How serious is your cleanliness?

When they go to a supermarket, a store, a restaurant, the first thing they find is not which place is the cleanest, but which place is dirtier. What they are most excited to see is garbage, waste paper, and dirty things that will make them widen their eyes and breathe shortly, so we all think that people who are hygienic love cleanliness, but in fact they are looking for dirt all the time; Psychodynamically speaking, they like dirty things, but they don't allow themselves to have that need. In order not to be suppressed in this need, and not to have the moral anxiety of "not liking to be clean and sloppy", the clever brain has come up with the method of "cleanliness", so that the need to find dirty things is satisfied, and it does not make itself look bad.

As for why would they want to seek dirty? Actually, no, it's not that they think, it's all of us who want to, it's just that their desire is managed and suppressed too ruthlessly. Believe it or not, we'd love it to show the depth of the relationship between two people:

I grew up playing with mud with him, Balabala. We also like to eat food with all kinds of strange tastes: stinky tofu, stinky cinnamon fish, pork intestine, garlic.

So why there is a cleanliness fetish, is because he used to pitifully watch others play with mud and he can't play himself, he has lost his sense of control over himself, and now he can regain control and want to make amends. The man I've ever seen with the worst cleanliness fetish is not only spotless but his desk is the same distance from everything on it, and he's constantly checking his desk for dust. I just gently, gently put the keys on his desk.

He just looked at me with a broken face.

Speaking of cleanliness, a friend of mine should be considered moderately clean. When making tea with him, he always asked for a tissue to rub his teacup inside and out, and never drank tea from a dark teacup, and he wouldn't drink a single cup without a white teacup. When eating out, disposable tableware is the same, and it is necessary to boil water for a few minutes.

Every time I sit in my car, the first thing I do when I open the door is to pat the seat and draw a piece of paper to rub my hands, but fortunately, he has no habit of littering, and he waits until the destination to throw it into the trash can. I also often joke with him that you love cleanliness and can be cured. I also asked him why he loves cleanliness so much, and why he has to wash it again when it looks clean to the naked eye.

He said he couldn't get used to it.

I'm going to talk about a friend of mine who has a habit of cleanliness! When she was in school, she would wipe her table and stool with alcohol every time she didn't go to the table, every time!! She is not good at refusing, and every time her classmates borrow her pen to use it, she has to wipe it with alcohol when she comes back.

On the bus, he always stands, never sits in a place, and holds on to the handrail with disposable gloves. Take a shower twice a day, change clothes every time you wash, and don't like to walk hand in hand with others, girl! When we were students, we used to walk hand in arm with our friends, and we never saw her hold hands with anyone or have intimate contact with anyone.

I also asked her why this is the case? She doesn't know very well, but I can probably guess that it has something to do with her shadow as a child, and I don't know exactly what it is, but it's definitely acquired.

I've seen it, for example, when I get up in the morning and get dressed, I have to pat my clothes several times, and I wash my face, which takes almost half an hour, so my uncle is a person with a very serious cleanliness habit. As for psychology, I personally feel that it should be related to psychology and habits.

Before I went to Chengdu to run errands, I lived in my best friend's house, before I went, she told me to take a shower and then go, she said that the bathroom was full of water, and she knelt on the ground every time to wipe the floor with a towel, I ??? After arriving at her house, in addition to going to the toilet and using the bathroom, washing her face and brushing her teeth was in the kitchen, because she was afraid of getting water, and it was very troublesome to clean up. I'm wondering, don't you need to keep the bathroom for decorations?

However, their homes are really clean, just like the kind that can be directly slept on the ground!

I must wipe it with paper after I poop.