Why doesn t a man know that others are good to him? 5

There will be many people in today's society who are very practical, and if you are good to him, you will be very 'grateful' to him if you are good to him in terms of money and status. Generally speaking, if you don't have a material aspect, you don't think you're good to him, of course, that's what some people do. In short, the competition is too fierce now, and people's consciences are distorted.

If you are truly kind to everyone, you will move them, and as for those who don't know how to do it, don't bother with them.

Most people always ignore the people around them, the more familiar they are, the more harsh they are, as long as he has a little mistake, you will put the mistake to the maximum, so that you can't see his good, and there will always be a strange phenomenon in this society, you are good to him, but he can't see it, he is good to others, and others can't see him.

Because you are too self-conscious, you think that others owe him, or you are too used to him, so that he feels that he deserves.

It's human nature. You have to be calm. Let's tolerate it together.

will always forget the kindness of others to themselves; will always remember the bad that others have done to them; will always forget that he is bad to others; Always remember how good you are to others.

That's where he doesn't pay attention! If it's where he pays attention, then he should know, and maybe he just knows, but when it's a kind of indifference, it's not the same character!

Most people are very superficial, which is also related to the educational situation in today's society, which is too materialistic and impersonal.

I don't think it's because he doesn't know, it's just his personal reasons, maybe he doesn't want to get too close to others. It may also be related to some of his growth experience and personality.

Two: I didn't know what to do. Three: unkindness; .He is good to others, but others do not see him. .Because I don't feel for him...It's human nature. You. Everyone has their own different ideas, too.

Everyone has their own different ideas, and maybe others will ask why I didn't get a response when I was doing it for her good. I think that if you learn to understand and tolerate, you will find that you actually know everything

People are very real now ... But some people don't know on the surface but they know it in their hearts, and some people know it but they shouldn't be able to do it. Man is a very strange creature, which cannot be guessed or touched.

The people around him were too good to him, and he couldn't compare them, and he took it for granted that he was good to her.

Because he has not lost, he knows how to cherish when he loses.

for he is in the midst of blessings, and does not know blessings.

One: stupid; Two: I didn't know what to do.

Three: unkindness;

Good medicine is bitter, and loyalty is against the ear.

Because all men are selfish.

He'll know then!

You are very good to others, that is also your own feeling, you yourself think that you are good to others, but it does not mean that others have this feeling, maybe others think that you are not good to him, so he is not good to you.

If you are good to others in the right way, others can feel your goodness, and if you are good to others in the wrong way, others will not feel your goodness, so sometimes there is a misunderstanding between people.

For example, if someone likes to eat bananas, you have to buy him a lot of pears and keep giving him pears to eat. You think you're trying to be nice to him, but your kindness to him is something he hates very much, so he won't think you're good to him.

When a person doesn't feel that you are good to him, it is normal for him to be bad to you. We always like to analyze problems from our own point of view, and always feel that we are very good to others, in fact, others really feel good is good, others can't feel your good, no matter how hard you try to be good to him, it is in vain.

Then there is our goodness, which must be given to the right people. is the person who understands your sincerity, if your good is given to the wrong person, no matter how good you are to him, he just can't feel your good. Or maybe he doesn't take your good seriously, and he looks down on you in his heart.

Then stay away from this kind of person, why give your good to the wrong person?

Life is short, our pay is not so cheap, we have to pay our pay, pay to the right person, really understand your good people, know how to cherish your people, and not to give our pay and our good to others casually trampled.

The reason may be that others are ungrateful people. They don't take your kindness to them personally. So if you are good to others, you should treat them according to whether they are worthy or not.

It is in the value orientation, your kindness to others does not reflect the value that others want, and the return is not proportional to the normal category.

In the face of this situation, you have to analyze, are you good to him, and he is not good to you? Is it because you're too honest? If it really is, then you have to be armed and strong yourself.

Enrich and improve yourself, enhance your own advantages, and form others to have a date with you, and it is also necessary to talk about it!

Daniel Gorman, a professor of psychology at Harvard University and an expert on emotional intelligence, said in "Emotional Intelligence": "People with high emotional intelligence are able to clearly understand and grasp their own emotions, keenly feel and effectively respond to the emotional changes of others, and use all aspects of life." Obviously, such advantages make it easier for people to get along with themselves and others in life, and it is easier to feel the good side of life.

So how can you get along well with others and make yourself a popular person? First, pay attention to details.

1.Keep smiling.

Laughter is actually an effective psychology**. It is even called a "spiritual disinfectant" by psychologists, and has become a "**" that inhibits mental danger. Get in touch with humorous friends.

