How to beat frustration? How to deal with frustration?

I'll use my personal experience to illustrate how to overcome frustrationI always unconsciously think of unpleasant things, and then I feel sad. I feel like I've failed again, it's stupid.

When I was very young, whenever this situation arose, I would bang the table to interrupt my thinking and keep myself from drowning in pain. However, this is not a good way to do it. I still often feel very defeated and have a very strong sense of frustration in my heart.

Knock on the table. This way can only temporarily interrupt my thinking and get out of the unpleasant thoughts of the past. But I would soon remember the unpleasant thing again, and then I would knock on the table again to interrupt my thinking.

I think my classmates at school will find me wondering, why do I always hit the table all of a sudden? In addition to slapping the table, I used to comfort myself when I was younger, "I will succeed, I will succeed, and one day I will succeed". It doesn't seem to be of any use.

I began to notice unpleasant feelings. Until people found out it was a setback, I was confused for more than a decade without being discovered. I've found a lot of things, even if it's a normal, completely neutral thing, that hasn't succeeded or failed.

When I think about it, I feel a strong sense of frustration. I felt like a failure. The initial frustration doesn't seem to have anything to do with what happened in the past.

It seems to make me feel uncomfortable. Frustration prevents me from doing what I want. For a long time, I wanted to exercise because my body was poor, my stomach was often bad, and I was also fat, but I refused to exercise because whenever I started exercising, setbacks would appear, and the thoughts of colleagues would appear, strange glances from others, jokes and bad comments.

So, I only held on for a while and then gave up.

It wasn't until recently that I finally found a way to think. Whenever a setback arises, I say to myself, yes, I'm stupid, very bad, very bad. Maybe my previous life was a failure.

However, how? That doesn't stop me from loving myself more. The best change is that now I start exercising in my dorm.

I learn martial arts** from the internet and imitate them. (I've wanted to be a great warrior since I was a kid, ha) When I thought about it, I suddenly realized that it was much better than the way I used to interrupt and comfort. It's been days, and the setbacks haven't come yet.

Obviously, it's more effective than the method I've been using. Now I share a little bit of my experience with you, and I hope it will be useful to you.

Believe that you will do better next time.

Of course, I won't love you.

Actually, you should be brave.

It is to strive for self-improvement of the sense of superiority.

Strive to improve your sense of superiority.

I played abnormally in the college entrance examination, at that time I felt that I had suffered a big setback, and I was also very disappointed during that time, and then my friend took me out to travel and relax, after a period of time I also calmed down, after entering the university I decided to cherish the time to study hard, so I relied on my own efforts to get the school scholarship, at that moment I was proud of myself, so don't be afraid of setbacks, everything will rain and sunshine, as long as you work hard everything is still in time.

Frustration is a feeling that everyone must experience in their lives, after all, everyone's life cannot be smooth sailing, they have to experience failure, and frustration is nothing more than the number of failures too many times or a failure brings too much blow to our soul and the sense of blow, in the face of such a feeling, the most important thing is to calm down, have the courage to face, summon up the courage to face failure, take it as a stepping stone on the road to success, and remember that failure is the mother of success This epigram.

When we face frustration, we don't have to adapt to it, but we have to learn the lessons of failure while being able to muster the courage to face it, so that we can continue to mature and succeed!

There are many ways to face the sense of frustration correctly, I remember that my grades after the high school entrance examination were very unsatisfactory, and I could only go to the most broken class in our school, but at that time the school was not divided into classes for the first time, I almost came to this school with the heart of the bottom of the class, and then found that my group leader was indeed the first in the province, and I felt very surprised at that time, under the leadership of our team leader, I gradually got out of the frustration, and the hard work of the academic performance was improved a lot.

Just let yourself relax and work the next thing.

Frustration is such a thing that if you value her, if you take it as a kind of motivation for yourself, then you can easily cope with the past and bring yourself greater progress, if you are too immersed in frustration to extricate yourself, it will only bring you harm.

Take a deep breath, slow yourself down to feel it, and feel what kind of energy frustration is flowing within your body. Then face it and say it to yourself"I see you, and I acknowledge the impact of your presence on me, but I don't need you anymore, and I won't be bound by you anymore in the future"。Say it a few more times, admit the frustration, and stop being affected by it.

Facing frustration may be your motivation to keep moving forward in the future!

I feel that no matter what we do, there will be times when we fail, we should not indulge in this kind of failure, but look at our own shortcomings, find the reasons for our failures, and then actively correct these. There is a good saying, I am not afraid that you will fail, but I am afraid that you will not have the courage to stand up again.

Life has to go through ups and downs. When you first experience failure, you often need to adjust your mentality quickly, otherwise you will fall into a low atmosphere. Let ourselves lose confidence, we must actively think about some happy things, successful things to adjust our self-confidence.

