I m always obsessed with the past, what if I m obsessed with the past?

I'm just like you! I'm 21 too!! I was originally from Chongqing, but now I am a person in Nanchang in an unfamiliar environment, and I feel that everything in front of me is not suitable for me.

I always think about the past unconsciously, and compare it with the present. This creates a lot of psychological stress. I tried to change reality, but it backfired!!

Why don't we look at it differently? We can't change the environment, but we can change ourselves!! We must go on the road of life, and we must move forward!! Come on!! I'm sure we can all !!

Talk to more people and talk to them!

I'm only 15 years old.

But I'm just like you.

I honestly think about the past.

I want to go back to the past.

But have you thought about it.

Time is precious

You can't go back to the way things were.

Face life.

You're 21.

You should study hard and get a good job in the future.

You will find that life is full of sunshine.

I'm only 15 years old.

Hehe, thinking about the happiest thing, is the happiest person.

It's not wrong for everyone to miss it

Go to a distant place, do you create people for the environment?

Environment – You have to try to adapt to the environment, you have to melt yourself into the environment, and you will feel how beautiful everything is in front of you.

It's not a bad thing to remember the past, but hopefully you will continue to learn and reflect on it.

There is also the fact that you have not yet accepted the new things of the present, so you are immersed in the memories of the past.

Exercise plus chat, travel (doesn't have to cost money).

I'm going to put the current situation together as before.

Because it's a very simple thing.

In this way, you can adapt to the new environment as quickly as possible, and you can also make a lot of new friends.

There are times when everyone can't get out of the past.

Some people may have just entered the society and indulged in the happy life of students in the past; Some people are just getting married, indulging in the happy life of a free body in the past; There are also people who indulge in some of their younger past after their children and grandchildren are full, but no matter how obsessed they are with the past, it is a memory.

Everyone is creating memories every day, and they need to calm down and turn their past into a thick book to seal in their memory, and occasionally turn it out to read, but if they are immersed in it and can't extricate themselves, it will cause a great disturbance to the current life, it will make themselves muddy, and it will make them miserable.

So try not to think about the past, live in the present, look forward to the future, use psychological hints to warn yourself, and you can also find a psychologist to help you with guidance, I hope you can come as soon as possible.

I think that dwelling on the past is a very unmotivated performance, and we should maintain an optimistic attitude towards life, so that we can change slowly.

Let's accept reality,。。 It's good for yourself to wake up early.

Therefore, if you have noticed your own shortcomings, you must work hard to correct them.

Only when you have a new life can you live a better life.

The hero doesn't mention the courage of the year, there will never be a moment of return in the past, don't be nostalgic, divert your attention.

Keep yourself busy. If you have too much time to relax, you can easily get cranky.

People are like this, what you can't get is always the best, so people always deliberately pursue those things that can never be obtained, and often ignore the people around them who have been silently loving them. If you are in true love, then don't break up easily, and don't wait until you lose it to regret it.

At that time, the pain was unforgettable, many people in the world only know how to cherish when they lose, they should cherish the people they have around them, and don't lose an opportunity or a lover because of others, so we will lose a lot.

Cherish the present, be content.

I like to watch "Journey to the West" very much, and I can't help but feel sad every time I hear the sentence "The most painful thing in the world is this".

I don't know how to cherish when I have it, but I don't regret it until I lose it.

What you have is not satisfied, what you get is not cherished, you are obsessed with greed, and you are just asking for happiness just because you are just asking for fish

Liu Ruoying sang in the middle:

Later, in tears, I finally understood that once some people miss it, they will never do it again.

Nothing new.

People are like this, it is recommended to think of some beautiful things and try to be happy.

It's good to go out every day and sing with your colleagues and friends.

The past is good, but it can only be kept as a memory, and more importantly, cherish the present, look forward to everything, and find new fun.

Let's take a look at why people dwell on the past. Everyone will more or less have some good or bad past experiences that they can't forget, but they won't indulge in it too much, and once people fall into the past and can't extricate themselves, they will form a state of indulgence. To put it nicely, dwelling on the past is because the beauty of the past makes you forget; To put it badly, it is an avoidance psychology generated by dissatisfaction with the status quo, and it is a negative emotion.

Now that we know that addiction is a responsible emotion that escapes reality, we can make some targeted adjustments to help us get back to a positive state. The most direct and effective way is to face reality objectively, look directly at psychological problems, and be brave enough to make changes.

