Why is my boyfriend reluctant to say it when he has difficulties, and even if he does, he can t help

First of all, I want to bless you to find a responsible and caring boyfriend, your boyfriend is reluctant to say that he is in difficulty, he is afraid that you are worried, afraid that you will take it to heart, and at the same time he may feel that your ability is limited, and does not want you to worry about this matter, men sometimes want to save face, no matter how hard and tired they have to carry it themselves and are not willing to let their girlfriends share these, as the so-called good news is not reported bad, you understand him on the line, I wish you happiness

He may first feel that he doesn't want to burden you and wants to solve it himself.

Maybe this difficulty is for him, maybe you can't help him if you know it, it's a more difficult thing, sometimes boys just like to hide their hearts in their hearts, and they don't want to share it with others, which also has something to do with personality.

Your boyfriend may not trust you so much, or think that your ability is relatively poor, so you have no way to help yourself when you are in trouble, so your boyfriend has no need to talk about it.

Because they think he's in the middle of it, and you don't know anything.

In his heart, he has everything himself, and he will solve it himself. He doesn't need your help, or in his mind, you can't help him back, so there's no need to tell you.

That means your boyfriend's difficulties are really something you can't solve, right? It may be that he has encountered difficulties at work, but in fact, he can also relieve his emotions by telling you.

My boyfriend said that he was incapable and didn't want to drag me down, what should I say to save him? It is important to find out what problems the other party is experiencing, and then find out the problems and find better ways to deal with them, and maybe there will be a chance to retain. Saying such things means that there is really a problem and I don't want to affect you, or I use this as an excuse, which in itself means that I need to break up with you.

So what you should do now is to find out what happened to him, what happened, whether he was sick or in arrears, or if nothing happened, and he just didn't want to be with you.

I think in actual daily life, if a person is sick, and then the disease is very serious, he wants not to affect you, and you want to break up, such a situation is actually rare, after all, during this period, many people hope that they can be taken care of by someone around them, and there is nothing to hide from the fact that they are sick. Some people owe a lot of money, and they may want to run away, and then they don't want to break up with you and want to break up, and I think this phenomenon can only be seen in TV dramas.

In real life, I think that whether a person is sick or in arrears, he can let his other half know, because there is nothing that cannot be said about it. So the only thing you can do at the moment is to find out what happened to the other party, if you want to keep this relationship, the other party does have something not very good, can you invest energy and time and his money, and then help him deal with the problem, if you have the opportunity, maybe this relationship can be saved.

If he doesn't have anything, and then he can't say what's going on with him, I think it's just that he doesn't love you anymore, and then he needs to break up with you, and that's how he finds an excuse that he doesn't want to bother you. In the face of these situations, I think there is no need to keep it, and it is very likely that the chance of keeping it is not very large, because in my heart, there is no longer you. So at this time, it is better to sort out your emotions and then forget about the past.

The boyfriend says that he is incapable, and the boyfriend says that he doesn't want to drag you down, you can reply to him and say that there is no drag or no drag when two people are together. WeChat** bombarded wildly, stalking and fighting without a bottom line.

First of all, you have to enlighten him immediately and tell him that you don't feel that he is dragging you down, and secondly, you can go out together for a walk.

You should say that we can create better conditions and make progress together through the joint efforts of both sides.

The problem you said, I don't think there is a problem.

1) It's not what you think it is.

I am a little skeptical that you say your boyfriend knows you're having trouble. Because many girls like to think and are used to letting men guess. So is it that your boyfriend really doesn't know or doesn't know your difficulties?

Have you really told him about your own difficulties? And not what he thinks "he should know". Or even if he knows, do you know that the problem is more difficult, you can't solve it yourself, and you need his help?

So there are some things that still need to be clarified. As far as your relationship is concerned, you should explain to your boyfriend the problems you are experiencing. Your boyfriend can help you.

2) Really don't help.

If you do tell him explicitly, and he still doesn't help you, I think it's a bit too much. But it also depends on the situation, what is the nature of your difficulty? If it's something like that that has made a mistake many times, and now it's being made and refusing to change it, then I don't think it's a problem not to help.

If you do something wrong, you have to bear it. If it's something else, if your boyfriend doesn't help you, you can't talk about it. As for the breakup, I think you get things figured out first :

1. Is it that he doesn't know what your difficulties are; 2. Is your dilemma a lot of trouble that you have been taught repeatedly? In making decisions and judging as well.

There is no need to continue.

This kind of man should not continue to date if he doesn't know that he feels sorry for people and doesn't care about other people's feelings.

If he doesn't help you when you're in the most trouble, then there's no point in going on, proving that he doesn't love you at all, and he doesn't have someone who cares about you, so it's good to separate as soon as possible.

