How do you associate with someone who is better than you?

In fact, there is no perfect person in this world, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When communicating with someone who is better than you in a certain way, try to use the following topics as a breakthrough.

1. Take the initiative to seek help from the other party in the area of the other party's strengths.

This is actually the best way to break the ice, everyone has their own area of expertise, you ask some questions about the field they are familiar with, not only to shorten the distance between you, but also not easy to end the topic. Of course, when asking questions, the attitude must be sincere and modest, and the questions should not be very low-level questions, but you still need to have your own thinking and ask the other party with questions. When a problem is solved, don't rush to ask other questions, you can try to answer other related questions yourself, and then communicate with the other party in stages.

After a long time, you will have some common topics.

2. Provide timely help when the other party needs it.

People are emotional creatures, and they also pay attention to courtesy. When dating someone who is stronger than you, don't rush to conclusions and think that you are worthless. You should be more careful to see if there are any areas you are good at that can help.

Friends are equal, but friendship also needs to be managed. You treat people sincerely, and after a long time, the other party will feel it after all.

3. Finally, and most crucially, you need to keep improving your strength. We can't be exhaustive, but we must clearly recognize our strengths and weaknesses, learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses as much as possible, expand our strengths, and make ourselves strong people. After all, in the popular phrase nowadays, if you are not awesome, it is useless to know as many awesome people as you know.

Answer: Strive to be as valuable as the strong.

The strong man is willing to help you and associate with you because he has seen your value.

You may still be weak at the moment, and there will still be a gap between you in the short term. Because whether it is ability, resources, endowment, background, or social status, the gap cannot be smoothed out in a short period of time. But you should look a little further and stretch out a little longer to keep getting better.

The best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago. The strong are willing to associate with you, in fact, they also believe that you can become better in the future. You have to believe in the vision of a strong man, since he is willing to associate with you, it means that he recognizes you and thinks that you will definitely be able to become a strong person in the future.

It just takes some time and patience.

Instead of thinking about how to maintain a relationship in the face of unequal strength, you should be grateful for the trust of the other party and strive to grow yourself. Don't worry about your unequal strength, because that's what happened. You are only temporarily lacking in strength and have limited resources temporarily.

As long as you are willing to work hard, the general direction is right, and growth is inevitable. Maybe it won't be long before you're as strong as the strong.

If you want to wear a crown, you must bear it. The best way to own something is to make yourself worthy of it.

The strong man in life is the object that everyone yearns for. Sometimes it is precisely because they worship them too much that many people are timid when communicating with the strong, and do not let each other's communication have greater meaning. Most of the chats tend to be one-sided blind worship, and there is no long-term connection to each other, and in the end it becomes just a string of numbers in the address book.

So how should we, as ordinary people, interact with those who are stronger than us? Here are three suggestions that I hope will help you.

1. Stimulate the other party's desire to express

When interacting with the strong, the first thing to pay attention to is to "listen more and talk less". Every strong person has a lot of experience and accumulation in their own field. When we actively ask the other party for relevant knowledge, it is easy to stimulate the other party's desire to express, and in the process of listening, it is also a rare learning opportunity for us, you can learn more systematic things.

In addition, it is important to note that in the process of communication, give the other party some responses appropriately, so that the other party can feel your respect, so that he can feel that you have understood because of his sharing, so that the chat will continue in a very pleasant atmosphere.

2. Seek opportunities to help the other party solve their difficulties

Everyone has their own advantages, and the strong cannot be strong in everything. Therefore, in the process of interacting with each other, we should be good at digging out each other's needs to see if we can help each other where we can, or provide some convenience to each other, so that the relationship can be more durable in the process of win-win with each other. <>

3. Strive to improve yourself and make each other more "equal".

Don't be presumptuous at any time, when you find yourself with a huge gap between yourself and the strong, what you have to do is not blindly look at self-pity, but do your best to improve yourself.

When you find that you have become a strongman in other fields, you will have more confidence to communicate with strongmen, because you are no longer one-sided outputs, but can exchange an equal amount of value with each other.

The so-called people who are stronger than themselves are only better than themselves in some aspects, or they are better than themselves in most abilities, but they must also have some weaknesses. Ma Yun is very rich and capable, but Ma Yun is short of time, and he must need someone to help him save time. How do you communicate with people who are better than you?

1. Look at what the other person needs.

What you can offer When you have a lot of one thing, there must be something missing in other projects, no one is omnipotent, and no one can do everything alone. When communicating with this type of person, we need to see where the other person needs help from others, and if we add ourselves to provide enough value and help in this regard, then there must be no problem in being able to communicate with them. This society is actually a cooperative relationship, and there is no need for the other party to reject you when you can provide value.

2. Actively ask for advice from people who are stronger than yourself.

Some capable people are actually very willing to provide some help, of course, provided that they are really worthy of their help and advice. When communicating with these people, you can use the attitude of asking for advice and learning, especially some elders, who will not reject a young person who loves learning and progress. See what strengths of the other person are worth learning and absorbing, and see the strengths of others rather than their weaknesses.

3. Be humble when communicating.

There are always some people who are unconvinced when they see that others are better than themselves. In fact, everyone must have something worth learning from others, and others must have their own methods to be strong, and there is nothing wrong with being humble. When you can communicate with an empty cup mentality, you can learn even more.

