Why are people prone to anger when they can t do anything?

First of all, you have to know that anger is actually an emotion composed of multiple emotions, just like your girlfriend is being held by someone else's man, your first reaction is disbelief, then heartbreak, and then you start to be angry, anger is not a separate emotion, just like a condiment.

Like chili peppers, chili peppers are also a compound of multiple flavors, so when people are powerless, they will have a lot of negative emotions.

Once these emotions are summed up, they will immediately make the person angry, so that he will lose his mind and cannot think calmly.

When people are powerless, they are often the first to feel helpless, and the feeling of helplessness will make people feel lonely, which will greatly reduce people's enthusiasm, and let people exist in their own sadness, followed by resentment, at this time, people will begin to curse everything that is not good for him, and will push the responsibility to people or things that they can't stop, so that they will make their psychology feel better, and then there will be a sense of sadness, because they can't change the current situation. So I feel very tired, very sad, and in the end it is almost despair, and at this time the person will become surprisingly angry, because anger will bring him strength, and the angry person will not listen to anything, and will only deal with things according to his own logic. A person who is really angry is the most terrible, because anger will make him lose his mind and even do a lot of illegal things.

Therefore, when people are powerless, anger is often the last to appear, and it is also the easiest to appear, because it is just a summary of emotions, which is the venting of one's own emotions. This also warns us not to let ourselves be angry easily, try to vent our emotions, deal with our emotions in a timely manner, and be good to ourselves and the people around us.

To use an inappropriate idiom to describe "the dog jumps off the wall", although this idiom means that you are prone to do some extreme things when you are helpless, but, angry people, you also know that angry people can't do anything. <>

I understand why some people have this question, when they are powerless, they should become sad, they should become abandoned, then why should they be angry? If anything, I have my own set of opinions to explain the core of the problem.

First of all, I can tell you very clearly that despair is sometimes a kind of motivation, and I will use a more extreme example here to illustrate: if you have terminal cancer and are about to die young, you are in a desperate situation at this time, and you are powerless to save your life, and anger will always accompany you. Why, because I don't want to die, in my opinion, and the biggest purpose of life is to live, and to die at a point in life, anyone is unwilling, at this time in fact, your entire brain nerves are in a very tense state, it can also be said that you are full of pressure, in all the expressions of people, only laughter, crying and anger are the best expressions to vent, and anger, a good means to share anxiety with others, is a better way to do the three, So we can see that people who can't do anything are very angry, and they're just venting.

In fact, this is also well explained in physiology, but when a person is desperate and powerless, your brain will promote your body to release a series of hormones such as adrenal hormones to promote your excitement in order to make your body still work normally, and when you are under great pressure, these hormones will increase dramatically, and this leads to a *** that you become very nervous, and also make you very easy to anger.

In any case, it's better not to mess with a person when he is helpless, and help him more within the scope of your ability, which is also considered a good deed.

People are more likely to be angry when they are powerless, it is human nature, when they are in a bad mood, there must always be an outlet to vent, this time it is easy to be angry, because people's anger is essentially the hatred of their own incompetence, when people are incompetent, it is the time when the real world and the inner world are the most contrasting, there is no ambition, and there is no opportunity to perform, the inner depression has nowhere to vent, the dissatisfaction with reality and the situation of their own powerlessness form a strong contrast, at this time is the most vulnerable time of psychological defense, And when people are psychologically fragile, people's irritable and irritable nature is most easily revealed, and the ugly corners of the mouth that are usually hidden under the mask are most easily exposed.

Just like I once asked the teacher to make a PPT, I didn't play much with the computer at that time, let alone know PPTWhat is it, but this task must be completed, so I borrowed a computer to get it myself, I didn't understand anything at the time, when I clicked on a thing and couldn't get in, I was very unhappy, after several twists and turns, I finally got a clue, and finally finished it, so I forgot to save it in the end, and found that there was nothing after clicking on it, and I was mad in an instant, and I smashed the book to the ground, hugged my head and cried, and there was nothing after venting, and I just put a few books on my desk at that time, and a bunch of gadgets, Now I'm glad it's a few books, but if it's a particularly valuable thing, I fell in a fit of anger, and my liver hurts after I'm angry.

When people are powerless, emotions are the most unstable time, they lose their judgment of normal phenomena, and their emotions are most likely to get out of control, most of this emotion is anger, anger to the end of not caring about anything, and then a new round of self-denial, and then this feeling of powerlessness will be stronger, emotions will be more out of control, struggling between ideals and reality.

We can't do everything in life, we will always encounter problems and setbacks that we can't solve, and we will always have angry emotions when we can't do anything, so why are we so angry when we can't do anything?

When people are powerless, they will have the frustration of failure, and failure will make people lose and irritable, make us feel helpless and powerless, and cause us psychological pressure, so people will be moved to anger and anger when they are powerless and lose their minds. When we have negative emotions, if we can vent out, it will make us a lot more comfortable, if it is because of other reasons for failure, we will put our bad emotions on other things, we can do something to relieve our emotions, and if it is because of our own reasons caused by failure, our emotions will have nowhere to vent, and there will be a heavy psychological burden, afraid of others' denial of themselves. And when people are powerless, they will put the difficult and unsolvable reasons on themselves, and they will complain about their own shortcomings and resent their own incompetence.

