What if my classmates say I can t be a human being, but others say I can t be a human being?

The people around you perceive you, although a little biased, but they are basically right. If there is a problem in your interpersonal relationship, it means that you have a lot of inconsiderate aspects in dealing with others, as long as you reflect carefully, you will find many mistakes, and it will be good to correct them seriously. Friends, you will slowly mature and establish a certain network of interpersonal relationships within your circle of life activities, and be recognized by those around you.

Why do you want to be swayed by others Why do you keep thinking about whether others will call you What will happen to others People live for themselves Don't care too much about other people's opinions I used to be the same as you Don't take him seriously It's hard to change others It's easy to change yourself It's the so-called strong life doesn't need others to influence Live a tough life.

You can't make such friends, it's none of your business, you're right, being honest is the real principle of life, to be honest, I think this friend of yours can't be a man, so can I be friends with you? 603005568

From a young age, we learn to be polite and behaved. Everyone is not perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes it makes people feel like they can't be human. In fact, it is not necessarily that you are not a human being, but that your shortcomings affect your relationship with others.

First of all, when others say that you can't be a person, don't be sad first, and reflect on what you are doing wrong or inappropriate. We may not be able to do it, but what we can do is to reflect on ourselves when others say that what we have done is wrong or inappropriate. Find out what you may have done wrong and try to correct it as much as possible.

This way, you can make sure that you don't make the same mistake the next time you encounter the same thing.

Secondly, your own mistakes may not be able to be checked by yourself, at this time, you can talk to others and humbly ask about your own faults or shortcomings. As the saying goes, the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. You may not be able to find out what is wrong and feel that you are all right, and you need someone else to help.

You can find your good friend or the person who said you can't be a human being, and point out your shortcomings and shortcomings.

Finally, after you have learned your shortcomings through the first two methods, you need to correct them. When you encounter the same thing again, think about what you did before, so if you do it right, if you don't do it right, if you do it wrong, how to change it. If you don't know how to correct it, you can ask your elders or your peers, we don't repeat the detours and mistakes they have taken, and you will get the results or answers you want from them.

The above is the advice I have summarized based on my life experience, I hope it will be helpful to you.

There are many kinds of being a person, some people say that how to live is a lifetime, whether you can be a person without being taught by others, how you do it is your business, it has nothing to do with him, his explanation is obviously insulting to you, of course you can give him a rejection. There is also a way to let him make it clear, you will not be a person in what aspects, ** do not do too well so that he has such thoughts, if he can put your mistakes in the head of the Tao, it is also a kind of help to you, no one can be willing to criticize you for no reason, can point out to you the substantive problems of the person is the person who helps you, is your noble, if you can accept it with an open mind, your heart is broad enough, to be able to listen to these adverse advice, Then your future will be immeasurable.

Of course, when you encounter those nonsense, nonsense, and nonsense, you can quickly stop him by insulting you, unreasonable words, you can quickly stop him, or you can avoid listening, one thing is not to let his words cause you to be angry, and he to scold, say something that you also want to be angry, it may lead to a vicious circle that leads to some outrageous things, and the irreparable consequences are too undeserved. As long as you don't get angry, you won't be angry, and if you don't have anger, you don't need to get angry, and if you are angry, you won't be angry.

Of course, we say that to be a person in advance, to be a person is to be able to get along with others, know how to respect others, be polite to others, and be able to consider problems from the perspective of the other party's psychology, etc. That is to say, it is still very important to be a man, we must be an honest person, an upright person, in fact, being a man is for others to see, but who told us to live among these others, if you make others comfortable, others will definitely make you comfortable.

What is called being a man, what is not being a man, when others say that you have an example to illustrate, if you really give an example, you also feel that you are not good enough, you can consider how to do it well, if you think that he is too serious about these things, or you think that he will not be a man if he does that, it may be a little smoother, you can also stick to your own ideas.

If one or two people say that you can't be a person, maybe you didn't perform particularly well in their years ago, so you gave them a sense of illusion, you may not have much of a problem in itself, if a lot of people around you say this about you, I think you should reflect on whether you often do bad things in your daily life, make people feel uncomfortable, etc.

For example, some bosses think that female employees wear high heels in the office is a kind of temperament, there is the temperament of a woman in the workplace, encourage women to wear, you walk by the door of his office, he will feel good, if some bosses do not think so, he thinks that the office should be quiet, so that it is conducive to the office, you wear high heels in the past, he will think you are ignorant.

The above example is used to illustrate that there are some things that different people have different opinions, and you can't satisfy everyone's ideas, and you can't be perfect. If it's just a few people who say you can't be a human being, don't take it too seriously, it's not a big deal. If many people say that you need to reflect on whether it is really your own problem.

Find the problem from yourself first, maybe you will change a lot, or you may find a lot of problems that you didn't find before.

Someone actually took the initiative to tell you about this, it must be saying that your emotional intelligence is very low and you will not do things, the person who said this is either a very poor relationship with you, or your bosom friend will tell you such direct words, the so-called loyalty is good for action, if your friend personally tells you about this matter, then you really have to hear it and remember to correct it.

A lot of times we can't see clearly in it, most things can only be seen clearly by people who are not outside, and this thing is also like this, you may feel that you are not doing something wrong, but your friend can see it clearly from your side, and it is the fairest and proper to see it from the perspective of a bystander.

When your friend tells you this, you must not be angry or resentful, but on the contrary, you should show gratitude, because very few people are willing to tell you this, because he is telling you this at the risk of being hated by you. I often hear my friends remind me that it is - if you talk about what others do, others will not remember you if they learn to be good, but they will hate you.

So remember that if someone is really willing to tell you like this, first show your gratitude to him, and then ask the other person to tell you the reason, what are the details that you show that you can't behave, and how to improve, maybe many details you yourself didn't notice, but your friends can see it clearly.

When you figure out these things, of course, it will not be easy for you to change them all in a while, after all, it is not easy to form such a habit overnight. You can ask your friend to continue to help you, to supervise you, to give him the right to show that you will never get angry, and to remind you of your behavior at any time.