Engagement Wedding gift money? We are in a long distance relationship and are bothered by this

The biggest difference between a long-distance relationship and a local relationship is that you can't be together every day, and it feels very far away. In fact, there are many modern ways of communication, like ** is very good, but even **, there are not enough places, that is, there is no skin contact, there is no real sensibility, which is not good for the development of feelings, but it is also beneficial, that is, like an actor, you can put on makeup well before every appearance. Usually I mainly rely on text messages to communicate.

It is necessary to pay attention to the efficiency of communication, to feel more about the other party, and not just to rely on some so-called dialogue to feel the other party, such as the other party is obviously unhappy, and is still saying, no. This requires considerable emotional intelligence. Of course, the most important thing is to be honest with each other.

Otherwise, a long-distance relationship is difficult. Even if you are in a long-distance relationship, if it is not too far away, it is best to go for a few months. Even if it's for one day, it's better than staying for several days at once.

Of course, it has to do with everyone's financial situation.

What kind of attitude does your boyfriend have! It is at this time that the man comes out to preside over the overall situation!

Your boyfriend is the key, go and communicate with him to get a result.

Tell him what you really think about insecurity and other truths, and look at his attitude.

If I can't satisfy you, I suggest you divide it!

If you are satisfied, ask him to talk to their family, and you can talk to your family.

If you don't make your own decisions about this kind of thing, how will you live in the future!

I suggest that the two of you take out the money you can use to buy a house, and then buy daily necessities, and forget about the rest of the gold and silver!

Don't be too vain, too impetuous, life is still really good!

Your article is a bit long, but I think it's just these little things, it's normal for local customs to be different, parents on both sides communicate with each other, everyone is happy, provided that they understand each other, their key is also for your happiness, of course, there must be some considerations of their own, no one in this world is really selfless, really selfless, have gone to another world! The two of you want to strive for happiness on your own, and the idea of the elders can't be completely scrupled about different times, different concepts, and you have to pursue your own life.

I think you're a little too mature, and a lot of the results are achieved by the joint efforts of two people, and the gift money you mentioned and the purchase of a car and a house may not be able to get out of his home at all, and it's not a small amount.

You can also try to find someone who can take out so much money and you don't love I think as an adult should have your own thoughts and decisions It is impossible to let the family restrain everything in the family.

Are you from Haimen, Jiangsu? You look on the Internet, and now the highest gift money is **? Haimen is considered high, who of you stipulates that you have to buy a car when you get married?

If you don't have any money, why don't you rob it! If their family doesn't have much money, they should at least be sincere, and say something like that. I guess both of you are at fault.

I see that the early part is pulled down early!

Wow! Your article. Really detailed.

Hey, people nowadays are so realistic, everything has to do with money. It's like you can't do anything without money, yes. Look at what you said above, he is not the kind of man you really love.

Whether it's good or not, only you know.

Alas, passing by, I looked at it and felt that the long pain was not as good as the short pain, but it was better to divide it.

Now that I'm calculating like this, is it okay to get married? What's more, I live with my in-laws, the daughter-in-law who gave it for free is not worth much, don't let people look down on it, I have friends who are also like this, when they get married, they consider that the man's family conditions are not good, and they don't ask for anything, but they can be bullied by their mother-in-law's family, and try their best to cheat her dowry money to say that she is doing business, but she loses it, and her daughter-in-law gives birth to a child and does not help the confinement,,, and she is not married yet, think about it carefully.

If you use this money to buy something, your parents can bring you the money to buy you as a dowry. It's the same, on the contrary, if your parents pay for the dowry, the gift money is yours!

You tell your boyfriend that the procedure of 50,000 yuan is going to go, even if I bring it over again, people will say that the man has given 50,000 Caili, and your man is a bit brainless, Scrooge.

Bride price is a common custom in many places to buy electricity.

You can use the money to make money, of course, you may lose money, it depends on what you do.

The bride price money on our side is usually a formality, and it goes to the man's house on the day of the wedding.

