I like my roommate, how do I deal with my feelings?

Falling in love with your own roommate is gay. So do you feel like you're gay yourself? Homosexuality is no joke.

Think about yourself if you have ever liked the opposite sex before. If there is, then I think you can still be saved. The point is that I think you are still young at this time, and you may have confused this liking.

The liking between classmates is not the same as the liking between people of the opposite sex. I think it's very likely that you yourself made the liking between classmates into the kind of liking between lovers.

I think the first question now is that you need to figure out what kind of liking you like your roommates, and that's one of the most important things. If you don't figure it out, if you stay away from your roommate like this, you may have a bad relationship, and if you just like your roommate and classmates, what should you do? I lost a good friend in vain.

If you really like your roommates, it might be a bit of a problem. But fortunately, you don't want to be like this yourself, so there is still salvation. I think you can look for your roommate's shortcomings, but don't tell your roommate on the surface, just think about it yourself.

Then you go and look for the opposite sex that can make your heart flutter, and this new relationship is the best way.

Although I don't reject homosexuality, I still think that if there is no homosexuality, there will be none. It's better to be heterosexual. And I think you're also afraid that you're gay, so I think you should look for the opposite sex more, maybe even if you're gay, your sexual orientation may be able to change back.

With the changes of the times and the progress of society, the feelings between people of the same sex are no longer as disgusting and shameful as they used to be. All beings have love, so why should we be confined to this gender?

Although, your relationship will be supported by most of your friends, but this is only a matter between you and your roommates, your friends and family respect your feelings, it does not mean that your favorite roommates will understand your feelings, because according to the current social situation, the vast majority of people still give preference to the opposite sex as their spouse or accompany their study career partners.

First of all, you have to determine his sexual orientation, if his sexual orientation is still popular, then please bury your feelings, otherwise, once you go blindly to confess, or do too radical activities, then I believe that not only in life, you will not only meet him or not, but you will also have a huge estrangement with your other roommates.

From the perspective of your other roommates, for example, my roommate is gay, so although I respect his sexual orientation and respect his relationship, then I will also pay attention to the way I interact with him, and I will even be overwhelmed, how to treat our relationship? Or do you become brothers like the rest of your roommates, or do you treat you like the opposite sex?

Secondly, the way you determine his sexual orientation can not be asked directly, this is a very embarrassing private emotional problem, hold back the anxiety in your heart, find an opportunity, drink and talk again, or when the girl is tired from shopping, when other topics talk about the heart, feel free to mention this question, if he says it doesn't matter, then I wish you a lover to eventually become a family!

If the person is in an aversionous tone, please follow the above practice to hide your inner feelings, so that not only will it not affect your normal relationship, but even if you can't be together, you can silently accompany her and spend a good time with him.

Love knows no gender, if you already like it, you can't change it, so you only have to control your feelings, because the other party may not like you, especially if you like the same sex, although there is a very classic sentence, I don't like the same sex, just happen to like you are the same sex, when you find out, please put it in your heart, don't tell others, maybe over time, you will find that you don't like him anymore, don't tell each other, it will cause trouble to the other party, in this era, Not everyone can accept homosexuality, even if he accepts, it doesn't mean that he will like you, so just like it silently, just get along with him as before, and don't let others see the difference in your feelings for him, as long as there are some rumors, it will be infinitely expanded, causing very bad consequences.

Since you already like you, then learn to forget slowly, stay with the opposite sex more, or go to a girlfriend and like the opposite sex, maybe you finally find out that you don't like your roommate, it's just your own delusion, so you can think about it, do you really like your roommate. If you like your roommate too much, then stay away from him, of course, you can't stay away directly, you can find some excuses, stay away slowly, others will only think that the two of you don't get along well, and won't think of other things, two people often don't get together, and the relationship will slowly disappear, then let it go with the wind, let yourself have a normal life, and follow your dreams.

