Why don t you want to talk to your elders?

Every time I talk to my elders, I feel that their thinking is very backward, and they don't understand what I say to them, so after a long time, I will feel that chatting with my elders is very boring, and I won't talk to them like this. <>

Because in the process of chatting with them, there will always be some questions that you don't want, such as when you are in school, they will ask you how your grades are, whether you have written your homework, and when you grow up, they will ask you whether you are in love, whether you are married, whether you have children, I think it is very annoying. <>

The thoughts are not on the same channel, everyone is talking and going off topic, and they are sometimes very stubborn, very stubborn, you talk to him, he sometimes thinks it is wrong, he will fight with you there, you feel very angry, but you are embarrassed to quarrel with him.

It may be because the age gap between everyone is too large, and the elders always talk in a posture of teaching, so they don't like to chat with them, and there is a generation gap with them.

What you mean is not at all on the same channel as what they understand.

Because many of our views are different from those of our elders, the elders do not understand the views we express, and even refute us, saying that our views are not correct, and always insist on their views, and when we say something, they don't understand us, so we don't want to talk to them.

Because they talk and talk to death, they usually ask questions that you find embarrassing, or that you don't want to do, so they feel annoyed and don't want to talk to them, but if possible, they still want to get along with them.

Because they are very different from our era, and then they encounter some things with different ideas and attitudes, they will always preach about my things, especially don't like them to preach to me, I don't want to listen, and there are some things they don't understand at all.

If the communication is effective, this problem will not exist, then, why is the communication ineffective, because the parents do not accept it, they think that they are not wrong, or, knowing that they are wrong, but they are unwilling to apologize because of the face of being parents, their inner activity is "Although I am wrong, but as your father, I have no word to apologize to you, as your father, what is it like to apologize to your juniors", they need this kind of thinking to maintain their self-esteem as elders, and this kind of thinking, It is something that we cannot understand and cannot accept.

I think chatting with the elders is equivalent to a landmine, if you are older, if you don't find a partner, they will urge, why don't you find a partner, you will ask a lot of questions before you get married, so you feel so helpless, they are talking to you alone, I think this is why I don't want to talk to the elders.

I don't really like to chat with my elders, first of all, there is no common language between the two generations, sometimes the topic can't be found, and sometimes I will go off topic when I talk about it, just like my grandfather and I never chat, after chatting, my grandfather is a special nagging, there is nothing serious, and you can't refute it.

The main reason is that there is no New Year's flavor, and when I go home for the New Year, everyone is playing with their mobile phones, and they are absent-minded when they speak, and they don't feel the feeling of family affection.

When I came home for the New Year, whether it was a New Year's greeting or a dinner, almost everyone had a machine, lowered their heads, looked at their mobile phones, and talked absent-mindedly, and the old people looked at it and could only shake their heads helplessly. Nowadays, everyone has mobile phone syndrome, especially young people, who can't do without their mobile phones for a moment.

So let's analyze, what is the reason why everyone can't do without mobile phones?

First of all, I am worried that there is ** not received and things will be delayed.

Secondly, you are worried that there is a message coming and you need to reply immediately, for fear that your friends will misunderstand you.

With the rapid development of science and technology, modern things have infiltrated into the bits and pieces of people's lives, making our lives more convenient and comfortable, among which mobile phones are high-tech products of this era, up to seventy or eighty-year-old people, down to five or six years old children, many are using mobile phones.

In the morning, use the mobile phone to alarm the clock, open your eyes, you have to take the mobile phone to see the time, basically replacing the role of the alarm clock, the next thing is to hold the mobile phone and start to brush Weibo, look at WeChat ......After reading the gossip and chatting, open the game software on the phone, play the game, or watch**. Anyway, on this day, I was playing with my mobile phone at dinner, and I was looking at my mobile phone when I went to the toilet, and I felt that in addition to sleeping, the rest of the time was glued to the mobile phone.

If the phone is gone, it's a big deal, turn the house upside down or don't stop, even if you don't play, you have to shoot with him, or you will be upset and upset, and things won't be done well.

Nowadays, people are more and more inseparable from mobile phones, and the relationship between people has become indifferent, and there is no topic when they are face-to-face, and they feel that time is wasted on playing with mobile phones.

It's really not good for us to play with our mobile phones every day, put down our phones and look at this beautiful world! Care for your friends!

Elderly people who live alone can easily feel lonely and helpless in their daily lives, so they need our attention and help. Here are some things that can make seniors who live alone feel less lonely:

2.Invite seniors who live alone to participate in community activities: Allowing seniors who live alone to participate in community-organized activities, such as fitness, calligraphy, dancing, dinners, etc., can help them make new friends and broaden their social circle.

3.Accompany the elderly who live alone to go outside: Elderly people who live alone often lack the opportunity to go for walks or travel outside, so we can accompany them to go to parks, museums, shopping malls and other places to increase their social and activity range.

5.Help for seniors living alone: Seniors who live alone may need help with daily living, such as shopping, cleaning their room, etc., and we can provide these help to make them feel cared for and helped.

In conclusion, the most important thing for seniors living alone is to make them feel cared for and cared for, to help them alleviate loneliness and improve their quality of life or knowledge.

I'd rather communicate and share with strangers across the screen than communicate with my family.

Parents want to have a heart-to-heart relationship with their children, hoping that their children will tell them everything, but how much can they really understand when their children say it?

Can you really empathize from the child's point of view?

Many times, children and parents complain about the unhappiness in life, in exchange for the parents' scolding, education and incomprehension, or the parents' worries, so most people choose to report the good news instead of the bad news.

There are also many parents who are concerned about their children's future as soon as they chat, or urge them to get married, although it is out of kindness, but from the perspective of the child, how can it not be a kind of pressure?

