Swedes respect children no

There is an old Chinese saying: "A person teaches his son in front of him, and he teaches his wife behind his back". In Sweden, however, the opposite is true: no one teaches children in front of them! This kind of teaching children concept and behavior truly reflects the parents' respect for their children's personality.

What we saw and heard in Sweden was refreshing. In the eyes of the Swedes, from the day they are born, they are treated with great respect. They generally believe that a child is a living individual who should have his own independent will and personality, and no one, including parents, has the right to go against the child's will and erase the child's personality.

Swedish parents show respect for their children in the details of their lives, for example, when Swedish parents talk to their children, they all crouch down to "keep up" with their children's size. This action is intended to tell the child that we are all equal.

When parents talk to their children, the tone is also "gentle and drizzly", rarely the kind of "command", most of them are "if you can do that, my mother and I will be very happy", "We are very happy that you can do this!" Let the child freely choose the right method or practice under the "big box" of parental guidance.

The most outstanding expression of Swedes' respect for children is that they never teach their children in front of others. Swedes generally believe that children also have self-esteem, and parents should respect their children's self-esteem and protect their children's "face" in any situation.

This is a shortcut and an important way to develop their self-confidence. In China, it is almost common for parents to scold their children loudly in front of everyone, scolding some "really unproductive", "really stupid", "uncompetitive things", etc., which are almost commonplace in China.

The Swedes believe that this method of education is simply a crime! Because it can seriously hurt their self-esteem and produce lifelong "low self-esteem" for children.

We also found that Swedish parents respected their children's education methods, and the results were immediate: in Sweden, we saw that children were warm and generous, polite, unhurried, always able to think of solutions, with a distinct spirit of originality, and never "afraid of the field". This is the result of a long period of "respect for education" by Swedish parents.

On the campus of Planton School in Stockholm, Sweden, there is a famous quote from the famous 18th-century British philosopher, thinker and educator John Locke: "The less parents publicize their children's faults, the more their children value their own reputation, and therefore more carefully defend themselves in the praise of others." If their parents publicly declare their faults and make them feel ashamed, the more they feel that their reputation has been damaged, the less they will be willing to defend it.

This is the "theoretical root" of the Swedes' "respect for education".