It s best if you can t get the feelings

Since we have chosen love, we must treat it sincerely, cherish it, support him when he (she) is in difficulty, encourage him or her when he (she) is happy, and comfort him (her) when he (she) is happy. Rather than ignoring its existence when you have it, only to regret it only after you lose it. To love someone is to make him (her) happy forever, to be his (her) eternal safe haven, to protect him (her), even if it is the slightest harm.

Truly loving someone is not as simple as we think, an affectionate hug, a deep kiss, an unchanging vow, a non-fading token ......All this is tasteless, dark and dull in the face of true love. The most important thing to love a person is to respect his (her) own independent time and space, let him (her) devote his (she) energy to the struggle for his ideal career, and urge him (her) to make full use of the time at his or her disposal, help each other in the short space with each other, support each other, share weal and woe, contribute to each other's ideal cause, and strive for a better future together! You may not think it will be like when you have it, but when you lose it, you will know what heartache is.

Most people get used to doing something or accepting someone's feelings for a few days, but one day when you stop what you have done and accept from people, you feel as if something is missing. Actually, nothing is missing, it's just that you're starting to get used to that life, that feeling. Therefore, when you lose him (her), you will think that he (she) is valuable, if you cherish him (her) at the beginning, he (her) will not leave you now.

Cherish what you have now, and don't wait until everything is gone from you, all you have left is regret and self-blame.

Some people always say that the love that can't be obtained is the most beautiful thing, because in their opinion, what they can't get always has a place in their hearts, and because they haven't gotten it, they will only have beautiful imagination.

When a person has only the good side in your heart, it will naturally seem incomparably precious. When you get it, two people will expose all kinds of shortcomings and deficiencies in the process of getting along, and then the once beautiful woman will be a mess, and even say if. If a person can't accept the shortcomings of the other person, no matter how good he once thought it was, he won't be able to go on.

Therefore, it makes sense that there is no most precious thing that cannot be obtained, and love has always been like this.

There are also a lot of unsettling feelings in real life, but this unhappiness is only reflected in the fact that two people want to be together, but they are not together for various reasons. Often this last request is not at your fingertips, but it will not be as beautiful as everyone imagines in daily life, because in the reality of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. All the shortcomings and shortcomings will be exposed, and if two people can't accept each other, it will become a pity.

At this time, you may think that if you know this, it is better to keep this beauty in your heart.

So in this way, don't always feel that the love you can't get is the most beautiful, and the people around us are the ones we should cherish and love the most. There is a person who can accompany himself to move forward rain or shine, can accept his shortcomings, and can tolerate his own shortcomings, which is the most beautiful feeling in the world. In this kind of relationship, two people go hand in hand to create a better future, which is a great support and trust for each other, which is 1,000 times better than the so-called cinnabar mole in the heart, 10,000 times, don't let the empty love miss the real love in life.

Because when you can't get it, you will default to that love is very beautiful, without any shortcomings, and it is particularly perfect.

Because I feel that the one I can't get is the best, and there will always be all kinds of contradictions after I get it, and I forget the beauty of the beginning, so I feel that I can't get the best.

Because human nature is like this, if you get it, you won't cherish it, what you can't get will always be the best thing, and what you can't get will always be what you can't get in your heart.

Because you have never gotten it, you will always be at ease, if you really get it, you don't care so much, this is human nature at work, always craving what you don't have.

In the world of feelings, the more you can't get but the more you want, the stronger the heartbeat feeling; However, after getting it, it gradually faded, and there was no longer the same feeling as before. Is the original intention changed? Or has the love shifted?

In the world of feelings, many people feel that the other party is the most precious when they can't get it, and they no longer cherish it after they get it; Whether it is the fate of love, or a whim emotional game.

When I first pursued it, I loved it so strongly, and after I chased it, I gradually lost the feeling of being excited; The love that was so sweet at the beginning gradually became unloved over time, and I couldn't get back the feeling of love I had at the beginning. What is going wrong?

