Why are there fewer and fewer friends to make friends with after work?

Many people feel that they have a lot of good friends in their childhood or have a lot of friends in their childhood, and they can talk to their friends about any difficulties or troubles. But slowly, as I grew up and joined the work, I slowly found that there were fewer and fewer friends who could really make friends with me. This is indeed a sad thing.

The emergence of such a situation is also an inevitable phenomenon in society. When we were students, we didn't have so many burdens in life, we didn't have to worry about trivial matters in the family, we didn't have to bear the pressure of life, and our parents would always say to us: our task is to study hard every day.

Indeed, for us in school, with the protection of our parents, we can study hard every day to save our parents a lot of worry. <>

Because of this, in our school days, the exchanges between people or classmates will not involve so many interests, and the exchanges between the two will not affect the interests of each other. Therefore, the feelings between friends are more pure than those involving interests, and friends often get along with each other and exchange their inner emotions with each other.

After joining the work, we integrated into the society, and the rules of survival in society are different from those of the school days. When you were a student, as long as you studied well, then you were the king in school, teachers liked you, classmates envied your grades, and your parents were not proud of you. In society, you are not the only one who can live a good life if you study well.

At work, there is more of a relationship of interest between people. This interest is more about money. The vast majority of people are selfish, and it can even be said that all people are more or less selfish.

After work, you will not have the protection of your parents, and the pressure of your family and work need to be borne by you, so when you interact with others, you should think more about whether it will harm your own interests. The relationship between people is more of a mutually beneficial and symbiotic relationship.

I feel this way too, probably because of a change in mentality.

There is a saying that the workplace is like a battlefield, although it is an exaggeration, but it is not completely unreasonable, I will talk about my heart, in fact, I really don't reject them much, and I don't feel excluded, I actually really care about the relationship with my roommates and classmates when I was in college, if anyone is a little prejudiced against me, I will be sad for a long time, maybe I really care, but when it comes to work, it is natural to erect a wall for myself, I am in the wall, Everyone else is outside the walls, we have a good relationship, but we can't make friends, everyone is like that.

Maybe it's because they're all strangers, and they're all from different places, and they're also competitors, which are different from the competition for grades in college, high school, junior high school, and elementary school, which directly affects our future status and salary, and the tasks assigned by the leader to everyone are different We are busy with work, and we are also on guard, so we will naturally not be too close to each other at work, but there will not be too many conspiracies, and the relationship is generally limited to eating together and shopping together.

And because our previous friends are not in the same city anymore, many times we will contact at first, but slowly and slowly, the contact will become less and the relationship will become weaker. I read an article before, saying that friends of more than ten years will no longer contact in the third year after work, it's a pity, but this is the most realistic phenomenon, even if we still care about the feelings between each other, but after all, life is different, there are very few things to talk about, plus everyone has their own things, we don't think more about any friends, we want to make friends with their other half, we think more about the future and salary.

Because you grow up, as you grow up and become more recognized, you will treat people differently than before. When we were in school, due to our age and lack of experience, we did not have clear principles and three views, and many times we were more happy to be together, and unhappy not to be together. There may be no particular reason to play together a lot.

And the cities we go to struggle for when we grow up generally don't have our own hair or anything, and the two roads that are gradually drifting apart make you gradually lose contact.

The colleagues at work are originally from all over the world, and you have never known each other before. Colleagues at the same level, you have a competitive relationship, and it is not easy to get too close, because of work, or the competition of ranks, you are always not good to get too close, and it is not easy to tear up when the time comes. With your superiors, you have a reporting relationship with your superiors and subordinates, and you also involve certain interests, and it is not easy to tell your own affairs completely.

And your subordinates, you can't talk about it. Because you also have a reporting relationship with each other, you also need to pay attention to your own image. But the rest of the people in the unit are fine, you have less intersections, and you can talk about your heart.

In short, when people grow up, it will be more complicated, as the so-called human heart separates the belly, I would rather be cautious than be dug and buried alive, or thrown at me with a cauldron. There are not many people who can tell you the truth, let alone a close friend. That's a process.

It's not something that can be done overnight. I don't have many friends who feel like I'm having fun at work now, but I'm also very satisfied with having two close friends, I'm at my age, I don't want to go crazy, and people I don't like to contact, and I get together more friends who are happy. Friends who don't like it won't force themselves to get along with others.

