One mountain can t tolerate two tigers , what should I do with two babies in a family?

Parents must not be partial, to give the two babies the same love, but also to tell the babies to help each other and grow up together.

The two babies in the family play every day is indeed a headache for many parents, and my brother and I were the same when we were young, basically every day, sometimes we don't like each other, and we can fight several times a day. But now that I think about it, there was a reason why we both quarreled.

One of the most important reasons is that parents are too partial to a child. There is no doubt that my mother is super partial to my brother, and she will give him anything delicious, and I can only stand by and watch, of course I want to eat it at a young age! If he asks him not to give it, he can only use force to rob it, and robbing things is also the main cause of the two of us fighting.

Parents must give equal care to both babies and do not try to favor either baby, which is very detrimental to the child's growth. Secondly, I also want to teach the two babies to help each other, after all, the two of them are the closest people in the world, and they must be united, so that they can grow up happily and healthily!

Many people will think that it is better to have only one baby in the family, whether it is from the material conditions or the degree of care and love given by the parents, it seems that they can devote themselves more wholeheartedly to the child.

Nowadays, the two-child policy is open, and many families have added new members, but there are also a lot of quarrels and contradictions between each other, in my opinion, it should be solved through the following aspects: <>

First: If the child is more mature and has a certain cognitive ability, parents can try to communicate, so that the child can make it clear that they are a family that loves each other, and should be humble to each other, rather than a mountain that cannot tolerate two tigers.

Second: In fact, there is no major conflict between the children themselves, even the occasional small quarrel will be quickly forgotten, if the children often quarrel with each other because of a little thing, it means that some behaviors of parents in daily life make him feel that his status is threatened, so he will hate another child in the family. On the contrary, if the child's heart feels that even if I have another child, the parents are still as good as me, and I have another friend to play with, it will be much better.

Therefore, parents should ensure a balance of care for their two children.

First, let them know that they are brothers and sisters and should love each other. Everyone may be not to be outdone when treating outsiders, but when they know that each other is the crystallization of their parents' love, and they are both the palms and backs of their parents' hands, then they will cherish each other more. Telling someone about being an only child can be boring, but it's even more fun to have a younger brother and sister to live with each other.

Maybe one mountain really can't accommodate two tigers, but when these two tigers know that they are brothers and sisters, they probably won't be able to do it. The Great Treasure should love the Second Treasure, and the Second Treasure should respect the Great Treasure. When your parents are fine, talk to them more about these truths, and you may naturally understand.

Second, the love that parents give them should be equal. Any parent may have a child that they prefer, after all, they will be more pampered when they listen to their own words or have good habits. But you must not make it too obvious and make the other party's heart unbalanced.

Even if it is not possible to achieve substantive equality, it should be about the same on the surface. Let him know that the two of them are treasures of their parents, and they should indeed get along well and not let their parents worry about it.

In the past two years, the country has liberalized the two-child policy, and many people choose to have two babies. At the same time, the social issue of the second child is also being paid more and more attention.

Before the second child was born, I felt that I had no "two hearts" for Dabao. After Erbao was born, he found that he couldn't help but "empathize and don't love". There is an extra treasure in the family, there are a lot of things, and when dealing with small conflicts and disputes between the two children, the parents sometimes have different opinions.

Parents' partiality will induce family conflicts and even bring lingering shadows to the psychology of children's growth.

1. Pay attention to the difference between the two treasures.

Generally, two babies will have certain differences in personality and preferences, and even two people are completely opposite. When dealing with problems or guiding children, you must pay attention to these details, and do not use the same way to treat two children with different personalities and preferences.

2. You can't always let Dabao be humble.

Some parents have been asking Dabao to let Erbao Qian, which is very inappropriate. Dabao needs to set an example for Erbao in some aspects, but not everything has to be humble. Parents must maintain a correct stance when dealing with some issues of the two treasures, and must not always think that the big treasure is wrong.

If Dabao is allowed to get along with Erbao with an exemplary mentality, Dabao will have a "sense of mission", and Erbao will worship Dabao more, and some small contradictions will naturally be avoided.

3. Pay more attention to Dabao.

As mentioned at the beginning of the article, most families feel that Erbao is small and pay more attention to Erbao. In fact, since the birth of Erbao, from the "core" of the whole family to gradually reduce attention, Dabao's psychological receptivity gap is the largest, and parents need to increase their attention to Dabao in many aspects.

How many babies do you have? How to deal with the problem between the two treasures, let's talk about it!