I had a very good friend, and one day, I found out that she didn t exist at all

You may have met a ghost, the so-called ghost, my understanding is that the spiritual mind of the creature stays in the air, the so-called mind is not matter or antimatter at all, so it cannot be detected, the mind stays by cause and effect, in my opinion, the universe is composed of matter and antimatter, it can also be said to be composed of cause and effect.

I have a very good friend (not the best) who obeys me in everything She likes whoever I like Listen to a cute person with a very good personality One day I have a very good friend (not the best) She obeys me in everything She likes whoever I like Listen to a cute person with a very good personality One day our class went to computer class, and when I came back, another friend of mine said that she secretly rummaged through my pencil case because I didn't like other people touching my things and then I was very angry and ignored her Then in a handicraft class, my classmates didn't do a good job, and she kept laughing at her, and when the teacher said something serious, she laughed there, which made people angry. Then she wrote a note to apologize to me, but I still didn't want to pay attention to her, if it were you, would you forgive her?

It shouldn't be mentally ill, it should be that you have a good ability to fantasize and need such a person in your heart, and it should be a normal psychological performance.

It's a mental illness, and you have to see a psychiatrist, and the doctor will tell you the method.

I don't think friendship is one-sided, if sheIf you don't want to be good friends, you can decisively choose to give up.

I don't think your friend wants to think of you as his best friend, maybe he thinks your personality is not the same as his, so he doesn't want to be the best friend. Then you don't have to really want him to be your good friend, it's okay to be an ordinary friend.

1. You need to know clearly why she shouldn't be a good friend of you.

When it comes to social issues, many people think that they think of him as a good friend, but he doesn't think so, which is actually a very normal phenomenon. Because everyone's personality is different, he doesn't become a good friend with you, it may be that he doesn't feel that the way he gets along with you is so good, or he doesn't have the level of being a good friend, and everyone has a different view of friendship. So if you want to have a good friendship, you can be generous to understand why she doesn't like to be friends with you.

Second, you can have many friends, don't dwell on one.

To a certain extent, if you blindly cater to others and ask them to be your good friends, you will often not be treated sincerely. So if you want to have a real friendship, you don't need to deliberately pursue it, as long as you show your sincerity in the process of dating, if the other party can feel your sincerity, it will naturally become your good friend. If you are too deliberate, you will lose.

3. Treat it sincerely as a really good friend.

A good friendship is not one-sided, it requires two people to treat it sincerely in the process of getting along, if you feel that your friend does not treat you as a good friend, then you can also decisively give up such a friendship. There are many people who can be good friends, and he is not the only one. We must learn to give, and only when we give can we gain.

The most important thing to get along with friends is to help each other and understand each other, so you must cherish such a good friendship. <>

I think at this time you should communicate with him, listen to his truest thoughts, and then make corresponding decisions, don't think that you treat others as good friends, others must treat you as good friends, balance your own psychology, don't have too strong desire to control.

I think at this time you should choose to stay away from this friend, you are paying for her with all your heart and lungs, but she doesn't think so, such a person is really very selfish.

You should take the initiative to stay away from each other, indicating that the other party does not regard herself as a friend at all, and may also treat herself as a spare tire. So you should draw a line with the other party.

Because the other person may also have a friend who he thinks is the best, this kind of thing cannot be forced, so you should be a regular friend with him.

From childhood to adulthood, in the 30 years of life, I have made a lot of friends, Xiaojie, Jijun, etc., and there are still very good relationships. There are also some new friends, and after playing for two days, the relationship slowly fades. In the end, you will find that you still have a good relationship with you, and you have been very good for a long time, but in fact, you don't treat each other as "friends", you only think about what a person can do, and you don't ask what the other party can give.

A true friend never asks for anything from you. In the past, our definition of friends was to be able to help us in times of our difficulties, but now I think about this sentence and there are some problems, in fact, real friends are all about whether we can bring value to them. Like Jijun and Xiaojie, who have been good friends for decades, they have never asked each other again, they just took the initiative to give solutions to problems when the other party didn't need them, and they never made requests beyond the scope of their ability like the other party.

Everyone silently kept the bottom line in their hearts. And I didn't really expect anything from them, just how I could help them. These tacit understandings form the basis on which we can be good friends for more than ten years.

It seems to be friends with you who often make requests, but in fact, it is easy to lose contact.

A friend who used to play badminton together lost contact with one request. In May, when I was in Beijing, I met a friend who played badminton in a group, and when we were playing, we were very happy to help each other. When I arrived in Xinjiang and couldn't come back, he told me in WeChat that he wanted me to come back to take his course, which was about 4,000 or so, and mine was that if I could go back, it wouldn't be of much value to me, and it was true that I couldn't come back, but after a few days, he suddenly got angry and asked me to pay the money.

Of course, I just rejected it. And then there was no then, and contact was lost.

When we only think of ourselves as friends, we are all friends.

If we want to have friends, we have to do both of these things first. First of all, we can only think about what value we can bring to others, and then we can think about what we can do without anyone, and we can do it without causing trouble. And your friends can only be yourself.

Rethink friends, what we can give them, not what they can give us.

Summary. First of all, there are several possibilities in this situation: 1. Your friend has something very important to do recently. Relatively busy, just in time for you to have her.

It's just a coincidence. 2 You have known her ever since. She may have known you before.

It may have been good lovers before after you got to know each other. Your friends naturally don't get too close. 3. And then there's after you met her.