The generation gap between parents and children is formed over the years, and it is related to many factors, if it is difficult to communicate between the two parties, you can only reconcile with the facts, and do not be too paranoid.

Some young people will be more inclined to share the big and small things in life with their peers, and parents should understand, rather than having to ask their children to share their daily routines, or be too hypocritical to think that their children have problems, which is really unnecessary.

First of all, I would like to express my gratitude to the other person, and then I will convey your greetings to my parents, and I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to you on behalf of your parents. That's about it.

Others have said hello to your parents on my behalf. You first of all, thank you. Then say, I will pass on your greetings to my parents. On behalf of them, I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to you for your greetings, which are a few more words, but they must be said in such a way as to show respect for others.

Speaking skills for chatting with elders:

1. Be patient.

Be sure to be patient when talking to your elders. The elders have worked hard all their lives, especially when they meet the kind of juniors who only go home once a year and a half, he will pull you to tell you all the things he is happy or unhappy about, and the things between the neighbors.

So what you can do is to be patient enough and listen to him finish the story, in fact, the elders don't care how much you hear, the important thing is that the elders share their own information and feel happy!

2. Pay attention to your own speech speed.

When talking to the elders, young people should pay attention to their own speed of speech, not too fast, too fast, the elders' thinking may not be able to keep up with your rhythm, try to slow down, so that the elderly can understand, but also let the elderly feel the happiness that the information you share brings him, such a communication is a win-win situation.

3. Speak clearly and avoid fashionable words.

When talking to the elders, you should also pay attention to speaking clearly, and avoid saying the most popular words or Internet terms, such as: Xida Puben, the power of the wilderness, Ge Youlie and so on.

4. Feel the happiness of the elders.

When talking to the elders, feel the happiness of the elderly. The elders have worked hard all their lives, and now they are old, and the day in the world is getting less and less day by day according to the elderly, and I can still see him this year, and I can't tell you next year, so I can make the elders happy!

I also don't really like to share my daily life with my parents.

I think there are many reasons why macro is rotten, and here is a brief analysis.

First, a lack of intimacy can be a cause.

Our parents and our childhood life are different, and the corresponding thinking and emotions are very different, so there is a certain emotional generation gap. Some problems may not be understood by them, but will cause some unpleasantness, so they are reluctant to share too much with them. This can be due to the family environment or the relationship between the child and the parents.

In this case, other ways to enhance intimacy and trust need to be sought, such as doing something with the parents or communication training.

Second, the need for personal privacy is also a reason.

The older you get, the more stress you have, and some things feel like personal space and privacy that you don't want to share with your parents. This can involve personal issues such as mental health, gender identity, social life, and more. In such cases, parents need to respect their child's privacy and seek other ways to understand their child's condition.

Third, differences in ideology and culture.

The cultural environment of parents and their own cultural environment have changed a lot, and their way of thinking, cultural concepts, and emotional expressions are very different, resulting in the lack of corresponding common topics between the two parties. But this does not mean a lack of love or care, but rather a difference in cultural habits. In this case, it is important to understand and respect each other's cultural differences.

Fourth, personal work pressure.

As adults, we face a lot of employment pressure, and sometimes we are so busy with work that we don't have much time to communicate with our parents. Sometimes I don't mix well outside, I don't have any achievements, I don't know how high or low, and naturally I don't feel in the mood to share my daily life with my parents too much.

Fifth, personality reasons.

Some people are introverts and don't want to share much with others.

Not sharing your daily routine with your parents can be due to a number of reasons. However, building intimacy, respecting privacy, understanding cultural differences, and improving communication skills are all effective ways to strengthen the relationship between parents and children.

There are a few possible reasons:

1.Children lack the opportunity to use close communication skills. In many families, parents interact with their children mainly through praise, punishment and criticism, which does not create a good communication relationship and makes children feel safe and respected, but also makes them feel embarrassed and uncomfortable in their daily lives.

2.Children lack real support and understanding. Many young people feel that their parents are not open enough or have the experience to truly understand the challenges they face. They may feel that letting their parents know that they can't get enough understanding or support in their daily lives.

3.The popularity of social**. In addition to communicating with close people, most of today's young people also share their daily lives with their social ** circle of friends, which provides a "fake" communication option and makes people feel that they don't need to engage in real interaction.

I think it's because parents and elders often don't understand the type of kids they like. Parents and those close relatives who care about us and love us always think that they know their children very well, know what they need, what kind of partner they like, in fact, they go to find a partner for their children according to their own preferences, in other words, what they think their children like.

But in fact, when children become adults, their communication with their parents and relatives begins to be stylized, that is, they are very close on the surface, live together, and seem to see each other often, but they rarely communicate effectively. The words are simple communication in daily life, the kind of thought communication that is deep and touches the soul, and it seems difficult to achieve with parents and relatives.

First of all, there is a generation gap between the two generations, different values, and different views on many things.

Therefore, it is difficult for young people to open their hearts to these elders, and their true thoughts will not be confided in them. Because they don't understand it, they are likely to interfere in their own lives. Therefore, parents and elders are always wishful thinking about their children, and they think about it with their own ideas.

The same is true for emotional matters. And this kind of speculation is often inconsistent with the child's real thoughts and actual needs.

Many times, parents will feel that they have taken some detours and stepped on some pits emotionally when they are young, and they don't want their children to fall into them.

It is precisely because he was young that he had those wrong thoughts and wanted to help his children correct them in time, so he is likely to follow his current age of thinking about feelings, and feel that what kind of person is more suitable for marriage and life, to shoehorn into his children, and also hope that his children will fully accept his emotional values.

Good luck.