What is your married life like?

My married life can be summed up in one sentence: more than the top, more than the bottom.

The rarest state of human life is contentment, in fact, whether it is before or after marriage, it is considered a wise man to be able to do this.

My husband and I are in free love, and I'm glad we didn't meet on a blind date.

It's not that couples who discriminate against each other, but I think that two people who don't know each other in the vast sea of people can naturally come together and form a family, which is a fate given by God, which is very worthy of cherishing and care.

It can be said that the life of the two of us before marriage was not rich, and we had to calculate and calculate when we ate and bought clothes, not because we were born thrifty, but because we really had no extra money to use.

At that time, it could be regarded as having love and drinking water, there was no material pursuit, and the two of them were very happy to eat roadside stalls, and they did not pursue any luxurious life, because even marriage was a problem, and we had no energy to envy other people's lives.

Later, we got married with the efforts of both families, and since then our lives have changed dramatically, and now when it comes to the life that has been getting better and better in the past two years of marriage, my husband can't believe it.

After we got married, our husband's own projects became more and more formal, and the money he earned was not only for daily family expenses, but also for a domestic trip once a year. If we usually have a little tighter hands, we can also have international tours.

In the past, we wore clothes were **, and when we saw the favorite model in the mall, we came back to search**, and now we basically buy it in the mall. The second is that I feel that the source of goods on the Internet is not necessarily **, and I don't want to wear fakes.

I am a person who likes to buy bags very much, although I am not the kind of woman who is obsessed with Mars Yuan, but I have very requirements for bags, I can carry miscellaneous brands, but I must carry a good texture, if the quality of workmanship is not good, no matter how beautiful the bag is, no matter how cheap the bag, I will not look at it.

Now I basically buy three bags a year, the price is more than 2000 in this range, I am in a second-tier city, the average salary is less than 2000, so I am very satisfied with the bag in this range.

In terms of material life, my husband and I have far surpassed our friends, but we are blank in spiritual life.

In the past, we used to pass the time by watching a movie and singing, but now we both watch movies occasionally and are too lazy to sing. Sometimes I'd rather hang out outside than watch TV at home because it's really boring.

The best way is to travel and relax, but you can't just have money, you have to have leisure. It's hard to balance, it's all at the beginning of your career, so how can you have so much time to travel.

So now I want to balance my spiritual and material life, and find a point to make my marriage happier.

It's kind of happy! A family of three, my husband and daughter, my daughter is very smart and sensible, and my husband is more reliable, so I think my married life is quite happy! <>

Because my husband is often away from home, he occasionally comes back and takes me and the children out to play, so I feel like the three of us will feel happy together! The daughter also likes his dad, they get along well together and have a good relationship! So I feel like we might have a good marriage with families who are arguing a lot!

Although the material life is not very good now, there is nothing, but I feel quite satisfied spiritually! I believe that those things will definitely be there, and now that I just get married, I definitely can't be in a hurry, as long as I hold on for a few years, there will be something I should have when the time comes! I think it will definitely be happier when the time comes, people can't ask too much, otherwise they will be unhappy!

And when you have it, you should also cherish it, because there are many people who are actually not as good as us!

First, the strongest marriage has a solid material foundation.

Here, it's not that I'm vulgar, it's not that I'm belittling marriage, and it's not that I can't trust feelings.

I believe that many people have personally experienced the simple truth of "poor and lowly couples mourn everything", and it really responds to that sentence: love without bread is just a plate of loose sand. Although money is a realistic thing, although vulgar, we have to admit that what can support a marriage is really money.

The three views determine whether two people are suitable or not, and the three meals determine the stability of a relationship.

In marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, which is not money; The family's eating, drinking, and Lazar are not money; People are sophisticated, which is not money; Love is beautiful, but it is also very realistic, no matter how deep the feelings, they can't resist the impact of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

Feelings can only satisfy a person's spiritual needs, and only money can satisfy the needs of one's stomach. It is said that there is no harm if there is no comparison, but human nature is a thing, destined to make us unable to really be so indifferent, who lives not together, once one day their own life falls into the middle of the original people at the same level too many, who can guarantee that they have no other ideas in their hearts. When people are very hungry, there is only one worry in their hearts, that is, how to solve the problem of food and clothing, and after people solve the problem of food and clothing, there will be a lot of troubles.