Life is not smooth sailing, there are always setbacks and tribulations, in the face of tribulations, we should be calm, treat right and wrong correctly, have self-confidence, believe that they will be able to get through the difficulties, will be rainy, tribulations make people grow, setbacks make people progress.

As a student, especially a student who is not very good at studying, my heart is always full of frustration every time I face my grades! However, I said that I would never admit defeat to my results, and I firmly believed that sooner or later, my results would no longer be sad. Every time I get a result, I always motivate myself like this.

Look at the stories behind some successful people, and every successful person will have a failed experience. No one is completely smooth sailing. We can use the experiences of successful people to motivate ourselves to face frustration correctly and accept the reality of the situation.

Improve resilience to setbacks.

There are two adaptation mechanisms that people adopt in the face of setbacks: one is psychological defense and the other is psychological regulation. The use of psychological defense mechanisms is mostly passive, and it cannot directly solve the problems caused by setbacks, and many of them are tinged with self-deception.

Frustration is universal. It can be said that setbacks are an integral part of life and are encountered by everyone. Everything in nature and society is moving forward in twists and turns, spiraling.

Throughout the ages, many famous scientists, politicians, and writers have been tempered in adversity and ups and downs, and human civilization and progress have all experienced setbacks and failures.

As follows:

1. Timely adjustment.

First of all, it is necessary to have a dialectical view of frustration and always maintain a confident and optimistic attitude. Second, it is necessary to calmly and objectively analyze the causes of setbacks and actively seek ways to overcome setbacks.

Analyze the causes of setbacks, whether they are natural factors or human factors, analyze whether the established goals are appropriate, whether their intelligence, ability, and physical strength are compatible with the goals, and if the goals are set too high, they should be appropriately lowered or changed, not to mention the long-term goals as short-term goals.

2. Correct attribution.

When recognizing and dealing with setbacks, learn to attribute them correctly. Generally, there are two types: internal and external, and people who tend to external attribution often believe that their behavior is controlled by external forces;

People who tend to internal attribution are accustomed to thinking that the outcome of their actions is controlled by internal forces. Proper attribution is about analyzing it realistically and figuring out whether it's external, internal, or both.

3. Reasonable catharsis.

The correct way to face setbacks is to carry out reasonable catharsis, such as sweating exercise, talking to relatives, friends, lovers, etc.

4. Accept yourself.

In the face of setbacks, we must correctly assess our abilities, be confident in ourselves, and not lose confidence and sharpness due to setbacks. Don't think "I can't do it", don't blindly compare your own shortcomings with the advantages of others, but find out your own strengths and strengths; At the same time, we should correctly recognize the advantages of others and learn from each other's strengths.

Frustration is a terrible feeling, it makes people feel like they can't do anything.

So how does frustration come about?

1.Blind comparisons. There is always someone prettier and richer than you. Comparison is a bottomless pit. The object of comparison is oneself, to be precise, one's past self. Compare, compare, and grow.

2.Self-defeating. It's normal that things aren't done, and it's even more normal when you start doing something and don't do it well. If you blindly indulge in negative self-defeating emotions, that one failure is an eternal failure.

If you treat a failure as an attempt, you are on the way to success.

3.Unrealistically high goals.

If the goal is too high, there will be no sense of accomplishment and motivation, and frustration will accumulate and form a vicious circle.

Use the achievement of small goals to accumulate a sense of accomplishment and reduce frustration.

4.Lack of patience. It takes time to do anything. Without patience, you can't do well in the present, let alone what the future holds. For the impatient, the future can only be a fantasy.

If you are impatient, the more you are in a hurry, the worse you are, the more frustrated you are.

In everyone's life, the road taken cannot always be smooth, and everyone is bound to encounter difficulties and setbacks. When you face difficulties and setbacks, you must not be timid, you must not retreat, you must face them bravely, find a way to overcome, and overcome them, so that you are equal to defeating yourself.

Don't be discouraged when you encounter difficulties, first adjust your mentality, don't always imagine that you can't do it, sometimes you can go out and relax, and when your mood is relaxed, you will feel that it is no longer difficult, no matter how difficult things will have a solution.

Ways to overcome setbacks:

1. Change cognition - establish a good cognitive model. It's not that the thing itself is terrible, it's that we see only the bad side of it. One can gain a lot from setbacks.

2. Change your behavior pattern, summarize lessons and lessons, make it a valuable asset in life, and cultivate strong will and perseverance.

3. Focus on solving problems, be responsible for the consequences of your own behavior instead of evading, find reasons for your failures, find specific reasons and then make corrections.

4. Learn to self-comfort and recognize the universality of setbacks and failures.

5. Think of any results before doing things, so that you can accept the results better. Because everything is within your range.