In fact, your friend also likes this in his heart. Look at you together. If he can't accept it, he will leave.

2.I have a very good friend who has been playing well for a long time, and since I met her, my friend and I have not had the same relationship as before.

First of all, there are several possibilities in this situation: 1. Your friend has something very important to do recently. Relatively busy, just in time for you to have her. It's just a coincidence.

2 You have known her ever since. She may have known you before. It may have been good lovers before after you got to know each other.

Your friends naturally don't get too close. 3. And then there's after you met her. In fact, your friend also likes this in his heart.

Look at you together. If he can't accept it, he will leave.

Glad for your question and wish you a happy life and all the best!

There are a few ways to learn from this.

2. When you are with A, you will say that B is good, and when you are with B, you will say that A is good, but don't say that others are bad.

Because no matter who you say bad about another person in front of you, then this person who listens to you will also think that you said bad things about her in front of others.

Such a friend, you can reply to him directly, both like, but if it asks so much, then you let him ask, are you in your heart, who do you like? What if he said one or what? I recommend going with him.

Friends just scold each other and don't get angry, they have to learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses to be able to last longer, and they have to worry about never having friends. If you can't, get along, if you can't, stay away from her.

Don't be too passive.

Stick to your bottom line.

You can say that the relationship is the same, or that it is better with the other.

If he is possessive, too strong, and has too good a relationship with him, it will be bad for you.

This has nothing to do with whether the relationship is long or not.

When someone said to A that you scolded him, he believed it, and I feel that he doesn't even have the most basic trust in you. I don't think a good friend would ask a question about who you have the best relationship with.

To be honest, I don't like people like A.

Individual**: 1. Upstairs, the answer is not asked.

Second, to sum up, I think there is a lack of motivation. If my reasoning is correct, maybe you did well in high school. Maybe you were more useful to your class at the time.

So you were more recognized at the time. And you're happy with it, but that changed when you go to college. The influence of academic performance, as well as your perception of what is wrong with people, has a profound impact on your ability to adapt to your surroundings.

So, you start to get confused and doubt your worth.

Please listen to me: I am born to be useful, and I will come back when my daughter is gone. ”

Advice: [Don't resent mediocrity, because your ambition is mediocre. Make a life plan for yourself! Only by having a goal and a clear purpose can you maintain a rational understanding. Always know what you're looking for next. 】

3. Resolution of current emotions: You should be a relatively introverted person, if not on the surface, at least mentally. Most of the time, introverts will focus on themselves, study and torture themselves all the time.

If you have received enough knowledge and wisdom, this should have a perfect effect on yourself. However, it has actually been shown that most people tend to be miserable in such situations.

Therefore, it is advisable to "don't always focus on interrogating yourself, but observe how the people around you live happily. Look at the details more and experience this joy of others. 】

Fourth, about how your friends are treated. I recommend more **, network contact, don't be too deliberate to [good]. Twisted melons are not sweet. Listen more, cry less.

5. About your boyfriend. I don't know who took the initiative to make friends in the first place. If it's him, I think it's a malleable talent, but if it's someone you're actively courting, I suggest you take a fresh look at your relationship.

Your current situation is truly sympathetic! People who don't have friends are actually the loneliest people!

1.For your love: Don't you love your boyfriend too much?

If there is someone who really cares about you, someone who really cares for you, you should feel good! Is it because you don't think he can give you the security you want? Don't understand your heart?

If that's the case, think about what you want him to do to you if you change to a different man. If you feel that he is very far from what you imagined, then you can say goodbye to him and go after your true perfect happiness! @如果是你因为你暂时的失落的情绪, feel that everything is not what you want, and thus abandon everything, then you should calm down and do things again!

Look before you leap. I remember: decisions made when you're not in a calm mood are often not the right ones!

lest you regret it later-)

2.For your friendship: "She" is strong? Is it her character? Or is she estranged from you when you have a boyfriend?

Did you alienate her after you got a boyfriend? This outsider is not clear, think for yourself)

If her personality is like this, I feel like you're already in a situation where you can't have it both ways! No one wants to lose their best friend! No one wants to lose the one they love the most!

Is it that you are not doing very well? Sometimes don't feel for yourself. Feel for yourself.

To figure it out, you'd better ask, if you can, talk openly, otherwise you can't grasp this opportunity, that is, you have given up by default, giving up this friend!

The fact is artificial! It's not that shouting all day long about annoyance can solve the problem, annoyance can only cause deep damage to yourself!

Landlord, think about the specific situation yourself, it's best to be calm! If you can, I suggest you listen to some uplifting songs, don't listen to sad ones! Maybe that will help you! If in doubt. —You can ask about it—

1. Confidant: What is your definition of confidant? Seeing that you are in love, she is not happy, do you think she is a confidant?

2. Personality: On the university campus, there are not many people who are really learning knowledge, but more about developing themselves, making themselves cheerful, and making themselves more approachable, why don't you seize the opportunity?

3. Pressure: If you once had a beautiful dream, but the environment does not meet the conditions or you no longer pay attention to it now, should you let go of the pressure and set a more realistic goal for yourself?

Death: Hope: Hope is everywhere, and sometimes, it's just that people themselves give up hope!

Finally, I will send you a passage of Buddha's saying: "Bodhi has no tree, and the mirror is not a platform." There was nothing in the first place, where to stir up dust. ”