How deeply does an irritable parent affect a child?

It is said that parents are their children's first teachers, and this sentence is really not false at all. If you want me to say, parents are not only the first, but also the most important teachers.

In a sense, many of the children's actions, or even the three views, are imitated by their parents.

For example, if some parents like to read, then their children, whether they are boys or girls, will prefer to be friends with books, have a quiet personality, and will be very obedient.

And if some parents prefer to go outside to watch others play chess and cards, then their children will be more jumpy, love outdoor sports, and even learn how to play cards and mahjong at a very young age.

Of course, if your parents are more irritable, then congratulations, your children are very likely to be like you, a powder keg that will explode at a moment's notice.

I know this very well. My mother's temper is more short-tempered, and she usually speaks well, but once someone disagrees with her, it's over, and her hot temper can quarrel with others in minutes. Even because of this, my mother was suspected by others if she had a mental problem (of course, I think the person who said this is very rude, and when I heard it, my mother's hot temper almost broke out and got into a fight with the person).

As for me, I learned this "advantage" of my mother perfectly. When I don't argue with others, I speak quietly and methodically, which makes people feel very comfortable. But once someone wants to reason with me, I absolutely don't say a word, and I can't stop when the tip of the horns is a few centimeters deep.

Moreover, there is no pattern to this outburst of temper. You don't know when or to whom you will have this terrifying emotion, as if your brain is completely dominated by anger and can only instinctively curse at you.

So, parents with a bad temper, please be a little more restrained in front of your children, so that you can expect that in the future your children will talk to you calmly and not quarrel.

Newborn children are the purest angels in this world, they are like a blank sheet of paper, which can be shaped and changed. Parents are the first teachers of children, and the good habits of parents will affect children's daily life and learning, but bad ones will also cause harm to children.

My sister got married early, and gave birth to a child relatively early, when I gave birth to the first child, I felt that she didn't have the feeling of being a mother, my little nephew has been my parents and my sister and mother-in-law after birth, maybe it is too doting on this child, when the child is two years old, he began to have his own sense of independence, at that time it was my sister with him, and then my sister's temper is very good to others, but the patience for the child is not enough, every time my nephew does not eat, she will quarrel with him, The result can only be that my little nephew dislikes eating more and more, and starts to be picky eaters, against my sister. Because the little boy is always naughty, my sister has a habit of cleanliness, and when the child is three or four years old, he can especially toss, every time he comes home, he feels that my nephew is a puffed bag, and my sister will quarrel with him if he messes up the house, and he will be very irritable if he doesn't eat, and he will criticize him ......for painting on the wall and dirty the wall

Especially after giving birth to a second child, every time my little niece cries, most of them are bullied by my brother and cry, my sister will criticize and even beat the boss very irritablely, and sometimes it is not even his fault. When my nephew was five or six years old, I felt that he had a cowardly personality, like a little girl, he was usually very fragile, and he didn't dare to cry loudly, the child's nature was almost gone, and the boy's temperament was not there, and even the teacher said that the child had ADHD, and that the child was fighting with his classmates at school ......

Probably since then, my sister began to reflect on her own way of educating children, and it does have a lot to do with her, and then actively communicate and guide children, and now it is much better, so you must be patient with children, treat children with the right education methods, and think about the damage caused to children when you want to lose your temper. We don't want flowers in the greenhouse, and we don't want lonely grass in the storm, and we hope that every child can grow up healthily under the sun and rain.

We all know that in a person's life, almost all habits are formed when they are young, what kind of parents have what kind of children, this sentence is not wrong at all, children are a person can learn the most, and parents are the first teachers of their children, you think about it, a child sees irritable parents all day long, they quarrel in front of children, scold people in front of children, these things quietly let children learn, they will feel, It's normal to be irritable and swearing, because they are still young and don't understand anything, which is still good, and there are even children who suffer from depression because their parents quarrel every day.

Our high school psychology teacher told us about a grumpy parent who ruined his child's life, it was a family in his hometown, the parents of this family quarreled every day, the child's father liked to drink, and he got drunk every time he got drunk, and every time he got drunk, he went to the house to play drunk, threw things, yelled, and then the child's mother began to quarrel with his father, and his father threw things together, and over time, the child also learned to do this, when he was in elementary school, he often beat people, and the teacher said a few words to him, He threw books in the class, and he himself liked to harm himself, often cutting his arm with a knife and licking his own blood, which he thought was a very good feeling.

Later, his parents also realized the seriousness of the problem, so they found a psychiatrist for the child, and found that the child had great depression, and the reason why he would self-harm was because he felt that he was very lonely, he wanted to find some feelings, painful feelings, and his violent temper came completely from his parents, all of whom his parents taught him by words and deeds, so the child's life was ruined in the hands of his parents, and finally I want to say that Grumpy parents can ruin their children's lives.

It is said that parents are the first teachers of children, and at first I didn't understand why they were teachers, and they didn't know much knowledge. But as I get older and look at things more and more deeply, I feel more and more that in a person's life, the influence of parents is really huge, people's character is not innate, and the words and deeds of parents are really much more serious than congenital.

For example, my sister-in-law's sister grew up watching him. When I was a child, I was really cute and a little girl, who loved to laugh a lot, and giggled when she teased. But my aunt is a person with a bad temper, and it just so happens that my sister-in-law is a good-tempered and sullen person, so my aunt always loses her temper at her husband for a little thing at home, not the kind of joke or whispering complaints, but really angry.

