Why is the higher the education level, the higher the divorce rate?

Nowadays, many young people have their own ideas, in the past, the head of the family was a man, and women had no autonomy in the family, and everything had to be up to the man. But now it is different, and now we are pursuing equality and freedom between men and women. Therefore, in marriage, women and men will not get along with each other like in the past, tolerate, they will express their thoughts and opinions, often different from their husbands, at this time their feelings are threatened, and they may quarrel.

The more educated girls are, the more autonomous they are, the more they have their own ideas, and the more they like to stick to their own opinions. Two people will have different run-ins when they are together, and when they both think that they are right, they are prone to divorce. <>

Why is the higher the education level, the higher the divorce rate? I think these four may be relevant factors.

1.Poor communication.

Generally speaking, people with high academic qualifications have their own very strong and clear judgments, which are the so-called three views. When encountering problems, they are more serious, unwilling to compromise, and reason with facts. Then once there is a conflict, it is easy to miscommunicate with the other party, stick to their own opinions, accumulate over time, and the conflict continues to intensify, and it may not be possible to get along happily.

2.The income is not bad.

Generally speaking, people with high academic qualifications will not have too bad income. So two people live together, there is no question of who supports whom, who leaves who cannot survive, and the cost of divorce is too low for them. On the contrary, many people say that they can't live without you, not necessarily because they can't live sadly, but because they are poor and can only rely on others to support them, they have no confidence to leave.

If both people can follow their heart's choice and not be bothered by financial factors, the divorce rate may also increase.

3.The concept is different.

People with high academic qualifications read a lot of books and love to think when they have nothing to do. In their concept, marriage may be just a form, singleness, divorce, and love are all a formality, marriage may be a form that should not exist in their eyes, or will be eliminated in the future, and it is possible that some people will think that marriage is anti-human. People who hold a similar view will naturally not care if there is a marriage contract, and want to practice this view as a single person.

4.Self-awareness.

Many highly educated people are not very rich in emotional experience, and have never even talked about real love, and then one day two people get married, in marriage, it is possible to be lucky to meet true love, or it is possible to barely maintain the surface peace, and there is a possibility, that is, finally wake up, know what kind of relationship and life you want, so, divorce and pursue a new life.

Life and career should be separatedIn order to achieve a high-quality marriage, highly educated couples need to overcome the obstacle of "intellectualizing everything", learn to rest their minds in their love life, and be able to freely communicate and resonate with their partners. You need to learn to be aware of and recognize your partner's feelings, and at the same time release your emotions and share them with the other person.

On the other hand, those with high academic qualifications should pay attention to separating their lives from their careers. At work, you can stand up for your own opinions; But in the family, you need to humble your strong self so that you can hear the voice of your partner's heart and empathize with him or her. Also, be sure to be gentle in your married life, and when you deal with things in a loving way, things will not be so complicated.

It is easy to deny the other partyIn fact, many highly educated people often neglect to cultivate couples for various reasons. The importance of affection, and thus the lack of wisdom in dealing with marital problems. Marriage is a state of "symbiosis", and both spouses must properly control their strong sense of self and understand and tolerate each other.

From a psychological point of view, highly educated couples have a stronger sense of self and are more likely to deny and belittle each other.

Moreover, some highly educated people are more likely to insist too much on themselves in marriage because they have become experts in a certain field because of their cultivation, and it is difficult to accept each other's views. They often suppress each other in order to prove the correctness of their views.

I think it's normal for people with high educational backgrounds to have a high divorce rate, and you seem to understand divorce as not being "reasonable", which I can't agree with.

1. Knowing and doing are two different things.

Many highly knowledgeable people can understand a lot of truths, which is true, but understanding is not the same concept as being able to do and doing well. A large part of us first got married for a long-term purpose, but after a long time, all kinds of contradictions and conflicts in the marriage will follow. Because each of us has our own desires, and desire is a huge force that drives us to pursue what we want in our hearts, once these things are not available in marriage, then we may choose to divorce and pursue what we want, this huge force is sometimes not a "reason" can be stopped.

Second, highly educated people generally do not ask for grievances, and if they find that marriage cannot bring happiness, they are likely to choose to give up, which is also a kind of "Dali".

The economic conditions of highly educated people are generally not very bad, while people with good economic conditions are generally not very willing to compromise. Whether in terms of material life or spiritual pursuit, they will be committed to the pursuit of comfort, if they find that two people do not agree with each other, and being together is a mutual torture, many times they will choose to let each other go, so that each other has the opportunity to choose a new life. This is a manifestation of high quality and high self-cultivation, and it is also a manifestation of "Dali".

3. The key to maintaining a happy and long-lasting marriage is the consistency of the three views and mutual tolerance and understanding, rather than the so-called "Dali".

At the beginning of love, we may be more concerned about the feelings between two people, and not so carefully think about whether the three views of two people are consistent, and when they are in love, they do not enter the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, many problems on the three views cannot be verified, or maybe some people think that there is love to drink water and warmth, as long as there is love, everything else is not a problem, which leads to some people who do not agree with the three views to join hands in marriage, but two people with inconsistent three views living together will really be very painful, This will make both people exhausted and tormented, and it is better to let go and let the other pursue their own happiness than to torture each other and suffer from it. Or in a marriage, both people want to be the one who is loved, and let the other party be the one who gives, and they can't understand and tolerate each other, then marriage may also become a cage of pain rather than a happy belonging, so it is better to let go and let the other party be reborn.

Finally, I hope you can find a partner who matches you and has a couple for the rest of your life.

Because people with high educational qualifications are generally stronger, they will insist on their own ideas, and when they conflict with each other, they will consider whether the values of the two people are different and whether they are not suitable for living together. Eventually, divorce will be chosen.

It may be because people with high educational qualifications have a persistent pursuit of life and want to pursue perfection, so the divorce rate will also increase significantly.

This is because people with high educational backgrounds have different marital values, and they are very open-minded, so the divorce rate is large.

It is generally recognized that the reasons for multiple divorces may include the following aspects:

Unclear concept of marriage: Some people do not have a clear understanding of marriage, which may be due to factors such as family education and social environment, which may lead to their expectations for marriage being too high or too low, and they are prone to unrealistic ideas, resulting in a marriage that cannot last long.

Not fully understanding each other: Some people do not fully understand each other before marriage, which may be because they trust each other too much or do not have enough time to understand each other, resulting in some problems with each other after marriage, resulting in a short marriage.

Insufficient preparation: Some people do not make adequate preparations before getting married, including financial, psychological, life and other aspects, which leads to problems in marriage.

Lack of Adequate Communication: Some people do not communicate adequately in their marriage, resulting in the ideas and needs of both parties not being fully understood and met by the Wise Companion, resulting in a short marriage.

Repeated mistakes: Some people do not learn the lessons in time after experiencing a failed marriage, but instead make repeated mistakes, resulting in multiple divorces.

After getting married, the two parties did not get along, and there were many conflicts and quarrels between each other.