Since when have you become more and more reluctant to talk to your elders?

I think maybe just when you were chatting with your elder, he suddenly said to you, when are you looking for a partner? What is your salary. How are you alive in your city, how are you living?

I think at this time I am becoming more and more reluctant to talk to my elders.

I think when some elders say something more traditional, or when they say something in their time, they feel more abrasive, and I think it may be because of the generation gap, so I don't want to talk to them.

As I get older, I feel that when I was fourteen or fifteen years old, I didn't want to talk to my elders anymore, but now at the age of twenty-four or five, I like to chat with them more and more.

When I feel that the emotions of the elders are not too stable, I will try not to chat with the elders, so that I can not anger them, but when the elders are unhappy, I need the juniors to relieve their boredom, so everyone's situation is different, and in general, I should chat with the elders more.

I may have been in my second year of junior high school and the more I came and went, the more reluctant I was to talk to those elders, because I felt that these elders were very abrasive, and said something useless, probably because of my adolescent relationship, so I felt that I didn't want to talk to those elders anymore.

I have always been willing to chat with my elders, but if I am particularly tired or tired, I will tell them tactfully that I don't want to talk to them today, or when the elders are angry, I will try to avoid chatting with them, so as not to be affected.

When I was in junior high school, I officially entered the rebellious period of adolescence, I refused to communicate with all the elders in the family, and when I grew up, when I wanted to talk to the elders, I found that I had nothing to say to the elders, and I didn't know what to say.

Actually, I like to talk to my elders very much, but sometimes I don't like it, because they always ask me about my scores, and when I do well, of course I'm happy to tell them, but when it's not good, when I ask me, I don't do well in the test, and when I ask me again, I'm even more annoyed, and I don't like it at this time.

We have always longed to grow up, because after growing up, we can take on the responsibilities of adults and reduce the burden on our parents, but we didn't expect that when we grow up, our relationship with our parents will become more and more distant. Here's the thing, a female netizen asked, from going to college to knowing friends and now participating in work, she feels that her relationship with her parents is becoming more and more estranged, and she usually has nothing to talk about, why is there such a situation in Zhonghuai? What are the reasons for feeling more and more estranged from your parents?

One. When you go to college, you and your parents don't have the same perspective.

Presumably, this netizen is also very depressed in his heart, otherwise he would not have written nearly 1,000 words to talk about the relationship with his parents. From your remarks, I have distilled three key points, which we will analyze one by one from these three aspects, and then find out the reasons why there is no topic to talk about with your parents. First of all, you are already a college student after college, and your parents and family are from the countryside, so in terms of this relationship, your vision is different.

I believe in a saying very much, that is, the vision determines the mind, because they have not seen the outside sky, so they can't understand your current thoughts, and the disagreement of views is your biggest problem now.

Two. I don't have anything to say to my parents because you live in a different environment.

The second is your living environment, going to college and working, you are in other places, and your parents still live in their original place, decades of living habits, have fixed their thinking to the difference in living environment, resulting in your views and plans for life are also very different. In their eyes, opening a small restaurant and living your life in a down-to-earth manner is the best choice, and you must be more yearning for a better and higher pursuit outside.

Three. Your parents have patriarchal tendencies.

Finally, I think your parents may have some patriarchal tendencies, or some misconceptions about women. Why do women have to stay at home with their husbands and children? If your parents want your future to be focused on your family, then why send you to college?

It is unacceptable for you to have seen the wonderful world out there, and then to put you back in the cage again. Now is a new era, men and women are equal, everyone has the right to pursue and pursue their own bright future independently, why should girls be willing to be housewives? I am very supportive of your struggle with your parents, you can't go to college in vain, your future is up to you!

You can't change your parents' minds, but you must stick to your heart!