Or you can also keep yourself busy, don't let yourself think about these things, once a person is busy, he won't think about anything, you can also think more about the other party's shortcomings, put the other party's shortcomings in front of you, you will also dislike this person, anyway, is to stop all your feelings for him.

I think everyone has the right to like someone else, and we like that person is the person, not age, status, money, or gender. The so-called homosexuality, but the soul of the person you like happens to live in the body of a person of the same sex. I don't think there's anything disgraceful about liking your roommates, it's just that our country isn't tolerant enough of gays and lesbians right now, but I believe that with the progress of the times, sooner or later this kind of group will be understood by the public.

Two days ago was the birthday of his brother Leslie Cheung, when it comes to Leslie Cheung, many people should remember that he has a boyfriend named Tang Hede, when the two of them were together they did receive a lot of pressure, but they both tried their best to protect each other from harm, they went shopping together, and even held each other's hands tightly when they knew that they were being followed by the paparazzi, as if announcing to the world that they were together, even if they were not recognized, they never gave up their beloved. The moment my brother jumped off the building, he was as proud as a warrior, and the moment he landed, many people's hearts were broken.

There is also Twilight Girl Christine, who announced her coming out of the closet in a high-profile manner after breaking up with her boyfriend, and then was photographed showing affection with her girlfriend, I think she is more handsome than boys with short hair, this handsomeness is from the inside out, confident, proud, brave, without a trace of timidity, I think this also inspires countless people to have the courage to pursue their true love. Therefore, liking is liking, there is really no need to deliberately hide, others can not recognize, but this is not a reason to give up, just say it if you like it, hard work will not necessarily succeed, but it will never succeed if you don't work hard.

You can find out what type of roommate you like, and then think about whether you need to pursue a chase plan.

We may like many individuals in our lives, or we may have only one person who can leave a deep impression on our hearts and let them grow up with us, grow old, and pass away. Then my personal suggestion can be considered as discretionary as following your heart.

If you like your roommate, you first get to know your roommate for a period of time to see if your roommate likes it, if you like you, you can confess to your roommate, if your roommate treats you as a friend, you don't have to confess, just be a good friend.

I think you can often send her WeChat or text messages to find out how she feels about you, and when she is used to your company, you can prepare a dinner at home, and then surprise her when she comes back and confess to her.

Or immediately interrupt your thoughts, if you continue it will be very troublesome, your liking is the kind between friends, or the kind of liking of sexual interest, if there is a problem with sexual interest, or immediately interrupt or you will need to see a doctor, don't be difficult to extricate yourself and regret it later.

What should you do if you like your roommate (you know that you can't change the dormitory), you must dispel this idea because you have a problem with your sexual orientation and must be adjusted.

First of all, you need to adjust your mentality, you need to know that you come from different places, have different values and worldviews, come from different families, and have different economic levels, so that you can seek common ground while reserving differences, and then please keep silent, don't let the other party know, otherwise you will not be happy.

Try to like other people first, it may be just a whim, if it still doesn't work, just leave it to fate.

You take a look at you first, what kind of personality do you say is the same as you, don't slowly understand it, you want to scare people away as soon as you come up, s go with the flow.

Such thoughts should not be problematic in the first place, so such thoughts must be removed.

That kind of thing is still quite special, you should first understand what your roommate's relationship is with you, and then see what to do.

I really need to ask what your roommate thinks.

If you like your roommate, then you have to see if he likes you or not? If he doesn't like you, don't bother him!

In the same dormitory, you must know how to help each other. If your roommate needs help, don't be stingy with your concern and do what you can to help your roommate.

Then it depends on the feelings of your roommate, if she doesn't like your boyfriend, you don't have to worry, after all, you have an emotional foundation together, if your roommate likes your boyfriend, then it's up to you, communicate with your boyfriend more, because after all, you are not married, anyone can compete with you fairly, which requires you to pay attention.

