What should elderly parents do if they can t communicate well?

First of all, we must be considerate of them, because after all, when we are older, sometimes their thoughts are different from us.

This is also normal, the key is to have patience to communicate with them and think about problems from their point of view.

Be sure to calm down, don't blame the other party at this time, sometimes you have to communicate slowly, it takes a process.

The first point is that if you want to communicate well, you should pay attention to the mentality of two people, the second point is that you should be patient when communicating with your elderly parents, and the third point should be to care about each other from the bottom of your heart.

Young people have different ideas than their parents; unwilling to listen to the "nagging" of parents; They have their own unique ideas, etc., and they disagree with their parents on many issues, plus young people lack patienceAs a result, it is impossible to communicate with parents.

Thinking back to my former self, when I was young, I did not have a situation where I could not communicate with my parents. If you think about it, there are roughly the following reasons.

1. It is different from the concept of parents

When I was younger, there was a big difference in concept from my parents. Take listening to songs as an example, in my mind, Dong Chou is absolutely impeccable, but his parents don't want to listen to it. You can argue with your parents about this.

These differences in the perceptions of young people and their parents can lead to a reluctance to communicate with their parents.

2. Unwilling to listen to the "nagging" of parents

When I was young, my parents kept asking about my grades, and after graduating from college, my parents urged me to find a job and find a partner. These well-intentioned "nagging" can be like a nightmare for young people. It is undeniable that parents are good for their children, but young people are reluctant to listen to these words.

3. Have your own ideas

As they grow up, young people will become more and more unique in their own ideas. It will also become more and more independent. There are many things that do not want to be interfered by parents.

I want to live my life according to my own ideas. But many times, parents will guide young people out of practical considerations. ButFor young people, parental guidance is a "hindrance".Therefore, many things are reluctant to communicate with parents.

As I grow older, it is really naïve to think about my thoughts when I was young, and I will gradually agree with my parents' opinions and concepts. As a young person, you can have your own ideas, but you should also listen patiently to your parents' opinions and form a good communication with your parents.

The reason why young people can't communicate with their parents is that there is a generation gap in age, not only for young people now, but also in the past, at any time, because of the age gap between children and parents, or because of the influence of culture and the times, there will be certain differences in views and values, outlook on life and world view with their parents. In addition, there are some parents affected by traditional concepts, often do not know how to respect children's ideas, more of their children as an accessory of their own, without taking into account the feelings of children, many times in doing something, often like to force children, this also leads to children and parents can not communicate, especially many young people, in their adolescence or when they are young and vigorous in their 20s, relatively speaking, more concerned about their personal feelings, therefore, This situation also creates a miscommunication with parents, and this emotional pair will become more and more serious. In addition, there is another factor that some parents tend to be too arrogant, despise their children, and think that their children's views are relatively naïve and relatively one-sided, so many young people think that there is no meaning and effect when communicating with their parents, and it also causes a growing gap between young people and their parents.

In fact, young people and their parents need to learn to understand each other, tolerate and appreciate each other, only in this way can they truly enhance each other's feelings, and at the same time, it is more conducive to the harmony of family relationships.

There is a fundamental reason why young people nowadays can't communicate with their parents.

Because the parents are older, relatively speaking, they have low educational backgrounds, lack of knowledge, are more conservative in thinking, and are slow to accept new things.

Nowadays, young people are completely different from their parents, with high educational qualifications, wide knowledge, open-mindedness, quick acceptance of new things, and can keep up with the pace of the times, so there is a huge contrast with their parents in terms of ideology, and the ideological concepts are inconsistent, how can they correctly listen to each other's opinions? So there is a difficult situation where it is difficult to communicate.

Can communicate! Because the usage is wrong, the emotions are too impulsive! So some young people can't communicate with their parents! Here's how to do it!

3.Respect, understanding is key. Respect is a basic requirement for interacting with parents.

