Is it reasonable that all people s inferiority and cowardice come from the family ?

Modern developmental psychology has confirmed that the basic construction of personality has been completed at about the age of 5 years in children, and after that, the development of the whole life is nothing more than the repetition and adjustment of this personality pattern. Childhood personality lays the foundation for the development of a child's life, so children's personality education is of great significance to every parent, every child, and every family. As the Austrian psychiatrist Alfred Adler put it:

The lucky people use their childhood for a lifetime, and the unfortunate people spend a lifetime for their childhood.

I think there is some truth in the fact that people have basically been with family members since they were born to be sensible, and many ways to deal with people and things are learned from their parents, and the education of their children by parents also affects their children's personality to a large extent.

This sentence is not entirely unreasonable, our character is already cultivated in childhood, and the insecurity given to us by our family of origin can make us feel inferior and cowardly.

There is a certain truth that the family environment and the parent's education style have a great impact on a person, and determine a person's future character and development prospects.

I think there's some truth to that. After all, the family is a person's harbor, and the family environment has a certain impact on a person's character, but not all, people's inferiority complex and cowardice may also come from other people.

There will be various types of people in real life, and that is because they have been educated since they were young, and their parents have different education for them, so the children they raise are also different. However, in our real life, there will be many children with low self-esteem, so what is the reason why they are very inferior? In fact, a big reason comes from the family.

1.Children from single-parent families. Although there is nothing particularly bad about single-parent families, in general, it will still have a great impact on children.

After all, a healthy child still needs father's love and mother's love at the same time, and the family atmosphere is very good, so that a child will be more confident and lively on the road in the future. For many children from single-parent families, their parents need to spend a lot of time on work to maintain living expenses, so they will ignore a lot of children's lives, and when children lose the love of their parents, they will be very afraid to contact the outside world, which will also lead to the beginning of their low self-esteem. 2.

Family relations are not harmonious. In real life, many families will have small quarrels, after all, no one and who can always maintain a relationship for a long time remains the same, how can there be traces of some small reasons will cause some small friction between two people, which is also a necessary way for two people to get along. But in general, there should be no particularly big friction in the family relationship, because this will split the state and not have a very big impact on the children.

In particular, domestic violence will affect a child's life, after all, a child has been living under domestic violence, which will cause them to have low self-esteem and fear of contact with anyone, so they will also have low self-esteem in their own lives. The relationship between parents is not harmonious, so that children will be in a relatively weak place when they get along with others, because they are afraid that they will get along with their friends like their parents, so they are still in a state of inferiority when facing friends, and the impact on them is still very great. In fact, no matter what the relationship between adults is, it is necessary to create a particularly good atmosphere for children, after all, children often draw nutrients from all aspects of their lives to grow up healthily.

If the surrounding environment is particularly bad, it will have a great impact on the child's body and mind and life, and if the child has been very inferior since he was a child, then it will be a more painful thing for his future life.

A strict family, a repressed family, a family without any freedom, a family with very high requirements for child management, a family with high expectations for children. A family environment will affect the child's learning atmosphere, will affect the child's growth atmosphere, will have a bad impact on the child, and will also affect the child's personality.

Families of left-behind children, some children in the countryside are prone to inferiority complex.

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No, it won't. Don't feel inferior because of your family, if you feel that the family you were born in is very happy, then you just need to feel this happiness, if you don't like the family you were born into, then you can find a way to get rid of it when you grow up.

There is no need for each of us to feel inferior because of our own family, because your happiness or unhappiness in the family is more than your own feelings. Therefore, it is very unnecessary for you to feel that your family is inferior to someone else's family or feel inferior because of your own feelings. Because in the eyes of others, it is also possible that they will envy your family.

Nowadays we often talk about the word "family of origin". The "family of origin" refers to the family in which you were born as a child, that is, the family formed with your parents. Now we attach great importance to the influence of the "original family" on a person, and indeed the family has a very great impact on people, including the development of people's IQ, the cultivation of emotional intelligence and people's personality are inseparable from the subtle influence of the family, so now many people blame the influence of the family for all kinds of unhappiness and personality and interpersonal communication after they enter the society, so that some people also have an inferiority complex for their families, but is this really the case?

In fact, no matter which family it is, as long as it is a human being, it will make mistakes, so every family also has an imperfect father, an imperfect mother, even if it seems to be a beautiful family, in fact, there will be imperfections, so don't have too high requirements for your family, as long as you can feel the happiness in this family, it is the best, and you don't have an inferiority complex for your family.

There are also many people who have an inferiority complex for their families, not from their father's or mother's education, but from the family's economic level. In fact, there is no need for an inferiority complex brought about by the economic level. There are many well-known entrepreneurs, such as Liu Qiangdong, the founder of JD.com, who was born into a poor rural family, but his family did not bring him a sense of economic inferiority, but the family brought him the hard work of studying, which also had a certain impact on his future career success.

And after his career was successful, he did not forget his family and hometown, and has been helping his hometown develop. Therefore, the influence of family on a person, the most important thing is their own subjective feelings, may be born in a poor family, in the eyes of some people, this family does not provide a better starting line for themselves; But in the eyes of others, the family gives them the sense to work hard, which helps them succeed. So our feelings about the family still depend on ourselves, there is nothing to compare, and there is nothing to be inferior.

No, because my family is very normal, a very positive and healthy family, and I have no worries in this regard.

Families with discordant parental relationships can easily lead to low self-esteem in children, and I have a little bit, but it is not serious. Children will have different psychology due to various family factors, and parents should set an example and create a warm family environment for their children.

No. Even though my family situation is not good, my parents love me very much, and my parents do their best to let me study, so I don't feel inferior.

No, I think it's a kind of fate, because I grew up in such a family with parents who love me so much. And the family, and then very happy.

No, what the family can give is already the best, and in the future, it will be all based on their own struggle, and hope is still to create by themselves.

No. Everyone's family is not a choice, we should accept it, and we must work hard to change it.

No, although my family may not be as good as others, the family atmosphere is very harmonious, and my parents will often accompany me, so life is still relatively happy.

I don't feel inferior because of this situation, because I can face life very correctly, and only by maintaining a more correct mentality can I live and work better.

Single-parent families, lack of father's or mother's love, may also be family members with violent tendencies, children have a sense of fear, or children who live with the older generation.

The first type is domestic violence, the second type is a family where parents often have a cold war, the third type is that parents often beat their children, the fourth type is that parents often scold their children, and the fifth type is that there are too many family conflicts.

domestic violence, where one spouse is always abused; Parents often have cold wars, and the family atmosphere is very awkward; Parents often beat their children and abuse their children's personalities; There are too many contradictions within the family and there is not enough cohesion.