1. Keep your distance. Avoid communicating with her too much and try to avoid group activities with her, which can reduce the possibility of unpleasant trouble. If she does something you don't like and offends you, the best thing to do is to turn a blind eye and not pursue it, and once you do, you will feel very distressed, and my experience is to leave the dorm room and avoid her, and do something else to distract you, such as running, going out shopping with good friends, etc.

Second, do not expand the contradictions. Living in a dormitory, looking up and not looking down, although there are some contradictions, but don't speak ill of each other and fight, which will not only affect your image in the hearts of other roommates, but also be very embarrassing. It is very unwise to have a dorm room with someone you don't like and affect your mood and eventually delay your studies and work, on the contrary, you need to study harder, which can not only divert your attention, but also reduce the time in the dormitory and reduce the probability of conflicts.

3. Use changing dormitories as a last resort. Changing dorms is not a good way to do this, as other roommates will definitely have a little opinion of you because of this, and you can't guarantee that your new dorm won't run into similar situations, so it's best not to change dorms unless it's really unbearable, or you'd better think about how to reduce conflicts.

Fourth, empathize and find reasons from yourself. It takes two to tango. If two people have a conflict, there must be problems on both sides.

When someone offends you, you might as well think about why she doesn't mess with others and comes to provoke you, most likely because you have offended her before. If it's your fault first, you might as well take a step back so that everyone is fine, and if it's the other party's fault, everyone can also sit down and negotiate a settlement amicably. In fact, as long as a dormitory friend is kind, it won't be too much of a conflict.

It's good not to have too much intimate contact, each has its own way, roommates are just people who get along with each other for a period of time, not relatives, so don't care too much.

Apply to the counselor or class teacher for a dormitory, and maintain a superficial friendship with the other party before changing the dormitory, so that the well water does not interfere with the river water.

Change dorms or when the other party is air. After all, it is impossible for everyone to be satisfied with everyone, and it is still the most important thing to make yourself happy.

The best way is to move out and live on your own, maybe you and your roommate's lifestyle is different, and if you don't like it, you won't live with her.

I think you can be out of sight, since you don't like your roommate, then don't have too much contact with her to avoid conflicts with her.

You can ask the dormitory manager to apply to see if you can change the dormitory, you can't see him, and you can't care about what he does.

You can talk to your roommate first to see what the discord between the two people is like. I really can't do it, so I look for a house outside and move out.

It's good to be yourself, why force yourself to like your roommates, and don't expect others to accommodate you, people now live in their own world, have their own way of life, and respect each other.

If you like your roommate, it's best to give up the relationship!

The dormitory is a closed space relative to the society, and it is easy to cultivate a dependent relationship, which is a normal psychological need, just like in a Hollywood movie, two people who don't know each other fall into a closed environment that is opposed to the whole society, and naturally develop a love that the masses like to see. But it's a movie after all.

In today's society, everyone is still very conservative about this cognition, so it is difficult to have a good result, and you don't know what the other party thinks, if the other party doesn't want to have something to do with you, then you are not very embarrassed, it will affect your mood and affect your reputation.

You can change dormitories and don't see him often, so that your feelings for him will gradually fade and eventually disappear. You can also watch some romantic movies to cultivate your feelings for the opposite sex, and then participate in more social activities to integrate into the larger circle.

You also need to participate in more sports, exercise can make your mood better, and your willpower will become stronger, so that you can easily face your feelings for him, and you can meet many people when you exercise, maybe you can find true love while exercising. You can listen to more positive songs and watch some inspirational movies, which can help you get out of this relationship, don't be discouraged, life is very long, don't be pessimistic about life because of this little thing, believe in yourself, you can deal with the scene of liking roommates.

To accept the reality, it is not worth regretting to give up such feelings. The essential reason is that each other is not the right person. So you have to think about whether this relationship is wrong and not suitable for each other.

The sooner you accept reality, the less damage you will suffer. This may be a life barrier set by God for you, and you are in awe of fate. Don't fight against fate.

You may not know why God arranged it this way, but one day you will understand.

In short, give up this relationship, this is my advice to you.