It is conceivable that every day in his family can be summed up as "war-torn". No one notices that in this environment, my sister's growth will not be affected, and it may be that he guards it every day, even if it changes, he can't notice it. The first time I found out that she had changed was that I hadn't seen her for a long time in high school, and then when I saw her, I felt like a different person, I didn't like to talk anymore, I didn't like to laugh anymore, and when we got together to talk, I also sat on the side, and I don't know what words to use to describe the expression, not cold, but the kind of cowardice that didn't dare to speak.

Later, when I found out that she had changed, it was the last holiday, and she still didn't talk much to us and was cowardly, but she yelled at her father naturally, and I never forgot that tone, which was really the same as her mother. I was really shocked.

No one can control the child's natural personality, but the acquired education is something that every parent can control. If you are also this kind of bad-tempered father or mother, control yourself, there is no good, for everyone.

Parents have a great influence on their children, and parents are their children's first teachers, so for the sake of their children's future, I hope that parents can do their best and set a good example for their children!

According to research, children have the highest sensitivity to language in infancy, 0-3 years old children have 100% genius natural absorption ability to language, 3-6 years old children have 80% natural absorption ability, 6-12 years old children have 60% natural absorption ability, after 12 years old children's natural absorption ability to language gradually declines, so for those short-tempered parents, you may have an inadvertent language behavior to affect your child, these effects will not be easily changed, Your casual words may change the fate of your child's life, since you gave birth to your child, you are responsible for him, so change your words and deeds! <>

3-6 years old is a critical period for the formation of children's character, so if you love children, you should make good use of this period to understand the type of temperament of children, during this period, children's imitation ability is very strong, so it is very important to be a good example for children! If you are short-tempered, your words and deeds will also be imitated by children, which will affect the formation of your child's good character and is not conducive to the development of young children, so if you have children, at least you should control your temper in front of your children.

Children are the future of the motherland, we have the responsibility to protect children, love children, our behavior will have an impact on children in the five major areas of language, health, art, society and science, we must guide children to the good side, we are the enlighteners of children, to be a good example!

The influence of irritable parents on children is very deep, and I am deeply influenced by my parents.

Maybe it's a child who has a short temper, and he thinks that's the way to solve the problem.

Parents who are too short-tempered may make their children very inferior, and may also let their children learn the essence of this short-temperedness. First of all, the temper of parents is very short-tempered, and they will definitely lose their temper with their children by stupidity, if the child will often be yelled at by his parents, then the child is likely to be very afraid of his parents, and the child may also appear some slight cowardice. Over time, the child will not dare to show himself, so there will be a phenomenon of inferiority.

Similarly, if mom and dad are always very irritable in front of their children, then the children are likely to learn the same way mom and dad behave. Because children are imitating their parents in the process of growing up, if parents are always very irritable in front of children, then children will also learn this kind of irritable psychology. Children can also become very irritable.

In the future, when facing other problems, they will also become very irritable, which is definitely what parents do not want to see, but children learn from their fathers and mothers.

Mom and Dad's personality is too irritable to have a bad impact on the child, so Mom and Dad should try their best to change accordingly, don't show their irritable side casually, and don't let their irritability affect the child's future development. Beltless rubber theory that children become inferior, submissive or very irritable, this is a bad character, so parents should try their best to let their children not be affected by this.

Mom and Dad are too irritable for children to be a very bad way to cope, so Mom and Dad should try their best to control their temper, especially in front of children, if they can control their temper, try not to lose their temper. If you really lose your temper with your child, then parents should apologize to their child and tell them that it is not right to lose their temper like this, so as to bring some positive guidance to the child.

Parents who are too irritable will make the child become reticent, and the parents will often criticize the child, often criticize the child, and the child will be taciturn, and do not want to express himself, and the relationship between the child and the parents will be particularly poor, and the child does not want to communicate with the parents, because the parents will be irritable as soon as they communicate, and over time, the child will not want to communicate with the parents, so that the parent-child relationship is getting worse and worse.

Parents who are too irritable will make the child very worried, feel anxious, and want to solve things as soon as possible, which will also make the child's personality become impatient, and it will also affect the child's future work, learning and other problems.

It will make the child's temper bright and dry, and it will also make the child lack self-confidence, make the child irritable, and affect the child's psychology, and also make the child fearful.

Mom and Dad being too irritable have a lot of bad effects on children, first of all, the impact on children's personalities. In the process of growing up, most children will learn from their parents' every move, especially imitate their parents' personalities. If mom and dad are very gentle, then the child will also be very gentle, and the child will become very patient in the process of growing up.

However, if the parents are very irritable, then the child will also learn this irritable personality in the process of growing up, and thus become an irritable person.

Being overly irritable with your child may also hit your child's self-confidence, because children want to be approved by their parents when they do something. However, if the parents not only do not approve of the child, but are also very irritable to the child, then the child will feel very frustrated. Because children feel that it is very unreasonable for parents to treat themselves like this, parents should maintain a rational attitude in front of their children as much as possible.

Parents who are too irritable will make the child gradually diswant to communicate with his parents, because the child feels that as long as he has a word that is not pleasant, then his parents are likely to get angry directly. Rather than letting yourself be blamed by your parents, it is better not to argue about anything, so that at least you can do your own thing, and you will not be blamed by your parents, and you will not be scolded by your parents.

Once the child has such a character, it is easy for the child to close himself off, so that he is reluctant to communicate with his parents. Over time, parents will find that they don't know what their children are doing, they don't know what their children are thinking, and they can't guess it. These are all because the personality is too irritable, which leads to a sense of distance between the child and himself, so parents should control their emotions and not let their children resist themselves.