How do you deal with isolation in your university dormitory?

It's not that I'm isolated, it's just that a lot of things have happened to see their faces clearly, I'm so stupid, stupid enough to think that others also regard me as a good friend, in fact, I've done a lot of excessive things and hurt me, people have a bottom line, I won't choose to forgive, and I won't be friends with them, I'll get better, so good that one day they will regret that they used to do that to me, and it took a long time to see many people's faces, and the surface is good, but the relationship is not good at all, I hate hypocritical people, and I can't do that.

It's not interesting, some people are very annoying in their own behavior, but they just don't have a little bit of self-knowledge, and they keep talking about how others are. I'm really sad inside, yes, there's no room to be friends anymore. So be it.

It's good to be yourself, and don't conspire with each other.

Yes, it seems to be going through it now, but it's just a roommate, I don't understand this roommate very much, and I have collapsed with five people except me (eight people in the dormitory) I think she's very snobbish, and she always scolds the richest girl in our dormitory. I don't mind if she wooes people at all, if she only treats me like this it might be my problem, if she isolates most people then I think it's her problem.

There are a total of five people in our dormitory, I am the one who is isolated, but what does it matter, after graduation, I go to different things, now I am about to be a senior, I plan to go to graduate school, just do my own thing, I believe that every excellent person has a soul behind a gritted tooth, you yourself are excellent, you will attract more people, you have to become more excellent! Laugh and watch each of them cry, live better than each of them, your own optimism is the most important, think about your family, the people who love you, you live for these people, it doesn't matter if they like you or not, it's just a passerby of life, that's all! Life is beautiful, please spend it on people who deserve it, you don't have enough time, and you still have time to grieve for them?

What you've written here is a small thing for me, and it can't be smaller.

This semester, I passed an interview and screening of overseas volunteers, and I also got an internship opportunity in one of the Big Four accounting firms provided by a professor of a professional course during the winter vacation, at first I really didn't understand how I was isolated, but then after getting excellent grades every time, I probably knew why, I really didn't like to go to the dormitory, I felt that it was just a place for me to sleep, only my cold self.

I'm a sophomore and there are 4 people in our dorm. I'm more introverted, serious and serious, the other 3 people in our dormitory are more fun-loving and noisy, I always feel that talking to them is not speculative, and began to cook in the dormitory, at that time the dormitory relationship has changed, four people together I always can't speak, gradually I want to escape from this state.

Our dormitory is a six-person room, and A and C in our dormitory have a good relationship, and I have a good relationship with B and E, but A and C are the kind of people who are very good at wooing people, and they deliberately talk to Be when they are in the dormitory, but they ignore me. I feel isolated now, I don't know why, be are more introverted, sometimes they don't think about me being isolated, and they are very happy to talk to them.

I hate the people in my dormitory, they all like to make a fuss, I really can't stand them, and they are too gossipy, always talking about people, reversing right and wrong, obviously the teacher is for everyone's good, persuading everyone to read some books, but they always scold the teacher, every night to show off their rebellion, their bad habits, and who in the dormitory loves to learn the least.

Yes, and then a few of them fell out again, and in the old and dead years, a few of them would contact me alone, and they would also say that they felt sorry for me before, but they all passed, and they would not forgive them, nor would they hate them, because they have nothing to do with me, and there is no place for them as friends in my heart, at most they just know each other.

Yes. I just went to school in Shanghai. It's sad to think about it now. But then everyone played together and got acquainted. I think it has something to do with my personality.

I had a pretty good time with my roommate, but some time ago I had a little misunderstanding with a roommate, and she said it to other roommates, so that other roommates ignored me, and then we talked about the misunderstanding, and it was okay, I left for a long time because of something, and I was still hostile to my roommate when I came back, and I'm sad now, and I don't want to read it!

During my sophomore year, I made a short film with a girl in another dorm room, and because I didn't find the ones in our dorm room, they rejected me, including one of my best friends. At that time, I often played with the girl in the dormitory next door, and later in my junior year, for some reason, she also went to the dormitory next door to find good friends, and it turned out that the best one with me came to me again to ask for peace.

Now people are all powerful, because I don't have a car and am isolated by a few Bai Fumei. But that period was really the saddest and most inferiority period in my life.

When I first came to my freshman year, because I was more introverted, I rarely had contact with my roommates, and after a long time, I was isolated, and I couldn't ask my roommates for help if I wanted to do something, and I felt very embarrassed, whether it was classwork or some other activities, I needed the help of my roommates, so I was slowly changing this state.

First of all, we must figure out why we are isolated by others, there must be a reason, one is our own reason, the other is the reason of others, the first is our own reason, because it is easier to analyze your own willingness, you are really a character reason, not suitable to be with others in the group, so that others are not willing to get along with yourself, or some other reason.

Either because of the collective, they may not want to see you because of some of your shortcomings, such as your family situation, or some of your own disabilities, then you have to make yourself stronger, rather than blindly looking for your own presence in the collective.

If you are isolated in the dormitory, you will definitely feel very lonely, and you will have nowhere to say a few words in your heart, which is very depressing!

Maybe you and the people in the dormitory have different personalities, interests and hobbies, so you will be isolated!

I think you can follow the local customs, don't be too arrogant, so that you will have a happier life! After all, the dormitory is also a collective, and if you are isolated, sometimes when you encounter something, there is no one to help you!

When I was in college, I was isolated by my classmates in the dormitory because of my personality! It always felt very lonely, it was really scary, and there was a time when I thought about dropping out of school! The people in the dormitory don't let me know when they participate in any activities!

That feeling is that I lived a very clean life in college.