Is it beyond your boyfriend's ability to do anything and he feels powerless and doesn't know what to do. But he should do his best.

It depends on whether your boyfriend has the ability to help you, if he has money and doesn't help, it means that he doesn't love you enough, if he doesn't have money, then you can't let him borrow money to help you. Besides, you are just lovers, he helps you is love, and there is nothing to say if you don't help you, and you can break up if you think he is not good.

Your boyfriend knows that you are in trouble and doesn't help you, what hope does this kind of person have? Even if you have limited ability, at least you have to care and do your best, if you are like this now, will it be good in the future? You should understand.

If it's your personal difficulty, it's not right that he doesn't help.

If it is a problem for your family and friends, there is nothing wrong with him not helping.

The key is personal choice.

As the old saying goes, it is difficult to see the truth, not to mention that he will become a bird in the same forest, when he encounters difficulties, he thinks of him at this time, how can he not make people feel cold when he is indifferent, don't continue.

A boyfriend without compassion is not a no. Some men are not enlightened, can you try to ask if I can help you? If he doesn't want to, there's no need to continue!

It depends on what kind of difficulties you have, tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands of financial difficulties, and it is normal not to help you.

Do you have a boyfriend to have a difficulty, how many boyfriends do you have to talk about like this?

Summary. Hello dear, didn't help your boyfriend, say sorry, boyfriend says stupid, he means that he already treats you as his own. Whether you help him or not, it's all for him, as long as you put your heart into it, it's your love for him, and he doesn't care if you can help him.

Didn't help my boyfriend. I said I'm sorry, my boyfriend said fool said this.

Hello dear, didn't help your boyfriend, say sorry, boyfriend says stupid, he means that he already treats you as his own. Whether you help him or not, it's all for him, as long as you put your heart into it, it's your love for him, and he doesn't care if you can help him.

He may feel that you don't think of your own place in his heart.

How so many similar questions.

It seems that communication in love and marriage – to be precise, the way of communication – is too important.

As soon as he came, he said that you don't do anything, but is that actually the case? Definitely not. He's generalizing.

The correct way to communicate is to be concrete, fact-by-fact, and not to draw abstract conclusions.

You can talk to him about it: I really don't know what to do about a lot of things. But there are still things I can do.

What did you think I couldn't help with before? ·· In the future, if there is anything you would like me to help with, please let me know. I didn't help, please let me know.

There are some things, maybe it's not that you can't help, but he didn't say it. He thinks you should know to help him, the two of you should have a tacit understanding, otherwise talk about boyfriend and girlfriend. Psychologists can't understand what another person means, let alone ordinary people.

We can't fully understand a person's. So, tell him if there is anything you want him to help with next time, please tell him directly. Guess like this, he's not happy, and you're doing something wrong before you know it.

In short, be specific about something, not label someone as saying that nothing will help.

If a man still depends on the help of a woman, such a man is still a man, don't cry, it's not worth it, he doesn't care about you, it doesn't mean that you are bad, bless you.

Did he ask you to be his girlfriend because you helped him? The kind of boyfriend you're looking for is too insecure, and if you can't help him, he's not good for you, what's the use? ^_

If you can help, it will collapse, and if you can't help, you can do it alone!!

Hang a good Kaizi and you can help him.

Faint to death and see what's going on. Inexplicably said it couldn't help,

If you love him, you will strive to be strong, which is also a potential dislike for you.

In fact, boys are not much stronger than girls, they just whine, by the way, what does he do.

Isn't he just disgusting you? Subconsciously, he still wanted to find a Bai Fumei who could help him.

Happiness will not wait for you all the time, the people who love you and the people you love are not ready to appear, please learn to cherish them.

When a person who loves you deeply changes for you, it is because he loves you, and when you meet someone, he puts away his stubborn temper for you; also because he loves you, he calls for your interest to turn it into a ...... for him and Yu Xiao's interestOr because he loves you.

There is no reason to like someone, and there is no regret to give.

They all think it's worth it, as long as they can be with the people they love.

In fact, we all have some such people around us, but (you. I. He hasn't discovered that the person who knows you best will always be by your side to protect you and not let you have a trace of grievances; People who truly love you may not say many things that love you, but they will do many things that love you.

If you find someone like this around you, please cherish .......

Please remember! The stars that can't be picked are always the brightest, and the small fish that slip away are always the most beautiful. The missed movie is always the best, and the lost lover always understands you best.

In this world, everyone has someone they want to find, and once they miss it, they won't come back.

If you fall in love, don't give up easily. It's awkward, maybe you regret it for a while; But you give up, and it may make you regret it for the rest of your life. A life that has experienced love is beautiful, and love that cannot stand the test is not profound.

A beautiful love enriches life, and a ruined love that has passed the test is perfect.