How to get through this phase of a relationship ...

At this stage of you, you can only shift the focus of your thoughts to work and study, and you are now paying too much attention to her, resulting in some of her small problems will be deliberately infinitely magnified by you. As long as you put your mind on work and study, you'll be fine.

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas? Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Why did your girlfriend go for Christmas?

Landlord, please face up to this problem.

From a psychological point of view, men and women of the same age, generally women mature earlier than men, and you are not mature enough to meet his ideal requirements, including a sense of security and the like, so you have to work hard!!

An accomplished, capable, and loving man is the happiness that a woman wants most, and I believe your girlfriend is no exception.

Since we alone can't change the world, it's better to change ourselves. I wish you happiness.

The first stage is the period of passionate love.

Couples in love are glued together all day long, and their eyes are each other's advantages, why is my little girlfriend so cute, why is my little boyfriend so handsome, and even the interval of eating and watching is a manly charm, after all, it is the male god and goddess that I have worked hard to chase, no matter how much I admire, I can't overdo it, I want to give the whole world, I really respond to Li Jialong's lyrics, I want to take off the stars for you, I will give you what you want, and leave the best to each other.

The second stage is the run-in period.

The run-in period is the biggest obstacle for couples, basically staying at this time, because the run-in period of the couple exposes all the shortcomings of the other party, whether the other party is suitable for themselves, and has begun to think about this problem with their brains. These are all problems that will arise during the run-in period, and they are also a major reason for breaking up.

The third stage is the lull period.

After the run-in period, it has come to the flat period, in fact, when two people are together, they are full of plans for the future, as long as two people are sincerely together, and want to be together for a long time, know how to hold the people around them, and will not put other opposite sex around to make their lovers suspicious, of course, and most importantly, you have to trust each other, as long as you do these points, you will reach the legendary flat period, two people no longer need to be together all the time, even long-term communication, occasionally keep in touch, Make sure that the other party is by your side, and you still have yourself in your heart, don't be suspicious all day long, especially in long-distance relationships, in fact, long-distance relationships are the best way to see whether two people trust each other.

The fourth stage is the period of confinement.

The period of stay together does not mean that you must be together, even if you have been together for four or five years, it is possible to separate, my first love and I have been together for four years, because I have been paying for four years, I have been forbearing, just in order not to leave him, but I know in the end that I know that there is no way to be together like this, I can't accommodate him for the rest of my life, a boy, don't know how to love me, love me, but let me blindly pay, I am also very stupid, I don't know how to resist, after a long time, I will find out how stupid I am, In fact, the people who stay together, they are also in the run-in period, and the run-in is continuous, after all, there will not be two people who are completely compatible, unless the other is willing to pay.

Falling in love is a hard process, because you don't know if the other party is the one who will accompany you down, but when you love him, you are willing to give him everything you have, and you realize that you are very stupid when you know that you are hurt, but there are also lucky people, they have met the right person, I hope everyone can meet the right person, after all, love is very hard, and breaking up is also very hard.

A mature relationship will definitely go through four stages, and after listening carefully, you will know what your problem is. First, the period of coexistence and love. Two people fall in love, their eyes are full of each other's good, and they can't wait to stay with each other 24 hours a day.

Second, the reaction chain and the independence period. At this time, at least one person has changed from a more fanatical state to a calmer state, because he wants to get more independent space, and the other party has all kinds of complaints because he can't stand this kind of neglect, so the two people will have all kinds of contradictions and conflicts, one wants to chase and the other wants to escape. Third, the period of rising contradictions.

The longer two people get along, there will be more and more small frictions, which may also lead to greater contradictions, because at this time your feelings are out of balance, often calculating pay and gains and losses, two people quarrel constantly, mutual internal friction, mutual torment, and eventually lead to bigger problems, or even divorce. Fourthly, there is a bland symbiosis, where you can eventually find the most comfortable way to get along and decide to spend this life together. In real life, many people are separated in the second or third stage, and there are no more than two reasons for separation, either they don't understand the law of love development, and they feel that love should be like love all the time, and their eyes are full of each other, or they lack the ability to deal with feelings, have no experience in successful running-in, have no coping methods and Luo Ji thinking, and mistakenly think that the other party is the wrong person.

In fact, how can there be so many right people in the world? Your approach is to stay in the shadow of something else forever. Because of the pain, we don't want to face it, and then suppress it in our subconscious, which is called the peak season.

There are no two people who are naturally suitable, only two hearts that are slowly approaching. I hope that everyone can be firm in each other's choices, go through these four stages firmly, and become the right person for each other.

A psychologist once wrote that there are four stages that must go through a mature relationship that qualifies as true love, and that is:

Codependent

Counterdependent

Independent

Interdependent

The time it takes to transition between phases is not necessarily and varies from person to person.

Phase 1: Coexistence.

This is a time of passionate love, and lovers always want to be tired of being together whenever and wherever they are.

Phase 2: Anti-dependency.

When the relationship is stable, at least one partner will want to have a little more time for themselves to do what they want, and then the other party will feel left out.

The third stage: independence.

The fourth stage: symbiosis.