Second, the best marriage in the world is mutual fulfillment.

A good marriage should be the icing on the cake, make you more perfect, make your life more meaningful, and make you full of hope and longing for tomorrow.

Once you feel that marriage has become a kind of rolling mountain burden, you have really gone away, and it will only go farther and farther, until one day you suddenly look back and find that the word happiness is so far away from yourself.

A good marriage is about achieving each other, working together, growing together, and spending the rest of your life together.

If a relationship doesn't change you for the better, then it's a bad marriage, like why should we step into marriage? The reason for stepping into marriage is not to make yourself more complete and perfect.

If you were 60 points before marriage, but after you got married, it became 80 points, and over time, your score line should go straight up, this is a good marriage.

If you were 80 before marriage, but after you got married, it became 60, and as time goes by, your score line is plummeting, then in a fundamental sense, you have lost the meaning of marriage. A good marriage is about achieving each other and trying to change each other into a better place.

No one in this world is perfect, but we should be in the process of gradually pursuing perfection and gradually realizing self-worth; Really, a good marriage is never a constraint to the realization of self-worth.

My married life is not what I once imagined. When we are not married, we always think that marriage is beautiful, and always think that we have found a companion to rely on in the second half of our lives, but in fact, marriage is like a "besieged city", the people inside want to come out, and the people outside want to go out.

Unmarried men usually smoke good "cigarettes" and occasionally go to the restaurant. On weekends, I go to an Internet café or a k t v with friends to play for the night, and the next morning I can sleep for the rest of the day. Unmarried women can buy whatever they want, and on weekends they can go shopping with their girlfriends for a day, and occasionally take a trip that they can just go.

After getting married, I have to worry about this firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea every day, and I still have endless housework when I get home from work. In the face of parents who are getting older day by day, children who are growing up, and the exchange of human affection is heartbroken. The man has changed from a handsome guy to a greasy uncle, and the woman has changed from a beautiful woman to a yellow-faced woman.

My former friends had little time to keep in touch with each other and had their own families. Even the grievances suffered at work are not told, and only in the dead of night they bear silently.

In short, married life was completely different from what we thought at the time. If you want to live happily after marriage, you have to endure the ups and downs of life, and give each other a small surprise to your other half when you are busy.

My Marriage Servant Life.

It's two people together, not relying on parents, no father-in-law, can't rely on mother-in-law, we have always been two people together without mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.

If you give birth to two elders, you will have a child, and they will be brought by two people. He is outside my lord. Each has its own job.

Usually I buy groceries and cook, and he washes clothes and dishes. Go out for a walk on holidays and go back to your hometown to see your parents and elders. During the holidays, the children solve the problem of food and clothing at home.

I also insisted on volunteering and insisting on taking vocational certificates.

We are busy, understand each other, and tolerate each other. Occasionally, it doesn't hurt to be noisy. It's a simple married life.

Some people may say that I am machismo, seriously, I try to ask myself, if I have a wife, who is very capable outside, who has enough money for the family and does not discriminate against me in my heart, let me cook alone, wash clothes, and tidy up the room, the answer is: I will definitely do it, and I will do it as my own job, and a man will work for others outside, and he will also work for his wife and children at home, if there is a very strong virtuous helper, I will be a virtuous helper, Then I will have peace of mind.

In many family life, men play the main force, so I also say a word to all male friends, that is, there must be "opinions", important words, Iwaku repeats three times, "opinions" "opinions" "opinions", the so-called opinions, is one thing, in front of you, your first reaction, the correct way to deal with this matter is like this, instead of consulting others everywhere.

