It s been three years since my parents died, can I give filial piety to my in laws?

Yes, after all, it's been three years, more than a thousand days and nights, and I've done my best, if you need to, you must still be close to yourself, people are dead when they die, Dai Xiao is for the living, we also have to face reality, it is impossible to say that the in-laws are gone, do not wear filial piety, the same parents, I am afraid that your husband is psychologically unbalanced, the key is that you can't be rude to others, wearing linen and wearing filial piety is just a mind, it's good to do your best, no time limit, always miss your parents in your heart, it's enough, be filial when you're alive, Cherish the people in front of you, everything else is empty, no matter how good it is, the people are not there, and you can't enjoy it....

First of all, please accept my deep condolences for the misfortune of your bereaved loved ones.

Regarding your question, from a general moral and etiquette point of view, it is common to wait for a certain period of time (usually three years) after the death of one's own parents to show respect and remembrance of one's parents. During this time, children usually follow some mourning rituals, such as wearing filial piety, burning incense, and paying tribute.

However, the customs and traditions of each family and region may be different, so you may want to refer to local customs and family traditions to decide whether you can wear filial piety for your in-laws.

If your family doesn't have particularly strict customs or traditions, you may consider talking to your husband and other family members to determine if you can honor your in-laws. If your family has customs or traditions that stipulate that you need to wait longer, then you may want to respect those regulations.

Most importantly, you need to stay calm and sane and maintain communication and cooperation with your family during this difficult time to get through this together.

Yes, Dai Xiao is to show his kinship with the deceased, and wearing filial piety for his parents does not hinder wearing filial piety to his in-laws.

The mother-in-law passed away, and the daughter-in-law could not wear filial piety.

1. During the funeral of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law must wear linen and filial piety, and the clothes she wears should not be too gorgeous, nor can she wear gold and silver jewelry, let alone paint particularly bright makeup.

2. The daughter-in-law is not allowed to laugh at the funeral scene, which is not only a disrespect to the deceased, but relatives and friends will also feel that the daughter-in-law is very unfilial.

If you don't have to go through the door, you don't need to bring filial piety, and if you are married, you will wear filial piety to attend the funeral after your father-in-law dies.

For the daughter-in-law, the death of the future father-in-law does not strictly require filial piety or not, first of all, you should abide by the local customs and in-laws customs, if you are very familiar with the relationship with your in-laws, often go, just like a family can bring, or the original relationship with grandma is very good, you can take it, it doesn't matter, there is nothing to say. When you wear it, you should wear it on your right arm, and the black hoop should be decorated with a small red flower.

Precautions for daughters-in-law attending funerals

After someone in the mother-in-law's family dies, the daughter-in-law also has an important duty, cleaning up the daily necessities before her death, such as clothes, shoes and hats and commonly used personal items, etc., which can be kept and which can not be kept, make a decision, and then put the things that cannot be left outside the house and pile them up, and burn them all when the deceased goes out of the funeral.

Cooking and participating in the whole funeral process, in the process of handling the funeral, according to folk customs, the son and daughter-in-law have a division of labor. The son, who is responsible for major matters, such as funeral reports, inviting people, and finding graves, is responsible for the son, while the daughter-in-law is responsible for internal trivial matters, such as expenses, distribution of cloths, and arrangements for guests.

According to local folk customs, the way of wearing filial piety is different.

For example, Dai Xiao in the Northeast means that it is actually a kind of tomb guard, and it is generally only about a month. If there are many elders in the family who have died, it is enough to bring a filial piety.

However, if it is said that after Dai Xiao, the family encounters the death of the elderly, then Dai Xiao is still needed.

Maybe you are in the mud now, maybe you are miserable now, maybe you are still struggling and wandering, everything you are doing now is what you have identified and chosen before, everyone in the world has experienced it, and if you have identified and chosen, you will do it firmly, no matter what the future holds, no regrets or harm.

Of course, wearing linen and wearing filial piety is a traditional Chinese custom, which means respect and love for the elders!

It has to be, or it will be bad.

Our father (mother) died here, and we are serving filial piety, and if an elder dies, this is called wearing double filial piety, which is to wear two sets of filial piety clothes.