate with your parents in a timely manner and tell them what you think, so that your parents will not force you.

You should have a good talk with your parents, tell your parents what you think now, and let your parents know that you are an adult and should respect you.

If parents always force their children to do things that they don't like, then children should communicate with their parents and let their parents know that they are not willing to do these things. If the child never speaks, then the parents will never recognize the problems in this matter, so parents should respect the child's choice, and the child should not be submissive when facing these things. If the child doesn't say anything, then mom and dad may think that the child still likes this arrangement.

Communication between mom and dad is a very important factor, and if there is a lack of communication between mom and dad and kids, it is easy to have problems between parents and children. Therefore, children should take the initiative to communicate with their parents and tell them that they don't like to do these things. Although some parents do think that they are doing it for the good of their children, they should also consider these issues from the perspective of their children, and if the children take the initiative to communicate with their parents, they will realize the importance of this matter.

Mom and Dad always have a kind of high psychology when facing the child, so they want to arrange everything for the child, in this case, the child is indeed willing to accept the arrangement of Mom and Dad, but the child's original intention is not willing to accept. Therefore, parents should try their best to let their children understand why they behave in this way, and children should also let parents understand that there is something unacceptable for them.

Mom and Dad and their children should be the closest relationship, so if there is anything to say, they should say it directly, and if they don't say it well, then the other party will not be able to realize the problems that exist between the two parties. Therefore, parents should respect the child's ideas as much as possible, and the child should also talk to his parents as much as possible, and don't take all the emotions in his heart, which will only make the relationship between the two parties worse and worse.

I think you need to refuse your parents' requests with reason, and you have to impress them with words so that they don't force you to do it. So I need to be braver.

You can tell your parents that you don't want to do these things, and you can express why you did it, hoping to get their understanding.

You should politely refuse your parents' request, you can tell your parents that you don't like to do this thing, so that your parents understand your difficulties, so that you will not force yourself to do it.

You should use the right perspective to persuade your parents, tell your parents what you think, and don't act according to your parents' arrangements.

If what your parents say makes sense, you can listen to them.

Judge the rights and wrongs of the matter before deciding.

1. Learn to empathize and communicate with parents in an empathetic way.

No matter how much you feel oppressed by your parents, your parents' original intention is to benefit their children. In terms of housework, not every child is willing to take the initiative to participate in housework activities, and learning to do housework is of great significance for children's growth. Therefore, when the child is unwilling to do housework, parents will give the child some household tasks that must be completed and ask the child to complete them.

At this time, the parents' requirements for the children to do the housework have the nature of the parents forcing the children to do things they don't like.

Therefore, when parents force themselves to do things they don't like, they can learn to empathize and try to communicate with their parents in an empathetic way. Understand your parents' intentions and express your true thoughts to them to make communication smoother.

2. Resoluteness without hostility.

Kohut, the founder of psychoanalytic autopsychology, believed that the best way to defuse a threat was to be resolute without hostility. If there is no boundary between parents and children, parents think that children should listen to themselves and follow their own arrangements, although children are unwilling to accept the persecution and requirements of their parents, they can only choose to accept and dare not refuse. If the child still does not change the parents' minds after communication, then the child should resolutely defend his boundaries without hostility, so that the parents understand that their ideas should also be respected.

Hope it helps.