Interact with people, the most important thing is to be able to bring value and benefits to the other party, if you blindly ask for help from someone stronger than you, and for the other party, you do not have a little benefit, then who wants to associate with you?

So when you interact with someone who is stronger than you, you need to be able to find common intersections between both parties, which is the first step to start a relationship, to find a common language.

Here, I will first tell you a concept, in Taiwanese psychologist Huang Guangguo's famous work "Human Affection and Face: Chinese's Game of Power", the interpersonal relationship of Chinese is divided into three categories: instrumental relationship, mixed relationship, and emotional relationship.

The typical instrumental relationship is a stranger relationship, which follows the "law of fairness" in the interaction - if you agree, you come, and if you don't, you go"; The typical mixed relationship is an acquaintance relationship, which follows the "law of human affection" in the interaction - there is kindness to repay kindness, and there is revenge"; The typical emotional relationship is a family relationship or a relationship between relatives and friends, and the "law of needs" is followed in the interaction - each according to his ability, to each according to his needs". ‍

When we are able to foresee what we have done, the pleasure that others may generate, this imaginary pleasure that belongs to others may reach the same intensity in our own hearts. We are able to experience this subjective imagination of the pleasure of others (imagine how you feel when you surprise someone). In this way, happiness is doubled (the joy of helping others and the joy of imagining others).

Conversely, the same rule applies when others do not achieve the desired happiness as a result of our "good deeds." Finally, I would like to say that when interacting with people who are stronger than yourself, having kindness to "others" and taking the initiative to help others, when giving "others" the opportunity to become their own "own people", they also give "themselves" an opportunity to make "themselves" become "their own people" of others, which will make our "interpersonal pyramid" thicker and our lives happier.

The first point is that you can be envious, but don't be jealous, some people will say, envy and jealousy are not much different, it is true that these two emotions are not much different, but there is a big difference in the practice of these two emotions dominant, if you are envious, you will catch up, since you envy him, then you catch up with him, this is a more benign approach, but also a very healthy psychology.

But if you're jealous of him, you're likely to do something immoral, and I've seen a lot of people who are jealous of others and spread bad rumors that they want to ruin the good image of those people, and this kind of person is more disgusting.

So you can envy others, but you can't be jealous of others, and to put it bluntly, you don't want to do some irrational things, smear others, and spread rumors because of their toughness and excellence.

The second point is that you can have a good relationship with him, let him become your master, and have excellent people to teach you, then you will definitely not be bad.

We always say that in the workplace, connections are very important, but we are always worried that we don't have much brand power or resources to attract people who are stronger than ourselves, so we don't know how to interact with people who are stronger than ourselves.

First of all, how do you find someone better than yourself? How do you define someone who is stronger than you?

Some people think that those who earn more money than themselves are strong people; Some people feel that those with high performance are better than themselves; Some people feel that their boss is a person who is stronger than themselves, so when everyone defines a strong person, they may compare the strengths of the strong people with their own weaknesses.

Everyone has one of their own strengths, if a strong man is good at English, he doesn't need to be particularly good at English, so his life will only be boring, and his connections will be single. For example, he has a family, and he needs friends who can share the troubles and skills of parenting with him; For example, if he is very poor at writing, he needs to have a friend who writes well to partner with him; For example, he is in poor health, and he hopes that a dietitian friend can give him fair advice on diet.

So everyone's life is three-dimensional, and he needs people from all walks of life to communicate with him, so you can use your advantages to share resources with each other.

On the other hand, the users and fans of the strongman are also a way to get close to each other, and the strongman may also have some of his own products to sell, such as some self-a**talent will**give lectures, you can follow her courses, if her community becomes her student, asks and interacts with her, becomes her student, supports her and puts forward your suggestions as a student, and contributes to him to make better courses, so as to bring the relationship between you and the two of you closer.

When interacting with people, if you always interact with people who are lower than your own level, your heart will be slack, and people who can be at the same frequency with yourself are often the most difficult to meet, people want to go to higher places, so in the interaction with others, you should communicate with people who are stronger than yourself, so as to continuously improve your level.

It should be a kind of luck to meet people who are stronger than yourself, and interacting with people who are stronger than yourself will invisibly improve your ability. But there are a few things you need to pay attention to when dealing with people who are stronger than yourself:

1. Set the right mentality.

Not humble or arrogant, this is the principle that needs to be paid attention to in the interaction with people who are stronger than yourself, and you can't feel inferior and fearful because others are stronger than yourself; You can't always be jealous because others are stronger than you, this kind of psychology is not advisable. Learn more about the advantages of strongmen and make up for their shortcomings.

2. Introduce yourself.

Whether it's an online chat or an in-person chat, when introducing yourself to others, your self-introduction should neither be exaggerated nor too modest, and it is best to be concise and clear.

Online self-introduction should do a good job of electronic personal business cards in advance to facilitate others' links to you, offline business cards to others should be carefully made and printed, business card printing should not be too exquisite, concise and generous is the best.

3. Keep learning.

If you want to become a cow person, if you want to communicate with a cow person, then you must first allow yourself to integrate into different environments and learn to learn in different environments.

In short, when interacting with cattle or strongmen, it is important to learn to understand the personality traits of different people first, and recognize yourself in order to be able to better interact with others.