Please help me analyze a social issue

Maybe she's too proud, or you're too unfamiliar.

But this is not a thing, they are all social people, and they have a lot of trouble, so how can they have time to pay attention to the subtleties of others.

Like me, I care a lot about what other people think! Causes yourself to be overly sensitive.

When facing this kind of problem, you should think more about whether you have provoked her, otherwise it will be incompatible, this kind of person is useless to make friends, she will not treat you sincerely.

First of all, interpersonal social problems are a very common problem, many people will have more or less communication problems, of course, everyone deals with it differently, the results are different, interpersonal communication is a skill, lack of this skill or unskilled, this is not a disease, just need more practice, more communication, more contact, in the process of each interaction, sincerely to learn, learn the strengths of others.

If the premise of the relationship is to obtain some kind of benefit, then there may be a similar fear of being seen through, so. Sincere communication, treat people with sincerity. People or things that you are not used to looking down on or look down on, you can only choose not to socialize, but you must not evaluate, especially not to evaluate behind your back.

For people or things that choose to socialize.

Think more about what you can do for them. Social fear is only an external problem, and the root of fear is generally deep in the soul, which is not subjective, but the inevitable result of the weakness of the natural self; You can overcome it through external training, but it's not good to do that, because that doesn't eliminate the root of the problem, it's a forced restraint.

Family. Generally speaking, when you have social fear and anxiety, especially when you are afraid of disgrace, you are very uneasy, and you are afraid of being said to be a very serious illness, you have no sense of certainty and control over yourself in the depths of your soul, and at the same time, there is more repressive energy in your body and mind; A mature person needs to have a sense of grasp and control over his physical and mental growth, which is the feeling of self-determination; It is obvious that you have surrendered your body and mind to someone else, and this is the result of a loss of self or a dilution of the self.

In such a situation, when you are alone, you can occasionally feel the loneliness and emptiness in your heart; These are also the result of a weak or undeveloped ego. In your case, I suggest that you participate in systematic psychological learning counseling, so that your nature can grow up by yourself, and you can grasp your own state from the depths of your soul, and only after resolving the psychological conflict and repressive energy can you completely solve the problem.

Don't worry so much, be open-minded, even if you say it, it's okay to say it wrong (but I don't mean to deliberately attack others), and there are secrets that this society is not a big deal.

Isn't it despised to ask questions with poor grades and stupid mouths?

You have to be confident and believe that you are strong. Welcome to answer for you, thank you for your praise, I wish you a happy life, ask me my grades are too bad, I really have always been the countdown, and my grades are very good, too inferior, it is impossible to have self-confidence? Alas, answer.

So you have to study hard and prove that you can do it? People can't do it in all aspects, maybe you can't do it, and others can do it better than others.

Don't feel inferior. You have to believe that you are better than others, and good grades do not mean that others are better than you, and you are happy.

Question: There is a girl who sees my stupid mouth and likes to find fault with me, I don't understand and pretend to understand and am speechless, and I don't want her to debate, what should I do.

We're happy to help you! Is there anything you can help with? What's wrong with socializing?

After a while, when everyone is no longer angry, find a suitable opportunity, or find a roommate to help you mediate between you.

Question, but I feel like she's talking to me everywhere now, and of course I care about her, and I want to target each other [tears].

I'm helpless.

When she speaks, you don't interject, don't give an opinion.

Ask a question, she always looks at me, just now I confessed that she doesn't care about me, I feel that the form is more embarrassing now, woo woo, answer why do you want which pot not to open and which pot? Now you need to be silent, don't talk to her for a while. Dear

The problem is not all in reading books, is it that you have little experience in society, are you withdrawn, not good at talking, or you and your friends are not the same hobbies, for example, your friends like some topics in the military, and what you like in games, there is no common topic, you must first find out your own reasons, in fact, books and reality are also two worlds,

Personal advice:

First of all, you have to have faith in yourself, you have to believe that you can fit in with them. In fact, the topics we talk about in daily life don't seem to be very profound, as long as you say it boldly, there must be a topic.