To add money to Shenma love?

It means that you got engaged too early, you got the engagement object wrong, fortunately you are still only engaged, think about whether you are suitable or not, and don't regret it in the future.

Only you know if the shoe fits, so you should be insecure.

I don't love you, if you're good enough, you don't need to worry about that.

The key to a long-distance relationship that can lead to strangeness between two people, do you know what he is doing? If you love him, follow him, and if he goes, you go, and I am!

This shows that he has a woman outside, even more gentle and beautiful than you, and you should think about it yourself.

Hurry up and divide the words that were not good to you before you got married, do you still expect him to be better to you after you get married.

Illustrate that you are going to face a choice! He's already chosen!

It shows that he doesn't love you, at least not so much.

I bought a house in Shenzhen, and I will live in ** in the future, since I am engaged. Every time you go to Shenzhen, why can't you live for a while, and get rid of a busy job? You don't know what he's doing, and you don't know when he's going to come back.

Only give money you understand, excuse me, normal couples emotional exchanges, material exchanges, sex exchanges, do you account for that point?

He means he doesn't want to give you money.

It doesn't matter if it's worth dating, modern life is fast-paced and not engaged, and marriage is just a formality, the key is whether he is worth it or not, such as how he treats you, how about your family, whether he has responsibility, whether he has responsibility, this is what you need to investigate, don't easily walk into the siege, women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, don't choose a good one, only choose the right one, I hope you are happy, pure hand-to-hand, ask for approval.

First of all, it's a long-distance relationship, and I've only been together for half a month, I think it's unreliable, you don't know each other, I think you should be dating for a while, don't be too hasty.

You've been together for four years, how much do you know him, what kind of person do you think he is?

It shows that you meet a beast, a stupid person, who doesn't know how to cherish love, such a person doesn't have much potential, and he doesn't even know the true meaning of love...

Therefore, it is better for me to get married locally, because there are many people who regret their marriage due to customs and gift money. The foundation of love is not the ultimate guarantee, but also depends on the family environment. Think about it, the reality is like this, there is no true love.

It's best to ask in person, if this man really runs away from you because of money or etiquette, you can give up on him, because he will choose to avoid any big things in the future instead of facing it with you, give yourself a little time, and think about whether to continue!

Sometimes in specific circumstances, people will change some of their original ideas and have no hesitation, if you feel unwilling, ask to understand, after the two of you make it clear, he insists on leaving, then let him go, such a person is not a lifetime.

I think it should be deceived, or because the man's family has an accident and is in urgent need of capital turnover.

The bride price is not much, just agree, a girl raised to more than 20 years old, parents worry, parenting, education, family care when sick, etc., not you can think of, and go to your home so far, the family can agree to it is already good, don't just talk about it for money, money is all foreign objects.

Since you don't have the money, you can find a cheaper one, preferably upside down.

Let's talk about the bride price. A little less. If it doesn't work, there is no way, and you will be poor when you get married. And then go to loan sharks. You'll be poor for the rest of your life. If you can, you can get married. If you can't do less, you won't end it.

The key is that your girlfriend is okay, right? Just like my cousin's daughter-in-law said the same before, saying that the family must have a car and a house, and later I learned that it was actually his daughter-in-law's meaning.

If you don't tie the knot, you won't take it, and if you get married, you still have good fruit to eat.

Find relatives to borrow money to get married, and we have a lot of them here and pay them back slowly!

This situation is very common, the problem lies in the other party's parents, empathy, ask your parents, you should be able to get the answer.

You have to talk to your girlfriend about it, and if your girlfriend nods, everyone else will be fine.

There is no hurry to get married, and it is not too late to get married when you earn enough money.

When I was talking to my wife. Her parents disagreed. It's too far.

I asked her if you would like to come with me. Later, I went to Zhejiang with me. Previously in Guangdong.

When my wife was 7 months pregnant and returned to Guangdong. her mother off. But now it's good for me as a son-in-law.

This year, I asked her mother to borrow tens of thousands of quick money.

