As the rural saying goes, After my aunt dies, I have tendons, and my aunt breaks my roots after she

This is mainly from the distance of blood to divide interpersonal relationships, aunts are particularly distressed nephews, because they have a sense of responsibility to their mother's family, so they feel more sorry for their nephews and their mother's family.

Because in China's thousands of years of history, people respected the patriarchal social system, and everything was centered on men. In the family status, the status of men is significantly higher than that of women

Because my aunt is my father's sister, my aunt is my mother's sister, my aunt is a family to us, and my aunt is a relative. If my aunt is gone, the family's affection will continue, and if my aunt is gone, the relationship may be dispersed.

Rural proverb: Aunt dies with tendons, aunt dies and breaks roots, is the opinion of the ancestors applicable now?

Everyone has a lot of friends, but among so many friends, we will classify them, such as some are friends and brothers, some are ordinary friends, and some are faint nodding friends. As for You Hu and Li Yu's relatives, we are also close to each other.

Especially in rural areas, due to the way of life and habits, basically all relatives live in the same village, and the rural areas attach great importance to the relationship between relatives, which makes everyone have a lot of relatives of seven aunts and eight aunts. The normal algorithm makes it that relatives within three generations are called close relatives, and after three generations, everyone's feelings are relatively light, and they move around less.

But in the hearts of many people, the relatives they identify in their hearts are those who are related by blood or have the same surname, and our relatives are roughly divided, which is nothing more than relatives on the father's side and relatives on the mother's side, as for other relatives who extend out, most of them are relatives.

And the female relatives at the elder level are nothing more than aunts and aunts, so is the aunt more close, or the aunt is closer? Regarding this question, our ancestors gave the answer very early, that is, "Aunt dies and connects tendons, and aunt dies and breaks the roots". Let's take a look at why there is such a stark difference.

In the eyes of many people, my aunt is my own person, and my aunt is an outsider, because my aunt and father were born to my grandparents, and their surnames are the same as their own. In addition, in terms of walking, the Chinese tradition is to raise children to prevent old age, so parents normally live with their sons.

As a married daughter, my aunt would often come back to visit her parents at home, so she moved around more often. Even if you are not related by blood, you will have a deeper relationship when you move around a lot.

And what about Auntie? My aunt and my mother are married daughters, and they usually spend more time at their mother-in-law's house, and they will only return to their parents' house during the New Year's holidays.

And after the death of my aunt and aunt, why is the difference so obvious? This is because my aunt's children, who are our cousins, have lived with each other since they were young, so they have a good relationship. And the aunt's children, that is, the cousins and sisters, move around less often, and when the aunt is alive, they will also move around because of the relationship between the aunt, but after the aunt dies, the cousins may not see each other several times a year, and slowly the roots between relatives will be broken.

Although there is some truth in this saying, it still varies from person to person, whether it is an aunt or an aunt, they are all our relatives, if you usually move around a lot, then there is no difference between the two.

In other words, even if they are close relatives, if they have no contact, then they are similar to strangers; Even if you are a stranger who is not related by blood, if you often come and go, then strangers can become familiar.

Being able to become a relative is a special fate, and everyone must move around more and cherish this hard-won fate.

In the past in China, most of the peasants in the countryside had little opportunity to study, so there were generally not many cultural people, but this does not mean that they did not have any literary creations, for example, each of us more or less knows that many of the sayings in one or two sentences are created by simple working people, although these sayings are more "vulgar", but this is only a down-to-earth embodiment, does not mean that there is no connotation, but just the opposite, Those catchy sayings actually contain a lot of life truths.

There are many aspects of the saying about how to behave in the world and how to live in the world, which we may not understand when we are young, but when we grow up, we will appreciate the deep meaning. In the past, there were many brothers and sisters in the family, and the sisters and sisters of the parents had a very close relationship, but in the past, the aunt was obviously closer than the aunt. Why is there such a big gap between sisters who are also parents?

As the saying goes, "Aunt dies with tendons, aunt dies and breaks roots" means that the aunt passed away, but the descendants will still be very close, after all, the bones are broken and the tendons are connected, and the aunt dies like a broken root, and there will not be too much contact anymore, why is this? In the past, there was a serious inequality between men and women, and most of them favored sons over women.

There is an old saying "the water spilled by the daughter who marries", after the daughter is married, she is a member of someone else's family, and the idea of male respect and female inferiority leads people to think that they are better than their aunts. There is also an aunt who is a sister of my father, and we have the same surname, and my aunt is my mother's sister and we do not have the same surname, the social system in the past was based on the father's clan, the surname is very important, and it is also a sign to distinguish a clan, so it also led to aunt and sister.

This proverb is no longer applicable, generally which is close and take care of each other will be very close, aunts and aunts are sisters of their parents, and blood relations are the same, so there is no absolute saying that who is closer than whom, relatives will be very close to each other, and there will be no phenomenon of breaking the roots.

Relatives are related by blood, blood is thicker than water, it is difficult to part with the relationship, even if you don't usually have much contact, but when it comes to weddings and funerals, you will meet and greet each other. Now the social and cultural development has changed, the traditional customs have changed a lot, people are busy from all over the world, whether they are close or not can not only look at the blood relationship, those blood relations are not so close, if the distance is close to each other, it will become very close. We should abandon the old ideas of the past, and treat aunts and aunts equally, and we should not favor one over the other.

It means that if the aunt is gone, there will be contact with the aunt's children, but there will be no contact with the aunt after the aunt is gone.