Under the heavy psychological burden and strong psychological pressure, people will easily produce angry emotions. And if we are comfortable in the face of difficulties, we will enjoy the joy of success and the honor we bring to ourselves, enjoy the satisfaction of success, and naturally feel relaxed and not easy to produce angry emotions.

We will experience all kinds of difficulties and setbacks in our lives, we slowly experience and grow up in the process of overcoming difficulties, and become stronger and stronger ourselves, but no one can overcome all difficulties, we will eventually encounter problems that make us powerless, when we go through this stage of making ourselves miserable, we must learn to regulate our emotions, always have confidence in ourselves, and we can not overcome difficulties but also overcome the bad emotions that difficulties bring us.

Wang Xiaobo once said: All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence.

Incompetence is such a glaring two words, it is our unwillingness to reality, and our helplessness in the face of ourselves. Sometimes I feel like I've done my best to do something, I'm afraid I'm going to fail, so I'm willing to block everything, and then I find out I'm gambling big, I realize that I've lost everything, and I can't do anything about the outcome. I gave everything, but I didn't get it back, and I didn't even have a chance to save the day.

At this time, I will be sad and irritable. Why, because I failed, I put it down to my incompetence so I failed, I hate myself for not being capable, but I also hate you for not being able to help me, I also hate why others can succeed, I feel that everything is against me, so I am angry with everyone who is close to me, and I want to release my grievances and anger more completely.

It is precisely because we know that we are incompetent and we cannot find a solution to it, that we can only release the pent-up anger in ourselves by throwing tantrums at others. And who is the bearer who is facing us? Generally our loved ones.

Because we know that losing our temper with others will not end well, so in the outside world often suppress our emotions, when we return home, the family will come up to shush the cold and ask for warmth, at this time you should have been deeply moved, but as if you were touched by some switch, like explosives.

When we know that we can't do anything about something, we get bored with the good or bad intentions of others, and force some of the blame on some people, and these people often become the targets of our venting.

Why do we feel powerless? Why are we irritable? Because we always expect the result when we do something, watch a TV series and expect to enlighten our lives, read a book and expect it to enrich our knowledge, wear a dress and hope that it will improve our taste, we are always looking forward to the result, if the result is not what we want, we will blame ourselves for our incompetence, making ourselves depressed or irritable.

Because at this time, people's confidence will lose their humanity, and they will want to vent in a way. Let yourself be able to find a little bit of self-confidence in a certain area.

I'm a very typical person, who is particularly prone to anger when I'm powerless, and every time I can't do anything, I lose my temper a lot, because I just want to try to shift this powerlessness onto others through tantrums, and I always want to blame myself, so that I can show that I'm not so powerless, not so stupid.

In fact, at that time, I didn't understand whether I wanted to maintain my own face, or what other things I liked to maintain? I just feel that when I can't do anything, I just call the heavens and the earth not spiritual. I don't know what else I can do, my heart is sad, maybe I want to cry, maybe I want to do something extreme, but I feel that only a tantrum can get me back to normal, because when there is nothing I can do, I have to stay calm so that I can, possibly, solve the problem.

Maybe I am too strong when I can't do anything, so I have to calm myself down and cool down quickly, so that I can completely let myself solve the difficulties in front of me with the calmest mind, but the difficulties in front of me can't be solved, then I am really incompetent, what if I can't do anything, I must be objective and calm, so that I can really grow.

I think for most people, losing their temper if they can't do anything is to reduce pressure on themselves, so that they can have a kind of relaxation and liberation in their hearts, only in this way can they not lose their minds because of powerlessness, and they will not lose confidence forever! If you want to calm down, you may have to vent first.

We always want to change the status quo through our own efforts, hope that we have the ability to let our families live a good and happy life, hope that we can support ourselves, and hope to improve our current life through our own efforts.

But when things backfire, when your ideas do not match reality, when your efforts are not proportional to your gains, you will feel a deep sense of powerlessness, feel that your ability cannot change the status quo, feel that your existence is very small, you can't get yourself out of the status quo by yourself, you can't do anything about life, you don't know anything about the future, you are full of despair and anger, but you don't have any way to change, so you will be overwhelmed, have a heart but are powerless, There is a heart that tries hard to get better, but it is crushed by the relentless blows of life.

So when you can't do anything, you will be particularly prone to anger, most of these anger comes from your dissatisfaction with yourself, your disapproval of yourself, your powerlessness and nothingness, you yourself deny yourself, but you don't want to be like this, in the contrast between ideal and reality, in the torment of heart and action, in the crack between success and failure, you can't do anything. You are overwhelmed by the tribulations of life, and you can only use anger to vent your emotions, to release your pressure, to vent all your dissatisfaction and anger in this world.

When you feel like you can't do anything about life, calm down, tell yourself, affirm yourself, and let yourself know that you are the best. Don't hurt those around you because of anger. Because the words spoken can't be recovered, and the hurt feelings can't be repaired.