Take out a loan and pay it back when you have money.

If you love her, you will work hard to make money, and if you don't love her, you will be divided.

You can only borrow money and pay it back slowly.

How much? I can only cry and discuss, this can't be done.

Many people end up getting extra points because of this before they get married.

Sleep and conceive the child to see if they say yes.

If you're a woman, that's a question for you.

If the gift money is excessive, it depends on what your girlfriend means.

It depends on what you think about the object.

I don't have money to marry any daughters-in-law.

Get on the boat first, then buy a ticket, and cook raw rice into mature rice.

Your question depends on the two of you, in fact, what parents care about is whether their children are doing well, money is not a trivial matter, and honoring parents is not a matter of once or twice, the key is to have a filial piety. Your boyfriend is very self-reliant and self-reliant, but his family is good, and he can ask his parents for money when he gets married, after all, his parents have a good family background, and from what you said, you have more children, and your parents' life is not easy, so the man should pay more money. However, everything must be discussed, and don't hurt the harmony of both parties because of money.

Well, the reality is very cruel, the amount of gift money is not a big problem, mainly in the future life and noodles, firewood, rice, oil and salt These details can defeat love marriage, their family is good, and they have to pay for the down payment of buying a house, but it is better to save some by yourself, the group beating is always asking the family for money is not good, it is easy to have contradictions, it is recommended to watch "The Age of Naked Marriage", maybe you can understand something.

Gift money, our side (I am Guangdong) rules are the elders are responsible, after all, we young people do not have much savings, marriage is a major event in life, and it is also appropriate to discuss it with the family, and if his family is good, it is not too much to ask his family for gift money, I think it is better to reflect the situation to the man's family.

If he really wants to marry you, you don't have to worry about it! Before getting married, the woman's requirements should be met as much as possible, or the two families will have conflicts, and marriage is a good thing, but in the end, it will only make everyone unhappy.

Do you think you love him yourself? Now there are a lot of things that the man doesn't have, and if he likes it, he shouldn't care and care too much.

I don't know what the situation is at your boyfriend's house.

Zhi looks.

I think you're still very troubled.

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Because you also said that your family will give you 100,000 yuan as a dowry, so I don't understand why you still ask your boyfriend's family for 60,000 dowry? Maybe they really can't take it out?

You say that men are more realistic and women are more emotional? I don't agree with that.

It is the woman who is more realistic, and every woman will see if the man is willing to spend money for himself. I would do the same.

You also said that if your boyfriend really loves you, he should do everything he can to get it?

I don't think it's really necessary. Is it rare that you want their family to find someone to borrow from a loan shark first, borrow 60,000 yuan, and then pay it back when you bring the dowry over?

Since you can say that your family will give 100,000 yuan as a dowry, your family's economic conditions should be quite good. In fact, in this case, you should not ask the other person too much, so that he will also remember your good. I will be grateful in the future.

On the contrary, you have to ask for a bride price of 60,000 yuan, and you also said that you will bring it with you when you get married, so don't you lift a stone and shoot yourself. Why bother?

It's really not worth breaking up for this thing.

Maybe you think I'm fake, and my back doesn't hurt when I stand and talk. But you can really think about it by comparing your heart to your heart. You must be a good girl and have not asked for a house and a car anymore. That's hard to come by.

In fact, people live in the world, money is a good thing, but what is more precious than money is affection, and it is the true affection that cannot be bought by any amount of money.

You're not a fuel-efficient lamp!

You want 60,000 yuan, which is not much at all. Return.

If you agree, there will be bitterness in the future.

Answer: Head eat. What sells girls?

It's simply a rogue pretext.

People who don't even want to spend money, just want to take possession of your youth.

I'm from the past, naked marriage, my husband loves me, and now I'm not happy at all. Every time, he is furious for his mother and wants to leave.

The old lady in the countryside died proudly, his son was so powerful that he married his daughter-in-law without spending a penny, and even looked down on this worthless daughter-in-law.