In daily life, read more newspapers, learn more about the world in society, and read more books when you have time. There is no communication book, to be able to read once, can immediately improve you, you only have no matter how to learn, increase your own thickness...

Speaking of books, I would like to introduce you to the books that I personally feel have influenced me! In your daily life, you can also use the Internet to listen to more speeches, such as "Chen Anzhi's Speech", "Kim Zhengkun's Etiquette", "Hundred Lectures", "Yu Minhong's Speech" and so on.

I hope I hope I find this helpful.

Let's not talk about your character, I just want to tell you that people get along with each other, it's like a mirror, you smile at the mirror, the mirror side will laugh, you are taciturn, the mirror side must be like this, your taciturn personality will make others think that you are difficult to play together, I will give you some advice, you don't hurt to listen.

Usually be generous, prepare a pack of cigarettes at any time, meet friends, give them cigarettes, prepare some candy on your body, meet girls, give them some to eat, over time you will have some friends around you to open up and chat with you, you might as well invite them to eat and drink KTV, they will slowly understand you in the future, what you pay, there will be unexpected returns for you, believe what I said.

Everyone's perception of life will be different as they get older, but I just want to say be yourself. Think about what the classmates who have impressed you the most are like, and make a reference.

Open your heart, in fact, I am also very introverted, but I see it openly, and I have an open-minded heart, so I live a very happy life. Happiness is contagious, and only when you are happy first can you bring your friends to be happy.

Communication is a need for people themselves. So you feel like you're alone.

That is, you need to get into their circle of communication to get the information you need. You need to care about the topics they care about, you need to understand their needs so they can respond to you. It's like someone gives you a gift, and you think about how to give the right gift in return.

I'm pretty much like you! But I'm happy to live because I don't guess what other people think of me.

As long as I treat everyone around me with sincerity, I will be happy! Friends together, sometimes without talking, without feeling embarrassed - are real friends! Don't ask people how they are doing!

Ask yourself how you treat others. Thank you.. I hope you can live happily!

It's similar to what I used to be, because I'm introverted, I don't like to talk, I give a good impression to others, and the reason for not chatting with you is that I don't know what to talk to you about, and the man chats with you, and you have no topic, and I feel that there is nothing to talk about in language communication, and the woman chats with you, and you don't have a topic, and it's easy for people to feel embarrassed and misunderstood, and you can try to communicate with others, and you can trust yourself no matter what you talk about.

Have you ever paid? Why do you want others to reply to you, you never call others**Don't text others, why ask others, if you send them, it's their fault if you greet them,

There's no problem, a lot of people are like that. You can be a little more lively and tell more jokes or something in class.

You can try to take the initiative to care about your friends. There's no need to talk to them about what's hot or what's going on. Be good to them with your heart, be good to every friend around you who is worth socializing, in fact, people's character is not born.

My brother used to be very introverted like you. Now I'm at work. out of society.

A lot has changed. It's a joke too. It's also more gregarious.

Try changing the way you do things. Start by being kind to the friends around you. Good without expecting anything in return.

No matter what they do to you, you think he's a friend to befriend. Then go straight ahead.

Dealing with people and making friends is not something that can be changed in a day or two. It's been a long time. You will feel the charm of the word "brother".

。。。A group of people were tricked by the bounty...

Sad, uh, passing by...

Actually, what you're saying isn't a problem, I guess you must be a mediocre boy, right? You know, usually people focus on the best and the worst people, of course I mean in school, mediocre grades, mediocre looks, if you add people with mediocre family conditions, it's hard for people to remember you. Don't you have any special hobbies?

If so, I suggest you develop your hobby, get out of your dorm, get out of the house, and participate in sports or activities so that you can get to know more people. Don't lock yourself in your dorm and surf the Internet as a profession, it's very wrong. Gradually, you get away from everyone.