Finally, I want to insist on one point, as a man in the stall shack, at any time, you must be absolutely independent in life and economy, so I oppose all forms of living with your parents after marriage, whether it is the man's parents or the woman's parents, because sometimes the marriage killer does not come from both parties, but from the elders for the disrespect of the elderly. In general, there are far more cases of mothers-in-law bullying daughters-in-law than daughters-in-law bullying mothers-in-law. It's true.

Look at the meaning of the joke. Well, since some people want to know so, I'll talk about it. It's hard to explain it in a good or bad sentence, but if some people only want to know these two outcomes, then I'll take an example of what really happened in life.

Bad: We often quarrel because of differences of opinion, in fact, we can't rise to the three views, because our three views are similar, isn't there that sentence, one can't sleep in the bed two kinds of people, I think it's quite scientific. The three views are similar, but because they have different sense of security for the current environment, so on the zz issue, he chooses to see the good places, and only looks at the good places, and I am the opposite.

This is the biggest Linghui disagreement between the two people at present, and it once rose to the point of separation. If it's not just this, are some of the old middle schools disappointed? Unfortunately, that's the only thing I think is bad at the moment, and I can't provide other jokes.

What about the good: Actually, it's hard to say what's good, we've been together for more than five years, and we don't remember much about the happiness and sadness when we were alone. However, although we have not had any big winds and waves for more than five years, we have also experienced a lot of life episodes, and when those bad things happen, we can only be glad that there is this person around, otherwise it will be a lot harder to be alone in a strange city.

Fortunately, Lu Zhudian is not just accompanied, but fortunately, this person answers, he can understand me, what will happen if there is another person? I knew what was going to happen because I met 99% of people who didn't understand me. I've told him many times that he's the ceiling of the people I've ever met, and it's still the same.

I can't predict the rest of my life, maybe we'll always be together, maybe we'll be separated, but that's all.

My canopy is called married life, working hard together. The business has developed steadily. We are grateful to both parents for going out of their way to help take care of our children and hands and support our career development.

It's obviously the life of two people, you are alone when you encounter a little thing, you are tired from work, and you want to chat with your husband and confide in you, but he is lukewarm to you, and even thinks that you are hypocritical and vexatious.

After many women get married, they find that their married life is different from what they imagined, so they are not happy.

Since we are married, it means that we have a desire for happiness and want to live together well.

However, married life is not easy, and it requires actions and management, not just words.

People who can get married must have love for each other, but love cannot solve various problems in marriage.

Because marriage needs to be managed, and management is the process of running in and making concessions to each other.

Especially two different people, with different personalities, different living habits, and different family environments, will inevitably have quarrels and conflicts, which is normal, and we must pay attention to them and treat them with a normal heart.

After all, you have already chosen someone, and there is still a long way to get married in the future.

Zhou said in "The Quality of Love": "A harmonious marriage can be achieved by manpower, but it is God's will to get a happy love." It can be seen that a harmonious marriage depends on management.

First of all, knowing how to make concessions at the right time is a sign of loving the other person.

Just like doing business, if you manage it well, your marriage will prosper and last; Poor management, that is, a shot and two scattered, the reason is here.

Husbands and wives are lovers, relatives, and friends.

Then, when two people move forward towards a common goal, they encounter contradictions and disagreements. Don't be in a hurry to dismiss your partner's views or opinions, don't argue with the other person, and know how to give in to the other person.

After all, the other party is the lover of the other party, not an enemy, not an enemy. There is no need to blush each other over trivial things.

The winner wins the truth, but loses the other person's affection for you.

Marriage is a mixture of you and me, and you and I are both separate individuals. We might as well come across things and look at things from the other half's point of view. Maybe you will find that you have forgotten the original intention of getting married, and you will find that you should know how to seek common ground while reserving differences.

As the saying goes, take a step back and open the sky. When you know how to let go of unnecessary disputes and no longer obsess over temporary gains and losses, marriage can go further.

Gentleness at the right time is a form of respect, an expression of love, and a manifestation of love.

Only in this way can the relationship between two people become better and the marriage can last.