Why do we have a problem with the older generation?

Generation gap. It refers to the concept of life and values between two or three generations.

is not the same, resulting in difficult communication situations. For many young people, they can't understand their parents' habits, feel that their parents' practices are too conservative, or old-fashioned. The same parents can't understand some of their strange ideas, whether it is behavior, clothing, or language, there is no way to reach a consensus, this is the so-called generation gap.

The main reason for the generation gap is the difference in the living environment of the two generations, as wellBig timeBut this should not be a factor affecting the relationship between the two generations.

1. The difference in the era of life has created communication problems. The character of each era.

It's all different, for example, in our parents' era it would be more conservative than ours. As a result, parents are also more conservative in their thinking than young people nowadays. The values of my parents' time were not the same as they are now, and when it comes to whether or not to save money, my parents must have felt that only when they save money can they feel safe.

For young people, saving money does not produce any value, only consumption can produce value, which is the difference in concept under the influence of the times.

Second, the difference in living environment has created communication problems. The two generations also lived in different circumstances. Nowadays, young people mostly live in cities, and they like the lively life of cities.

And many elderly people are used to living in the countryside, so they prefer a quiet life. The difference in living environment will also cause some different living habits, and when they cannot agree with each other, the generation gap will arise.

Third, the generation gap is inevitable, but it should not affect feelings. It is precisely because the two generations live in different times and environments that there will be some differences in values between the two generations. But in any case, this kind of family relationship exists, and the generation gap should not be an emotional gap between two generations.

After the founding of New China, many advanced ideas from abroad poured in, and society changed, but the older generation was still stubborn and could not accept the new ideas.

Maybe it's a difference in concept, nothing else, in fact, it's just a lack of patience in communication, you have to sit down and communicate well with the older generation, and you can quickly understand what the other party means.

For example, in the concept of the elderly, there are some ideas or practices that he has been going on for many years, and it must be difficult to correct them immediately, so it will be more troublesome to communicate.

1.Give love.

It is difficult for the elderly to communicate, most often because of a lack of love and a desire to be cared for. Therefore, family members and children should give more love and care to the elderly, and tease the emotional needs of the elderly. It is not material and monetary care, but real spiritual communication and spiritual care.

In fact, you can treat the elderly who lack care like a child, coaxing and holding him, so that he feels that he is loved and has enough security.

2.Listen to the elderly.

When you get older, you will have fewer opportunities to communicate with others, and you will have no one to talk about your emotions and thoughts, so it will be impatient and difficult to face occasional communication. Communicate more with the elderly, especially pay attention to listening to the voices and real thoughts of the elderly, so that the elderly have something to say and someone to say.

3.Accompany the elderly.

Many people feel that it is difficult for their elderly to communicate, mostly because they do not accompany and care for the elderly enough. Only by caring for and accompanying the elderly can we understand the real thoughts and thoughts of the elderly, and only then can we understand the purpose and way of their communication. Usually accompany the elderly more can not only communicate with the elderly smoothly and fluently, but also enhance the relationship between the two parties, so that the elderly have something to rely on.

The old have support, the old have something to rely on, and the old have fun refers to the triple realm of treating the elderly, so that the elderly do not have to worry about the economy is to provide for the elderly. Accompanying and taking care of the elderly is something for the elderly; Listening and caring are the joy of old age. If you want the elderly to live happily, you must meet the emotional needs of the elderly; If you want to get along with the elderly smoothly and skillfully, you must learn to listen and care.

The older generation has experienced more, while the younger generation has experienced relatively less things, and their interests are different from those of the younger generation. This is the gap of the times, just as parents cannot understand some of the behaviors of children that they think are very childish, but from the perspective of young children, it is parents who do not understand their own behavior. As the saying goes, the older a person gets, the more annoying he becomes, and there is some truth to it.

Old people always want to pass on their experience to future generations, so that they can reduce the ups and downs, but times change, and their experience may not be useful to you. It's still good to listen to.

Although it is said that the older generation around us, they are very subtle about the love of the cousin, and rarely take the initiative to say the words "I love you" to their lovers, but in fact, these older generations have a deeper understanding of love and the pursuit of love than us, and their pursuit of love and care for their other half are expressed and reflected in some details.

Take the old couple Uncle Zhang and Aunt Li next door to me, I usually can't see how good the relationship between this old couple is, and even Aunt Li often counts Uncle Zhang in front of our neighbors, and many times, Uncle Zhang faces Aunt Li's number and does not defend himself, more just smile, or bow his head and be silent. For those of us who are outsiders, it seems that Aunt Li doesn't care much about Uncle Zhang, but the real situation is not what we think.

One day when I got home from work, I saw Aunt Zhang sitting downstairs washing some things downstairs hard, I walked over to see that Aunt Zhang was washing some old clothes from the sixties and seventies, I didn't think I would ask Aunt Zhang: "Why do you still keep washing such old clothes?" If you can't wear these clothes, why do you bother with all this effort?

Aunt Zhang glanced at me and muttered, "These clothes are all worn by my grandson and the old man when I was young, people are old, and I care about these old clothes, especially nostalgic when I was young, the days when the two people were together, it can be said that these clothes are the best commemoration of the relationship between the two of us", and Aunt Li's made me fall into contemplation, I really felt it, in fact, Aunt Li also loves Uncle Zhang very much, but Aunt Li's love for Uncle Zhang is not expressed through words, Through such details, we can experience.