Before China, most rural peasants did not have many learning opportunities and therefore did not have many literate people, but this does not mean that they did not have any literary language. For example, we all know more or less that many proverbs in a sentence or two were coined by simple working people. Although these proverbs are more vulgar, they are only the embodiment of the foundation and do not mean that there is no connotation.

On the contrary, proverbs that are read aloud actually contain many truths from life. There are many sayings about humanization and sociability, and when we are younger, we may not understand it. When we grow up, we will understand its deeper meaning.

In the past, the family had many siblings. There is a close relationship between the sisters and sisters of the parents, but in the past, the aunt was clearly closer than the aunt.

This is why the gap between parents and sisters is so big, as the saying goes, the aunt is still connected when she dies, and the root is broken when the aunt dies, which means that the aunt is dead, but the offspring are still very close。Why is that? In the past, there was a gross inequality between men and women.

Most of them rate men more than women, and there is an old saying: "Married daughters are like water spilled". When a daughter gets married, she is someone else's family.

There is also an aunt who is my father's sister, and we have a surname, and our aunt is my mother's sister, and we are not a surname. In the past, the social system was based on the paternal clan. The surname is very important, and it can also distinguish the clan, so it also leads to the aunt and the family are not close.

But now this old adage no longer applies, and usually, we are very close to our aunts and aunts and take care of each other. Aunts and aunts are both sisters of their parents, and the blood relationship is the same, so no one is stronger than the other. It is said that relatives will be very close when walking around, and there will be no broken roots.

Relatives are all related by blood, and blood is thicker than water, making it difficult to give up. Even if there is usually no connection, they meet each other and greet each other when they get married and have funerals. Nowadays, the culture of society is constantly evolving, and traditional customs have changed dramatically.

People are heading south, and people who are not close to each other can't just look at blood ties. Those blood ties are not so close, and if they are very close, they will also reflect each other and become very close. We must discard the old ideas of the past and treat aunts and aunts equally.

It means that aunts and aunts are also their relatives, and no matter what, if they are there, they are their own dependence.

The meaning of this sentence is actually that if your aunt dies, she is connected to herself, and the deep relationship will be very painful, but in comparison, if your aunt dies, she will not have this feeling, and the feelings will be much lighter than that of your aunt, which is also the disadvantage of traditional Chinese customs.

So that means that my aunt is still towards our family, how about it is still regarded as her own family. Then the aunts are different, they can say that their thinking has changed a lot.

It means that the aunt is a relative on the father's side, and the aunt is a relative on the mother's side, so the level of the relationship is different.

It means that after the aunt dies, the descendants will still be very close, and after the aunt dies, it will be like no longer in touch with each other.

In the countryside, the old people in the countryside often say that the aunt dies with tendons, and the aunt dies and breaks the roots, this sentence is not unreasonable, but it is not absolute, don't forget that there is a saying in the countryside, called one generation of relatives, two representatives, and three generations.

When I was a child, my father also told me that my aunt was the least intimate relative, or my aunt was the least intimate.

But the reality is not like this, at least I don't think so, I even think that my aunt is better than my aunt, I like to go to my aunt's house when I was a child, and I don't like to go to my aunt's house.

Because my uncle looked down on us in the past, and my aunt's status in the family was also very low, everything was decided by my uncle, who thought we were poor and was most afraid that we would borrow money from him, but in fact we never borrowed money from him.

Because of poverty, my aunt's family is also very fierce to us, sometimes in front of me said that I have no tutor, always criticize me, so I see my aunt is scared to death, every year during the Spring Festival, to my aunt's house to go out, always make an excuse to go home, and my aunt has never said much, let alone joke, even I feel that my introverted personality is also affected by this aspect.

And my aunt is different, they have never alienated us because we are poor, on the contrary, we are very lively together, my aunt is very emotional, it seems that the poorer the person, the more emotional, so I always feel that my aunt is closer than my aunt.

I was planning to buy a car recently, my aunt found out, asked me if I wanted money, he could lend me no money, I said I have money and don't need to borrow, but my aunt is different, they even think that I don't deserve to buy a car, I was very unhappy when I heard that I bought a car, and asked me why I bought a car?

Don't say it's me, even my children and my aunt's family, especially my uncle is not optimistic, and the child is young and says that my child is not promising, so the child does not like to deal with these people.

Now I also understand that there is no such thing as a brother, and some of them do not get along with each other.

But my aunt died with tendons, and it also made sense that my aunt died and broke the roots, my aunt and uncle, broke the bones and connected the tendons, and the people in the past were emotional, such as my father, he and my aunt's son are still in contact, my aunt has been dead for many years, and the relationship between my father and my cousin is really indescribable in words, but the children of my aunt are now no longer in touch, and it can be said that they have been broken.

Now there are fewer relatives of children, unlike the seven aunts and eight aunts in the past, whether the children are called aunts or aunts, they are very close, some children only have aunts or only aunts, so there is nothing to kiss or not kiss, one more relative child has one more way, now there are fewer relatives, and there are fewer children, it stands to reason that we should cherish relatives more, but now the children are less affectionate, because everyone is very busy, and there is less time to contact, and some children do not know each other for a long time, let alone what relatives are not.

Sometimes people's lives are like this, some things don't need to be so clear, take one step at a time.

It is customary to believe that the blood relatives of the man are more important, and the woman is less important. The aunt is a blood relative of the man, and even if she dies, the offspring will contact her more. The aunt is the woman's blood relative, and if the aunt dies, the contact between the descendants will basically be broken.

It's just that the aunt and the father are usually the same parents, so from the traditional Chinese culture, I feel that this side should be closer, and the aunt is married to someone with a foreign surname, which feels farther away, I think it is quite reasonable.