Going to get out, you know? And you have to dress up yourself, and you have to be willing to spend some money, even if you take the initiative to invite your classmates to a meal or something. Don't feel inferior, be confident.

Landlord, I think as a man, you owe someone a drink. Drinking alcohol can connect a lot of feelings and make a lot of good friends.

Lack of self-confidence in getting along with people and lack of active conversations. For example, when sending text messages or going to QQ, you must first find the topics that interest everyone before you can continue to talk.

Dude and your personality is quite similar to the fact that it's not a big deal.,Everyone has their own personality.,Anyway, I haven't loved and socialized since I was a child.,Now it's no topic to chat with people.,Say 2 sentences and over.。 Anyway, I want to have nothing to do, or I'm going to play the game.

The so-called nature of the country is easy to change, and it is difficult to change even if you know the reason. I'll give you a suggestion to find a girlfriend to ink you, and I guess you'll be less depressed. Or you ink her too, you have to insist on it, oh, it must have an effect, hehe!

You don't like to take the initiative, if you can take the initiative to play with others, or take the initiative to ask others to QQ**, whatever, what you lack is initiative! Let go a little, you can't die! Bye-bye, it's all what mortals are afraid of, are people still afraid of people!

Have you tried to get to know them, or you have understood them, but you haven't communicated with them, talking about your usual encounters, adventures, happy things, ugly things, etc. You haven't said anything, and you don't want to say it, you yourself say that you are introverted, so why not go to a happy place to go to friends!!

In a word, you still haven't communicated with others,,, you have to learn to communicate with others, only by being able to communicate can you have a good life.

In your future work too, there is no achievement without communication

You have to talk to your classmates a lot, let go of yourself, and the stress will go away.

Do you have a particularly good friend? Landlord?

In my opinion, it is because of your introverted personality, and you usually don't like to communicate with everyone. Other people don't know you for this reason, or can't know what you really think. It's not that they don't want to talk to you, but because they don't understand you and are afraid of saying the wrong thing, so if you can't communicate with your surroundings because of this, you should open your heart and communicate with the people around you, so that others can understand what kind of person you are, understand or know your character, and maybe you will have an intersection with everyone, if you are bold to talk about something with your classmates, boldly say your thoughts, you will be integrated into it, and you will not feel lonely.

This is just my personal opinion, you can make some adjustments according to your situation. As a boy, you shouldn't be introverted, a boy, you should be extroverted, you can't always talk to yourself, don't communicate with people around you.

If he comes to you, he will say everything you should have said, and explain it. Then don't be distressed. I never thought of friends as fake, nor did I think friendships could be broken so easily.

In fact, if you want to prove that you have not answered the question, let him ask the teacher, isn't it? Maybe you're both angry, and you may have rushed a little bit to speak. Feelings are also above reason.

Maybe you feel hurt, don't you? But in any case, as long as you answer, as long as you explain afterwards. Then you have worked hard for this friendship.

Just stop tossing yourself and worry about it, okay? People must learn to love themselves and be kind to themselves. Give yourself a little time and give the other person a little time.

The two of them were silent. I believe that if it is a friend, he will come to talk to you and take the initiative to find you, because I believe that if you have not helped him, it is not difficult to know the truth of this matter. But I prefer that you reach out to him.

Because when he finds out that he is wrong, he will feel especially embarrassed for you. It may be more hesitant to speak to you. But if you call him a friend, then it's up to you to talk to him after you've been quiet for a few days.

Tell him that the friend is not called fake. You still think of him as a friend. Just a smile is OK.

But you can be kidding. Tell him, next time I hurt you unintentionally, remember to take the initiative to come to me. Friends are friends.

The camaraderie is real. Bless you all. Let's work hard for friendship.

The upward curvature of the corners of the mouth is the most beautiful.