With them, humorous words can always be heard, and jokes make people happy. Sometimes I can get a lot of life insights out of laughter. I don't know how to deal with people.

Two aspects help you get out of the dilemma of getting along with people.

2.Be polite.

In this stressful society, politeness is an indispensable element. Unhappy things happen everywhere because they don't know how to be humble. For example, when everyone is queuing, someone suddenly rushes to cut the line, which is an annoying behavior.

3.Learn to praise.

If you want to make a good impression on others, when dealing with others, you have to be sincere, ignore selfish behavior, and give others appropriate praise on the right occasion and at the right time, so that others will like you more.

4.Remember other people's names.

Memorizing someone's name is an important means of winning someone's favor in communication. In the process of interacting with people, if you can remember other people's names, it will make people feel happy.

5.Considerate. An empathetic person always puts himself in the shoes of others, so as not to make others nervous and restrained, and not to embarrass others. Therefore, in the process of interacting with others, you must think from the other person's perspective and feel empathy.

6.Generous.

Generally speaking, a person with this quality must be broad-minded. Generous people are rarely indifferent to others and generally do not get angry with others easily.

7.Loyalty, integrity, and love.

If you want others to like you, you must have some basic qualities: loyalty, integrity, and caring. This is also the most basic quality that a person must have.

8.Learn to improvise.

People who are adaptable will consider the consequences of their own actions, calculate the possible actions of others, and carefully distinguish the intentions, motivations, moods, feelings, and thoughts of others.

9.Respect others.

If you give me a gift of peaches, I will return the gift with Qiong Yao. Respect others, others will respect you; If you like others, others will like you.

If you don't know how to be good to others sometimes, then you can be yourself, and if you give too much, you may not get the results you want, and you may even hurt yourself.

I think first of all, you must exercise your emotional intelligence, you must learn to do more things and talk less, and pay in obscurity, others will definitely know your goodness, and one day it will be rewarded!

You should adjust your mindset to be a little more positive, and you can also learn how others are good to others.

You should think about how your parents treated you well. Then you can be nice to others in this way.

We don't know how to be nice to others, first of all, how do others treat us? How do we reciprocate with others? Learn to tolerate others and help others.

If you are good to others, others may not necessarily remember it, but you may remember it in your heart, and you don't know it, and there is another situation, that is, what you say is good is only what you think, and others do not regard it as good, so there will be a difference between the two.

People are like this, once they get used to it, they will feel that everything should be and it is normal behavior.

Then when you lose, you find your goodness.

You also have to adjust your mentality, don't think too much, and be willing to pay. Otherwise, don't pay that much.

Or maybe what you think is good for her, but not in the form she wants. It's just what you think. It is really good to do what it likes.

Good luck!

It's like good things don't go out, and bad things spread thousands of miles.

It is easy for a person to remember that you are bad for him and not remember that you are good for him. Shengmien fights Mi Feud.

You have been helping him, being good to him, and he gets used to it, and then he doesn't think it's your good, he just takes it for granted.

Because what is easy to get is not cherished by othersIf you are too good to others, others will naturally not cherish them, but feel that you can't do without him, and if you don't know it, you still blindly treat others well, and others will naturally treat you as a fool.

You treat people sincerely, which shows your sincerity and kindness, but this society is not all sincere and kind people, there will be all kinds of villains, you need to beware of people who hurt you and don't know how to be grateful, you must have the ability to recognize people, see the true face of the people around you, and be far from the villain, close to the gentleman.

In addition, you have to change your way of life, all things in the world are the key to each other, people who are good to you, you are good to her, people who are not good to you, you don't have to be good to her, it is a little difficult to change your way of life, but it will make everyone dare not underestimate you, and no one dares to take you as a fool.

Finally,The best relationship between people is no relationship, if you have to have a relationship, it should be not far away, close to each other, sparse and close, harmonious and different, too close to anyone, too good to anyone will be a disaster.

Similar to each other, congratulations, others are good to you shows that you have what he likes, advantages, you can smile back, slowly contact, communication, if you find that you also like each other, then congratulations again, you have one more friend in your life, confidant.

People will encounter a lot of things in the process of interacting with each other, only more contact, more understanding, in order to understand how the character is, how the temperament, really treat each other sincerely, consider each other, do not deceive, do not take advantage, the relationship can last for a long time. Personal humble opinion, I hope it will be beneficial to you.

Hello, this situation may be because you are usually too selfish, too selfish, so it will be like this, if it is because you are usually too selfish, too selfish, then you should usually think more about others, think more about others, don't always think about yourself, think more from the perspective of others, in this way, others will be better for you.

If it's a pretty girl, of course, you have to beware of other people's intentions.

In general, you should thank others for their kindness. Cherish this affection.