At this time, a new way of getting along has taken shape, and your (your) other person (she) has become your (your) closest person.

Together, you support each other and create your own life together.

Together, you will not be tied to each other, but you will grow with each other.

However, most people can't get through the second or third stage, and it is a pity that they choose to break up.

Many things will be fine as long as you communicate well, don't play with personality, don't think too much and trust each other, like this.

The second and third phases will be shortened.

It is not easy to meet and fall in love with your loved one, so don't give up easily.

The two got together because of fate, and they knew each other because they had a heart, and they really had to cherish this blessing, let alone break up.

The hot love period (the other party is infinitely good) - the run-in period (a bunch of bad problems) - the run-in fails, breaks up or the run-in is successful, and the two people are one person.

Maybe you're in the love run-in period.

What is the love run-in period.

The love run-in period is a necessary stage in the process of love, and it is a stage of friction between men and women in spirit, life, details and dealing with problems.

From hot love to passionate cooling, after realizing the difference between each other, entering a relatively stable state of love is the first run-in period; The sublimation of the relationship between each other, and the entry from the single state into the world of the two is the second run-in period, and it is also the real test period. The process of overcoming the run-in period is also a process of trying how to love someone. When two people are together, it is not simply a question of who is right and who is wrong, the key is to respect each other's ideas, try to change themselves for each other, and accept each other with a tolerant heart, love will be more beautiful!

When a man and a woman decide to walk together after a period of hard work, they have to face a longer road, because after that they are really living together, out of the perfect side that they showed at the beginning.

They may have a cold war because they have a different opinion on a certain line in a certain movie, or they can quarrel because the other party does not wash their socks, in short, they will feel unacceptable to each other in many details, and then it will be time to run in. It's a long process, and you have to be tolerant and considerate, and be able to think about each other and the future. Lovers who have gone through this level will be sublimated to a state of knowing each other, and you will become more and more tacit at that time.

This may be the so-called how to see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, and how to achieve harmony without experiencing running-in.

How to spend the run-in period of love.

Only when the two who successfully pass the love run-in period can the two who love each other really accept the test. As the saying goes: if you only stay in the center of the circle, you will never find the radius and you will never be able to draw a circle.

Therefore, men and women in love should not always be self-centered, only care about their own feelings, but should start from the other party's point of view, tolerance and patience are the laws of harmony and immutability.

If you quarrel over different lifestyles, you can make a rule and make everyone give way; If you quarrel over housework, you might as well make a task list and assign the tasks to people, which will add more fun and harmony; If you quarrel over money, you might as well set up a savings account for two people, and each person will save a fixed amount of money into it, so that you have both money for the future and the freedom not to interfere with each other; If you quarrel because you have lost your freshness, you might as well change your monotonous lifestyle, or change your image or surprise each other a little more...In short, no matter what method is used, it is only by safely passing the run-in period that the fortress of true love is strengthened.

I suggest you talk to him first. Speaking from the heart, sometimes good communication is more important than anything else. Or something new, surprise him or something.

Although it wasn't made by a girl. But if my boyfriend and I have a problem, I'll take action first. Ha.

I wish you happiness.

This problem has occurred between me and my wife, including all my friends around me and their respective girlfriends, and it has occurred after about 4 months of dating.

Your relationship has entered a state of "crisis", so be careful!

If you can't get it, you can change it, it's not interesting to hold on, what about those who are married or divorced? Be a man and be free and easy, top you.

Love + trust + distance + dedication = success.

Hehe, I don't understand either. If the relationship is good, it's fine! Don't worry, I wish you happiness.

Suspicion, arguments, emotions, complaining to friends, and occasionally wondering if each other is suitable.

The run-in period is a period when both parties understand each other and adjust the rhythm of life and thought, two people are two worlds, the growth environment and experience are different, as long as it is not a big character problem, we should understand each other with a tolerant mood. We can't always expect others to love us the way we want to, and others have other people's ways to show love. If you encounter disagreements and disputes, it is best to calm down first and not argue.

This period is a sensitive period, and quarrels can easily lead to breakups. To express your thoughts calmly, and at the same time to be direct, some girls are easy to want to let the other party understand their needs through emotions, and this method is easy to cause misunderstandings. Boys have no experience and are prone to some problems with inconsiderate and irresponsible living habits.

This run-in period is also a critical period for both parties to grow and mature, and to understand responsibilities and feelings. Young people are easy to be impulsive, talk about personality, and are not easy to compromise, understand this, and it will be easy to deal with.

Another key point is that the run-in period happens to be the stage when men and women are in love, which is more sticky and more prone to conflicts. If both parties can have each other's hobbies and give each other a space, it is very good to maintain the emotional temperature.

Regarding the financial run-in, after all, this money is not so clear, and I recommend that it be managed by a party with a more financial concept. Two people spend more money, and they have to develop good habits. Even if you can't break up after the run-in period, you won't be too ugly about money.

I used to mention to my friend that two people were angry, and when I was angry, it was her who turned her face, and when she turned her back, it was the wall. These words touched me.

Just these two people, why don't you have a good time? Since then, I have also understood that there are so many contradictions between two people, not to mention the whole world, people!