What should I do if I treat people with kindness, but I feel that the distance from the people aroun

The emergence of this situation is probably in response to that sentence: since ancient times, affection cannot be retained, and it is always a routine to win people's hearts, but in this case, I don't feel that I need to do anything. Why do you think so? Listen to me one by one.

First of all, you need to understand a truth, people who really want to be friends with you will not stay away because you treat people with kindness, we will meet many people in our lives, but if you want to say that there are real righteous people and gentlemen, how many will there be? In fact, it is not much, most people like to listen to good words, most people want to be able to get benefits from you, all in all, there are fewer people who send charcoal in the snow, and there are many icing on the cake, if this happens, you don't have to be discouraged, because this is a good thing, because they leave, on behalf of their group of people, it is not worth your relationship, and really care about you, and you can fall in love with friends, can really understand your friends, and will not leave so easily, who has not been in a hurry in life, If you leave, you are destined to be a passerby, and those who are still by your side are friends.

The second thing you need to understand is why you treat people with kindness, but they still leave, maybe the problem is also with you, maybe because you are not sociable, maybe because you are disobedient, maybe because your personality is too upright, maybe because of many other reasons, what you need to do is to find out the crux of your problem, people need to carry out a certain degree of self-reflection when doing anything, if it is just to blame others for the mistake of one thing, Then you will never grow, and it is good to treat people with kindness, but you need to let others feel your kindness, only then will others feel that you are reliable, will want to be close to you, find the right way, self-reflection, know that mistakes can be corrected, and be very good.

On the road of sticking to one's own heart, there will definitely be some setbacks, but we can distinguish clearly, now many people are interest-oriented, measure a person by money, rich in the mountains have distant relatives, poor in the city without friends, so women treat people who do not get the same feedback from others, that is the loss of others, don't doubt yourself, treat others kindly, there will always be good fortune.

People who are full of sunshine can't stay around people, you can learn to fit into the world appropriately, have some bad habits, and don't make people feel ashamed of being friends with you, although this may not be what you are.

If this is the case, then you should reflect on whether your "kindness" is not sincere enough, whether it has the smell of charity, and makes others disgusted.

Because what you call treating others with kindness is just treating others with your own feelings, maybe your intentions are good, but others don't necessarily think it's good.

Although they also know that your intentions are good, their kindness is a bit difficult for them to accept, and they often have to reject your kindness, if once or twice once in a while, they can understand.

If it takes a long time and a lot of times, even if they know that your heart is to be good to them, they will get bored and don't want to be close to you, they don't want to be close to you.

Sometimes I want to run away when I see you, because rejecting the kindness I don't want is also a very troublesome and headache. Although when others ask them how that person is, they will say that the person is very nice and kind, but what is the use?

They still want to run when they see you, or they don't want to get close to you, although maybe you never wanted to get anything with kindness, but because of your kindness, accidentally, you lost something, and it was very uncomfortable.

In fact, this kind of situation of liking to impose goodwill on others generally appears in women, and men rarely like to forcibly be good to others, this is not aimed at anyone, simply talk about a more objective fact.

I have an aunt who is such a person who always likes to be nice to others. Every time I went to her house, she was very enthusiastic and took out all kinds of fruits, sweets and other things for us to eat. He kept asking us to eat, and it was quite frequent, more than ten times in half an hour.

In fact, for those of us who have had relatively little contact with her, she was just a hospitable aunt, and there was nothing particularly disgusting about her. But the person who often gets along with him seems to be really troubled, because she asks you to eat fruit or something, it is still easier to refuse, there are some things, you really don't like it, but she keeps asking you to do it, and it is useless to refuse, she still keeps saying it. Sometimes you really want to cry, but she still looks confused.

Although my aunt's problem may be more serious, because most of the people affected by her are relatives, everyone can still bear it.

But what would you do if this happened to you, and that person was a friend or a colleague? After all, people are also kind-hearted, and you can't be too rude, so you can only hide far away and not get close.

In the future, pay attention to the way you treat others, and take the initiative, but it should be appropriate, as long as you are willing to change yourself. When your friends, colleagues or family members find out that you have changed, they will be very happy and willing to have more contact with you.

This question is particularly realistic, not all people can understand your kindness, what you have to do is to keep your kindness.

So many times your sincere inconvenience is good, and kindness is good to accompany you all the time.

Now we are taught to be kind and tolerant, we all think that being able to control our emotions and be kind to everything in this world is a necessary quality, so we always ask ourselves like this, others say bad things about us, we laugh it off, others hurt us, we choose to forgive, others ask us for help, we have no hesitation. So, is this what it's called treating people with kindness? No, it's not, it's a fool without principles.

When you see your parents working hard, if you are kind, you will be angry and honor your parents, instead of taking your parents' hard-earned money and being a good person in front of others; When you see stray animals, if you are kind, you will buy them something to eat instead of avoiding them or even driving them away.

To treat others with kindness is not to take the initiative to provoke others, to get along as friendly as possible, and to consider the feelings of others from the standpoint of others; Treating people with kindness is not accommodating others without a bottom line, and a harmonious society is not like this! If someone provokes you, you have to be angry, you have to let him know that you are a temperamental person, not a coward who is bullied; If someone else robs you of something, you have to take it back, instead of carrying forward the excellent traditional virtues of Kong Rong Rang Pear.

Now many people's kindness is used in the wrong place, they are more superficial kindness, everything they do, just because they are embarrassed to refuse, or, they just want to make themselves look more like a good person, a warm man, but in fact, in the eyes of others, you are a ** air conditioner, you are a good person without principles, you are a hypocritical person, so you like this, will someone be close to you? Who knows if you're real or fake? Say you know if you're doing this to everyone?

Scarcity is expensive, and when you treat all the good and bad people the same, you lose friends.

Your goodness should be reserved for those who deserve it.

Then don't treat them with kindness.