If you don't respect even the people who love you and give the most to you, you will lose the minimum morality. To communicate with parents normally, we must first understand their parents, understand their feelings, respect their wishes, and pay attention to basic politeness and not be willful.

4.An effective way to understand parents is to empathize. When we don't understand our parents and conflict with them, we must learn to empathize, think for them, understand what they are for, what they think, and what they justify. This will make us more calm and sensible.

Nowadays, young people generally have the phenomenon of not being able to communicate with their parents, and the reasons for this may be as follows. 1.The times are changing and developing rapidly, and the concepts of the two sides are different.

Modern society is developing extremely rapidly, like young people, they are more accepting of the ideas and ways of doing things in the new era, and often feel that they are rational enough to think that what they think is right, while parents will feel that they are so old and have experienced more things than you have seen, and since they are all for your good, then they must be right. In this way, the two sides have different perspectives, and there are obvious differences, which naturally leads to communication difficulties.

2.It is difficult for both parties to consider each other's feelings and compare hearts to hearts. In fact, no matter who you communicate with, if you only care about your own thoughts, there is a problem.

Like today's young people, when expressing their thoughts, they will say more about what they want to say, and rarely think about the truth of what their parents say, and parents can rarely really understand the pressure and dilemma their children are facing.

3.Personality and the influence of inappropriate communication patterns Everyone has a different personality, such as the parents in some families have been more irritable, they can not state their views with their children well, and often get angry and even easy to do, the attitude is not good enough, and young people, they are in the midst of youth and rebellion, it is not easy to calmly express their views, and they may make a lot of noise when their opinions are not adopted, so that there are certain problems in the communication mode of both sides. It will be difficult to communicate.

4.Lack of patience and psychological problemsNow some parents do not have enough companionship and care for their children, only know how to ensure their material needs and lack patience to listen to their children, young people may also choose not to take the initiative to communicate with them because their parents are not too concerned about their psychological emotions, the more they talk, the more difficult it is to communicate with the two parties.

The main reason why I don't want to communicate with my parents now is that I don't think the same way. To put it bluntly, there is a generation gap, what you say and you think, they will think that your ideas are immature, no matter how old you are in front of your parents, you are a child.

It's like taking a bath when you were a child, you said that your mother's water was too hot, your mother would say that it wasn't hot, and it would be cold when you washed it, and it was like this again and again, and you didn't want to say more in the future, and then I didn't need to wash with my mother to help me take a bath.

So slowly I encounter all kinds of things to tell my friends, and I don't want to communicate with my parents, they will always think that there is something wrong with your ideas, and their ideas are good for you, because every communication is ineffective communication.

Stubbornness is in the nature of most parents, because they are older than their children, so they often feel that they have more experience in life. They know more than children, so they tend to stick to their own opinions, feel that everything they say is what they say, and they are unwilling to admit that they are wrong.

And sometimes if you talk to your parents, they will make a choice for you, in this way, you are actually just listening to the output, you only need the other party to listen, but the other party will make their own judgment and give you advice, sometimes you don't need such an opinion, you just complain, but in their eyes it is a very serious matter.

Why can't young people communicate with their parents?

It's been like this since ancient times, but now it's just a little more prominent.

Today's young people, most of whom are only children, have stretched out their hands from small clothes and opened their mouths for food, have not suffered hardships, have not experienced the experience of difficult life, do not know the hardships of their parents' lives, just want to take, do not know how to be grateful, just want to enjoy, and do not want to give.

Moreover, the ideological concepts of the two generations are very different, the generation gap is deep, the three views are not in harmony, the old people dislike the young, lazy, selfish, unmotivated, ignorant, and do not know how to respect their parents. Children dislike their parents' nagging is useless, and there are too many big truths. The two sides could not find a point of convergence, looked at each other unpleasantly, and the common language became less and less, and they became strangers under one roof.

First, the ideological gap between parents and children is too great, and there is a generation gap between generations.