In fact, this so-called love is essentially just an obsession, and it is also the pursuer's own obsession. The instinctive desire to conquer arises from the hard pursuit, and when the desire is born, it is constantly infinitely magnified; As a result, he fell into the difficulty of seeking suffering (one of the eight sufferings of life often said by Buddhists). The more you can't get it, the more you want it, and the stronger your will to pursue it will be.

On the contrary, after getting it, the desire is satisfied, and the obsession in the heart is also eliminated. At this time, if the other party is moved by your pursuit, I am afraid that the other party will end up miserable.

When you meet someone who pursues you strongly, do you accept it or not?

First of all, listen patiently to me and tell you about the life cycle of love.

Any relationship has to go through the initial stage of love, and then enter the period of passionate love. From the early days to the period of passionate love, love is very sweet, and it is also the happiest period of this relationship. The affection for each other is long, and they can't wait to be together.

1. Blend together and become a part of each other. However, when the relationship reaches the period of passionate love, the desire for possession will gradually sprout, and with the desire to possess, there will be a lot of asymmetry between each other, and with the asymmetry, the original infatuation will gradually fade and be replaced by reason. At this time, the relationship begins to transition from the hot love period to the cooling period (also called the run-in period).

When the relationship enters the run-in period. Conflicts arise due to many differences in each other's personalities, growth environments, preferences and ideas. At this time, the bad side that was originally ignored in the eyes of the other party began to be magnified, and the good side began to be ignored.

As the conflict intensifies, there is a crisis in the relationship. Love is gradually worn out, replaced by negative emotions such as doubt, disappointment, and helplessness caused by contradictions. This relationship has come to an end, and many couples break up at this time.

Therefore, the above kind of pursuit you have to analyze whether it is true love or the possessive desire of the other party.

When the relationship comes to an end, does it end in the end? Or metamorphosis into life and death, never abandoned. A relationship, deep and shallow; Is it the depth of fate that affects the return of love, or is tolerance when getting along with each other determines the way out of love?

I'll answer that question in a follow-up article.

Those who can't get it will beautify their memories because they love us too much, in order not to make themselves sad. But it is inevitable to regret that the best is always in the present, because the present is your choice, so believe that it is the best, it can make us more open-minded, after all, not getting this thing is becoming more and more common as we grow up.

Most of the time, this is indeed the case, because only when you can't get it, what you remember in your heart will always be the good of the other person.

Yes, but I personally think that this may be just a regret because I want to ask for it, and don't hang another person like this in the relationship, such a result can only outweigh the losses.

It is indeed a wise saying, because what you can't get will always leave room for imagination and regret.

So you do have some truth in what you say, but in fact it is not like that. It's because I can't always remember him well, so I always feel that it's the best.

I don't think that's the truth. I think it's best to be together. If they are separated, they don't belong to you, and you don't need to worry too much.

Yes, emotionally, only what you can't get is the best, and if you get it, people often don't cherish it. This is the root of human inferiority.

I think this sentence is very reasonable, because I don't get what I haven't experienced and experienced, and I have regrets, so I think it's the best.

It is indeed the truth, because if you don't get it, you will regret it, and there will be a lot of room for imagination, even if the reality may not be as good as imagined.

It is indeed like this, people are not easy to be satisfied, often what they have will not feel cherished, they feel that it is not good, and what they can't get is often in demand.

Everyone's love is different, it depends on how you treat him (her), if you treat him (her) badly, it means that you can't get good love, if you treat her (him) well, you will get good love. Or maybe you're unlucky, so you can't get good love.

Love is blissful

Everything is fate, and nothing is up to anyone.

Love is sometimes unattainable, there is a fate to meet thousands of miles away, everyone's love is different, some people find their own happy love, while some people lose themselves in the road of love, but I believe that as long as there is love in the heart, you will be able to find your own happy love.

It's not that the time has not yet come, you deserve the best! Anything will end well, if not, it is not the end!

Don't feel inferior, people are not all perfect, there will be someone who will appreciate you and love you, but fate has not arrived, and you are in a hurry!