I don t know if I choose to be a friend or a lover?

He is a very responsible teacher! I admire him! It's not a matter of age between the two of you, it's a question of identity.

Teacher-student love is not impossible, but judging from his performance, he will not choose teacher-student love. If it were me, I wouldn't have fallen in love with my student, even if the student had graduated and gone out into society, and I would feel uncomfortable going back to pursue me. He doesn't look at you squarely because he doesn't want you to have more fantasies, he doesn't want you to be obsessed with him anymore.

You also know that he rarely interacts with girls, he is a righteous gentleman, even if he used to talk and laugh with you, it was also an exchange between teachers and students. It's you who can't let go, and you're pursuing him, so he naturally wants to avoid you as much as possible to avoid unnecessary trouble. He mentioned to you that he wanted to find a girl but couldn't find it, of course, men have to find a girlfriend, telling you, on the one hand, he still treats you as a friend, and on the other hand, he hints at you:

His lover won't be you. Otherwise, I haven't found it! You have a place in his heart, but only a friend and a student, and there is only one lover, and not everyone can occupy that position.

I really hope that there will be more such rigorous teachers in today's society, especially young and responsible teachers.

I think it's still a friend, he told you like this, then it proves that he doesn't like you to pull, being a friend can be a lifelong thing, but being a lover, once you break up, maybe you can't even be a friend

Do what you want to do Don't be wronged.

Tian Mao is right.

Don't get lost.

Think twice before you act, and don't let yourself regret it.

First of all, since the two of you already know that you have some good feelings for each other and like each other, then there should be two possibilities for him to tell you to be friends, the first possibility is that he really feels that you are not very suitable for being a lover, but if you are friends, you feel that you are very good.

There is also a possibility that he is giving you a time to buffer, it may be that you are a relatively quiet person now, he is afraid of becoming a boyfriend and girlfriend with you all of a sudden, you have no way to accept such a relationship, but if you are given a period of relaxation, you may be more comfortable with this relationship, so it is more suitable for both of you, and it is the best choice.

So I think if you really like him, then you should be brave enough to reveal to him that you will be good to him, and you will be brave enough to make some decisions, then he will know that you love him too, and he may make further choices.

When you take the initiative yourself, he still doesn't have any reaction, it is very likely that he doesn't love you so much, then the two of you are likely to continue to be friends, but you can be a little tempted, if you are too obviously tempted, it is possible that the two of you can't even be friends after he refuses, which is a more embarrassing thing.

Don't continue to be friends. Since it's already in the past, then don't indulge in the past and can't get out, you have to be able to afford to let go, if you choose to continue to be friends after a breakup, then psychologically and emotionally it is equivalent to not breaking up. Because people who want to remain friends after a breakup can't accept the fact of a breakup emotionally, and want to use it as a friend to delay the pain of the breakup, in fact, this is hurtful for both parties.

Choosing to be friends after separation, in addition to not relieving the pain of both people, will affect the establishment of the next intimate relationship. Generally, after a relationship, it takes a while to sort out your emotions and emotions, and then prepare yourself physically and mentally to start a new life. If you separate or continue to choose to be friends, you will not be able to rush out of a relationship, there will be a shadow of an old lover in your heart, there will be no way to start a new life, even if the right person appears, you will leave because you see your remaining feelings.

No one wants to share their lover with anyone else, because there is exclusivity in love. If a new lover knows that he is still in touch with his ex, then even a generous person will not be able to accept it, and this will also affect the stability of the new relationship. If such a relationship is not handled well, then this incident will become a fuse for two people, and it may not be when the new relationship will "fall apart".

So if two people who once loved each other are separated, then don't use the name of friends, it's best for a period of time for two people to put an end to contact, don't contact anytime and anywhere, even if it's a greeting on the Internet, let alone meet, chat, eat, etc. If a long time has passed, both of them feel that the original emotions can be put down, maybe they may greet each other, but not too often, the best way is to never see each other again, forget each other in the rivers and lakes, is the greatest respect for themselves and the current one.

If it's me, you must not be friends with your former lover, unless you can't let go of each other, otherwise this kind of friend will be particularly awkward together, I hope you can be cautious.

If you are a former lover, you won't be friends, and if you are friends again, you will feel very embarrassed, and there are a lot of inconveniences, so don't be friends, and don't contact.

Personally, I don't think there's any need to be friends, it's already in the past, and there's no need to repeat yesterday's story and add trouble to yourself.

It's best not to continue to be friends because it may lead to some unnecessary troubles that will not be good for your relationship later on.

No, it's okay if two people don't interact with each other after they really separate, and it is easy to cause misunderstandings when they are friends again.

If there is no conflict, I feel that it is okay to be friends.