I have to admit that the education and growth environment of today's fathers are very different from those of young people. They have many brothers and sisters, have a lot of affection for each other, take care of each other, believe in the traditional ideas of hard work and prosperity, diligence and thrift, and are grateful and filial to their parents since childhood.

Today's young people have a different concept from the previous generation, they live in the present, they are self-centered, they know how to enjoy, they don't care about face, they don't think about the future, and their views on real problems are too different from those of their elders.

First of all, in terms of work and rest habits, I don't sleep at night, I don't wake up in the morning, and the concept of time is different from that of the elderly. Secondly, in terms of eating habits, skipping breakfast, not eating home-cooked meals, ordering takeout, eating supper, overeating, smoking and drinking, and behaving at will for their own bodies. Then there is the concept of consumption, spending money lavishly, wearing famous brands, driving a good car, eating and wearing never treat themselves badly, because of disagreement, conflicts with parents and elders continue to increase.

Second, the influence of unhealthy social atmosphere has caused estrangement between parents and children.

Parents have worked hard all their lives, their children go to school and work, get married, buy a house and buy a car, and spend all their life savings, most of them are burdened with loans to live. Some young people nowadays do not understand the difficulties of their parents, but think that everything should be done by their parents.

My parents didn't find a good job for me, and I complained that my parents were incompetent. Can't make a lot of money, complain about their parents for being too cowardly, young people love to compare with each other, like to compare, don't find reasons from themselves, put the responsibility on their parents, and push the reasons for their unhappiness to their parents, the closer the person is, the deeper the hurt.

Third, the current online world has diluted family affection and alienated each other's relationships.

Most of today's young people are immersed in their own spiritual world, playing games and forgetting everything, and can't tell the difference between day and night behind closed doors. The mobile phone is your own spiritual sustenance, I don't have time to do some housework, I play with my mobile phone when I have a little free time, I squat in the toilet to play with my mobile phone, I play with my mobile phone when I eat, and I am annoyed when I talk too much.

I don't want to talk to my parents, I don't want to talk about work and life, and I have less and less time to communicate.

If you want to change, you also need parents and children to find more reasons from both parties, communicate more, and establish a good family relationship.

The main reason why young people can't communicate with their parents today is that the times are different, and their requirements are different. Therefore, young people's ideas and parents cannot communicate. In the dead of night, I always want to find a tranquility, find a space to be alone, and then let my thoughts drift with the wind, and escape for a while in the tranquility of cranky thoughts.

When the soul can't bear the load of life, it can only send a signal to the sky that it is tired, too tired, and this feeling of tiredness is not something that ordinary people can imagine. Every day I want to find peace in my soul, however, it is really difficult.

There is nothing in the world, and mediocrity disturbs itself. Maybe I'm just a philistine. Why look for tranquility in anything?

In fact, I want to hope for peace, in this extraordinary and bad day this year. I reflected and reflected. Most of the time I don't understand what I'm doing.

Kind of life. Kind of always tugging at people's minds on certain days. When it comes to the tranquility of seeking, everyone expects to have this moment.

For me, it may feel a little heavier in moments of solitude, but it's not absolute. Sometimes, although people are in a noisy and noisy environment, but the heart has already flown to the realm of not knowing what kind of, I often smile on my face, and I have seen through all the complicated things in my inner constancy. People sometimes pretend to be a master of the world, but in fact, it is not the case, and the appearance of all this is also due to countless times of crawling, and then the end of reflection.

There is no real excitement of benefits, no real heartfelt reverence for life and nature, no gratitude and appreciation for life and the world, no kind and transparent understanding, no kind and susceptible heart, no final awakening, and no natural tranquility and detachment. In many cases, the motivation to seek tranquility is far greater than the force caused by all external things, and it may also be a process of excellence in the pursuit of tranquility for each individual. Why is that?

I asked myself with a smile. For a person who is truly integrated into life, will sigh at the wonder of the creation of the world. The heartfelt reverence and concern for life and nature is a kind of sincere gratitude and admiration.