There are several stages that a good relationship must go through

Taking love as an example, feelings can be divided into four stages in most cases, the first stage is the hot love period, the second stage is the run-in period, and the third stage is the flat period.

The above four stages are relatively broad classifications, in fact, before the love period, there is generally a process of acquaintance and acquaintance. The run-in period and the flat period are mainly the period when the hidden contradictions between the two parties in the relationship erupt, and after the quarrel stage, the relationship between the two will most likely return to flat and stable.

In a relationship, the first three stages are the key stages to test whether the man and woman love each other, and some feelings start out of liking and liking, such as liking appearance but not accepting shortcomings, which is not necessarily love.

The first stage is the period of passionate love.

Couples in love are glued together all day long, and their eyes are each other's advantages, why is my little girlfriend so cute, why is my little boyfriend so handsome, and even the interval of eating and watching is a manly charm, after all, it is the male god and goddess that I have worked hard to chase, no matter how much I admire, I can't overdo it, I want to give the whole world, I really respond to Li Jialong's lyrics, I want to take off the stars for you, I will give you what you want, and leave the best to each other.

The second stage is the run-in period.

The run-in period is the biggest obstacle for couples, basically staying at this time, because the run-in period of the couple exposes all the shortcomings of the other party, whether the other party is suitable for themselves, and has begun to think about this problem with their brains. These are all problems that will arise during the run-in period, and they are also a major reason for breaking up.

The third stage is the lull period.

After the run-in period, it has come to the flat period, in fact, when two people are together, they are full of plans for the future, as long as two people are sincerely together, and want to be together for a long time, know how to hold the people around them, and will not put other opposite sex around to make their lovers suspicious, of course, and most importantly, you have to trust each other, as long as you do these points, you will reach the legendary flat period, two people no longer need to be together all the time, even long-term communication, occasionally keep in touch, Make sure that the other party is by your side, and you still have yourself in your heart, don't be suspicious all day long, especially in long-distance relationships, in fact, long-distance relationships are the best way to see whether two people trust each other.

The fourth stage is the period of confinement.

The period of stay together does not mean that you must be together, even if you have been together for four or five years, it is possible to separate, my first love and I have been together for four years, because I have been paying for four years, I have been forbearing, just in order not to leave him, but I know in the end that I know that there is no way to be together like this, I can't accommodate him for the rest of my life, a boy, don't know how to love me, love me, but let me blindly pay, I am also very stupid, I don't know how to resist, after a long time, I will find out how stupid I am, In fact, the people who stay together, they are also in the run-in period, and the run-in is continuous, after all, there will not be two people who are completely compatible, unless the other is willing to pay.

Falling in love is a hard process, because you don't know if the other party is the one who will accompany you down, but when you love him, you are willing to give him everything you have, and you realize that you are very stupid when you know that you are hurt, but there are also lucky people, they have met the right person, I hope everyone can meet the right person, after all, love is very hard, and breaking up is also very hard.

A mature relationship will definitely go through four stages, and after listening carefully, you will know what your problem is. First, the period of coexistence and love. Two people fall in love, their eyes are full of each other's good, and they can't wait to stay with each other 24 hours a day.

Second, the reaction chain and the independence period. At this time, at least one person has changed from a more fanatical state to a calmer state, because he wants to get more independent space, and the other party has all kinds of complaints because he can't stand this kind of neglect, so the two people will have all kinds of contradictions and conflicts, one wants to chase and the other wants to escape. Third, the period of rising contradictions.

The longer two people get along, there will be more and more small frictions, which may also lead to greater contradictions, because at this time your feelings are out of balance, often calculating pay and gains and losses, two people quarrel constantly, mutual internal friction, mutual torment, and eventually lead to bigger problems, or even divorce. Fourthly, there is a bland symbiosis, where you can eventually find the most comfortable way to get along and decide to spend this life together. In real life, many people are separated in the second or third stage, and there are no more than two reasons for separation, either they don't understand the law of love development, and they feel that love should be like love all the time, and their eyes are full of each other, or they lack the ability to deal with feelings, have no experience in successful running-in, have no coping methods and Luo Ji thinking, and mistakenly think that the other party is the wrong person.

In fact, how can there be so many right people in the world? Your approach is to stay in the shadow of something else forever. Because of the pain, we don't want to face it, and then suppress it in our subconscious, which is called the peak season.

There are no two people who are naturally suitable, only two hearts that are slowly approaching. I hope that everyone can be firm in each other's choices, go through these four stages firmly, and become the right person for each other.

A psychologist once wrote that there are four stages that must go through a mature relationship that qualifies as true love, and that is:

Codependent

Counterdependent

Independent

Interdependent

The time it takes to transition between phases is not necessarily and varies from person to person.

Phase 1: Coexistence.

This is a time of passionate love, and lovers always want to be tired of being together whenever and wherever they are.

Phase 2: Anti-dependency.

When the relationship is stable, at least one partner will want to have a little more time for themselves to do what they want, and then the other party will feel left out.

The third stage: independence.

The fourth stage: symbiosis.

At this time, a new way of getting along has taken shape, and your (your) other person (she) has become your (your) closest person.

Together, you support each other and create your own life together.

Together, you will not be tied to each other, but you will grow with each other.

However, most people can't get through the second or third stage, and it is a pity that they choose to break up.

Many things will be fine as long as you communicate well, don't play with personality, don't think too much and trust each other, like this.

The second and third phases will be shortened.

It is not easy to meet and fall in love with your loved one, so don't give up easily.

The two got together because of fate, and they knew each other because they had a heart, and they really had to cherish this blessing, let alone break up.

The hot love period (the other party is infinitely good) - the run-in period (a bunch of bad problems) - the run-in fails, breaks up or the run-in is successful, and the two people are one person.