For people who like to be quiet, there is no feeling of isolation, because they are used to being alone, and they are a little unaccustomed to being quiet and noisy. But for people who are keen on being lively, isolation is like fidgeting, every time I go back to the dormitory, everyone is in a small circle, but no one pays attention to themselves, and over time they will become sensitive and irritable, if you want to break the situation of being isolated, you have to find a step to break the ice with your roommates, so that there will be talk and laughter in the dormitory.

If I encounter this situation, I will be very uncomfortable in the dormitory, I will feel very embarrassed in front of other people, whether it is my own problem or not, it will make outsiders point fingers at me, of course, if I am isolated by the whole dormitory, most of the reason is still myself, reflect more on myself, why this situation is caused.

If you are isolated in your dormitory, you will feel lonely and feel very depressed. You should think about what is the reason for your isolation, and if it is a personality incompatibility, then there is no need to be sad or blind. Personality incompatibility will not be solved for a while.

Instead of wasting time thinking about these things, you should live your own little world.

I think this will slowly become very autistic, afraid to talk to the outside world, not to mention living in the same dormitory, no roommates to make friends with, no one can help when there is a difficulty, I feel that this feeling is really bad, so I slowly began to help them a little, I believe that I can also make friends.

I'm the one who was isolated, four years in college, three years in isolation. But I was lucky that I was isolated, and I experienced what it means to be social, which allowed me to have more time to learn and improve myself. It doesn't matter if you are isolated or not, just be yourself.

My roommate is a four-person room, and one of the ones I played better with moved out for personal reasons, and the other two always joined forces to ignore me because of a little thing, but sometimes I had to be with them, which made me feel very embarrassed, and I tried to escape from that environment every day.

I feel helpless and have no one to play with, because when I was in college, my roommates liked to play games, and I just kept playing games every day, and if I didn't play games, I wouldn't have a common topic with them, so I had to clear Plants vs. Zombies.

At first, I feel inferior to myself, after all, this kind of isolation and rejection will make me uncomfortable, and I feel as if the world doesn't treat me very well.

But then I got used to it, and I thought it was good. You can do whatever you want, you don't need to care about other people's feelings, just take care of yourself.

It's really uncomfortable to be isolated in a dormitory, and you feel like you're out of the ordinary.

I used to work in a city, and the whole dormitory was full of locals except myself, and they spoke dialects I didn't understand every day, and a group of people laughed and laughed all day long, and I couldn't even interject. They also went out to play on vacation, and I was the only one in the dormitory. Later, I couldn't stand this isolation anymore and asked the dormitory manager to change dorms, thinking that if I stayed in that dorm all the time, I would go crazy.

It's like being abandoned by the whole world, and it's very uncomfortable.

The dormitory is like a small collective, and if you integrate into it, you will feel at home, and if you can't integrate into it, you can only be alone.

I feel that there are reasons for being isolated and there are reasons for others.

Self-reasons such as introversion, sensitivity, suspicion, etc.

Other people's reasons include strength, different interests, and so on.

1. Reflect on yourself.

If you are isolated by a dormitory group, then you should not complain about others, then it is time to reflect on yourself, after all, it is impossible for everyone to work together to isolate you for no reason. Examine yourself carefully to see if you are too self-centered, whether you think too much about yourself and don't care about the feelings of others (this is usually the case when you are isolated collectively).

2. Learn to be tolerant and generous.

Everyone comes from different places and has different lifestyles, don't laugh at or look at other people's way of life, and show it on your face, it is difficult to be friends, maybe the other three people in your dormitory are from the same place, and you are not used to seeing their behavior.

3. Learn to listen.

When what they say or what they discuss is irrelevant to you and you don't understand, don't force it in, just listen quietly, then they don't care about your feelings, they may be talking about something important.

4. Be considerate of others.

In this case, it seems a little difficult to get along with your roommates, but it is not very difficult, as long as you are willing to think about others and be considerate of others, everyone will be willing to be friends with you.

5. Build a good relationship with your classmates.

At this time, it is necessary not only to have a good relationship with the people in the dormitory, but also to have a good relationship with the classmates, after all, a person is likely to miss some important information, and it is a very warm thing if someone can notify you in time.

6. Apply for a dormitory change.

There is another kind, no matter how they look at you, they don't like you, they just want to deliberately isolate you, do you still need to befriend them? Of course not! Apply directly to change dormitories, or go home to live, out of sight and out of mind!

Let me enlighten you.

First, when you go to university, you have to learn to be independent. There's really no need to feel nerve-wracking because of such a small thing. There's nothing wrong with being isolated, it shows that you have a personality and aren't the kind of person who can go with the flow.

Personal advice is to maintain an independent personality, rather than to cater to others, so that you have not yet stepped out of the campus and into the society, and become inflammatory.

Second, at the same time, we should also conduct self-reflection, learn to observe words and feelings, carefully summarize and mend the relevant shortcomings and deficiencies in our social parts, as well as some defects in our personality. Knowing how to self-evaluate can allow oneself to find one's own problems in time and better improve oneself.

Third, everyone's growth environment, education level, comprehension ability, and expression ability are all different. Therefore, in the process of interpersonal communication, there can always be a lot of uncertain, unequal, and unsmooth situations. Therefore, many psychologists have always emphasized that when being a person and doing things, we must learn to empathize, stand in the perspective of others, and rethink what we do, whether there are some flaws, and whether we are too selfish.

Fourth, being able to know that you are isolated indicates that the situation has deteriorated somewhat. However, there is still a chance to change the status quo and break the deadlock.

Fifth, the most important thing in university life is academics. Getting a professional junior certificate is more important than whether you have good interpersonal communication. There is no stepping stone, no matter how good the relationship is, no one will hire you who knows nothing.

If you have time, go to the library more often to study. Less intrigue in the dormitory, wasting time and energy.