I also had a period of time when I was very obsessed with the past, and I felt that my previous work was good, the leaders were easy to get along with, the colleagues cooperated well, the project was fast, and I was full of energy, and I would feel that I liked my work from the bottom of my heart. However, when the organizational structure was restructured, I changed. After my promotion, I was overwhelmed by the challenges that people and things that brought me new challenges.

Slowly, I started to hate promotions, and I was very attached to the comfortable, controlled state that I used to have.

Actually, it's not that I hate promotion, it's just that I can't afford to bear the new challenges at work, and I don't actively improve my ability, but I fall into the comfortable memories of the past, which causes this negative emotion to become more and more serious, and I am more and more unwilling to face reality.

Later, I confessed my situation to my immediate supervisor, hoping to get his understanding and help. In the end, with his help, I learned to improve, and at the same time delegated power and reduced the burden, and finally ended that dark day through half a year of hard work.

Life is all about overcoming one problem after another, and you can do well in the past and can do well now. Believe in yourself, believe that now will be better than before, take action, and the problem will be solved.

I seem to be a nostalgic person for the past, and at a certain time or in a certain scene, I will suddenly think of someone, and then I will feel a cone like a soul extraction, and I can't calm down for a long time.

My notepad is full of thoughts, there are words that cannot be said in front of me, there are thoughts that cannot be transmitted far away in the sky, there are the past that is difficult to reach out with the wind, and the helplessness of the heart wall separated by this life.

And now, looking back on the past, I only feel that the good days still seem to be very beautiful, but the unbearable days do not feel how unbearable, there will be pain, there is "once a snake bites, ten years of fear of the rope" palpitations, but compared to the original pain is not one in ten, I heard that the memory of the fish has seven seconds, and there is a saying that the fish have a choice memory, put a big fish and a small fish in a fish tank, the big fish always attack the small fish, after a long time the small fish will stay away from the big fish, it may not remember anything else, but the pain will always remember, Remember, you won't make the same mistake again.

Forgiveness is not an easy thing, only forgive those who hurt themselves, the pain will let go of themselves, just like a molting snake, a butterfly that sheds its cocoon, every painful peeling off is a transformation from head to toe, maybe for a while you will feel that the caterpillar is very comfortable, but only when you become a butterfly soaring in the sky will you understand that the world can be better, how worthy and deserving it was once a cone piercing. If you don't have enough ability but have a good time, you will suffer from gains and losses, just like me who can't stop worrying at the end of the "doomsday", and when I have wings to look down on the flowers, I can enjoy the fragrance with peace of mind.

Work hard to improve yourself, have a forgiving heart, and with enough time, you will always come out.

It seems that in the bottom of people's hearts, there will always be nostalgia.

No matter how many years have passed, there will always be such a place in the bottom of my heart, which will be left to such a person and such a feeling.

Even if she and herself no longer have anything to do with each other, even if they now have their own very different lives, even if they know that everything is irreparable, and there can be no more changes, that place still belongs to each other, and no one, anything, or even time can erase it.

Although I know that this is not good, I can't change the fact that I am always obsessed with the past, how can I let go of the past and welcome a new future?

I once heard that as long as you write down everything, write down all the things you have never dared to say, and vent all the emotions buried deep in your heart, you will no longer linger in your heart.

I have also heard that as long as you leave the sad place, go to the outside world to travel, meet different people, and know different worlds, your mood will change, and you will gradually let go of those unforgettable things in the past.

I have even heard people say that as long as you choose one person, start a new relationship, learn to forget in the healing of new love, and learn to let go of those pasts.

However, no matter what, as long as you don't want to forget in your heart, no matter how hard you try, you can't change it.

If you want to let go of the past, then keep yourself busy, whether it's busy with work or studying. Keep yourself busy, you don't have the time and energy to dwell on the past, although there is a bit of escapism, but it is also a way.

In fact, it is understandable that I can't let go of the past in my heart, which is a very normal thing. All we worry about is being too drowning in the past, not wanting to look up, and letting the memories trap us in the same place and torment.

The past is gone forever, and the beauty of the past cannot be repeated.

Quickly wake up from the leakage of the past socks and pick up the limbs.

Grasp the beauty that belongs to today.

If you liked life in the past.

Then try to change the current state.

Then aren't you the best of both worlds?

There is nothing in the world that is impossible to lift land.

Only things you don't want to do.

If you don't work hard, you won't succeed.

It's all up to your own hands and your willpower to change.