This is quite normal.

1.After work, there is less free time, less time to maintain socializing, less contact, and the relationship between friends gradually fades, and it is reasonable that there are fewer friends.

2.When I become an adult, my thoughts have become complicated, and I can't help but mix interests when I look at people and things, and sometimes I go for interests when I know people and make friends, and when I need help, I will find that I really have few friends.

It is normal to have fewer and fewer friends after work, because after work, everyone's former friends will not communicate together for a long time, and with the widening of the economic income gap, many people can no longer chat in the same circle as before.

It's normal to have fewer friends in your life after work. Because everyone is the same age, and everyone has their own job. You may need to work overtime or socialize every day. There will be less and less time to connect with friends.

Normally, everyone will have this experience, because everyone is very busy after work, not only do they not have time to make appointments to meet, but they may not even have time to contact, they are not living together, and there is very little common language.

If there is such a problem, I think there must be something wrong with you. Be sure to double-check if you've changed a lot in how you behave since worked. It may also be that you have offended other people intentionally or unintentionally at work.

It seems that you still have too little work experience. Let's run in slowly!

Because there is no time to maintain such a relationship after work, and it is difficult to have a common experience, after work, only talk about interests, everyone's path is gradually narrowing, and your standard for hail refers to good friends is rising.

Because there is a lot of competition in the workplace, and people in the workplace are not necessarily particularly good at Zen, everyone's mind is also on their respective families, and they don't have so much effort to make friends.

It's because the workplace involves issues of interest. Therefore, in the early return to the workplace, there will be no sincerity at all. You can only rely on yourself. Everyone has their own thoughts.

Many of us will find that we have always had so many friends after work, and it is difficult to make real friends at work, so why?

First of all, because of the busyness of work in the workplace, we only establish a tacit understanding at work, and many times, colleagues work together only around the thing itself, there are few other topics, and there are not many opportunities for in-depth work.

Moreover, the iron-clad battalion is a flowing soldier. At present, the workplace is becoming more and more mobile, and many of our parents' generation may have been working in one job for the rest of their lives. But now, cultural job hopping has become the choice of more and more people.

Xiaoli told me that her colleague was leaving again, and this was her third partner to leave this year. Of course, there are internal reasons within the company, but it is undeniable that work is no longer a unit that a person must be loyal to for the rest of his life. Many times, when there are better options, we choose to change jobs more.

If you don't have enough time to get acquainted, it's hard to get to know your true friends.

Finally, it takes time to maintain friends, and in most cases, there may not be much time to maintain, and the relationship gradually drifts apart. Many things are like this, because there are fewer nodes that communicate with each other, so they are not very familiar with each other, and there are more differences in the topics they talk about, which leads to their gradual drift apart.

So, for the workplace, or after work, how should we make friends in this way? First of all. Compare the heart to the heart, don't be too utilitarian, many times, making friends is easy to turn into a successful profit-making behavior, which is definitely not advisable.

Because in the end you will make interests, not friends. In addition, friends in the workplace must have common hobbies outside the workplace. We love sports, literature, opera, and food.

can be a point of contact outside of work. There is a connection to have a relationship, otherwise there is only work left.

The above points can only make friends with heart.

Because people nowadays are so hypocritical, and there is a relationship of some interests, so when they grow up, they will find that they will have fewer and fewer friends, and they will even have no friends.

It may be because after participating in the work, I found that there are still relatively few friends who are in line with my three views.

Because people nowadays are too realistic, and people are in a relationship of mutual use, so they can't make true friends.

Because they are all competing relationships at work, it is impossible to have real friends, and it is good not to make enemies.

Because there is no simple friendship relationship now, they are all using each other, if you have use value, someone will become friends with you, but it is just a plastic friend.

After growing up and participating in work, there are fewer and fewer friends to make friends, because they are more polished in society, and no one will give their sincerity? Fear of being hurt.

Because people become more complex, the friends they used to make will change over time. The younger the person, the more innocent the person becomes. And there are few friends to make friends with.

Let's call "friends who can talk from the heart" as friends.

But even so, I still think that in the vast sea of people, it is not easy to make a few friends. Because this involves behavioral habits, three views, aesthetic taste and other issues, although not necessarily necessary conditions, but these factors will have a significant impact.

Many people compare the relationship between colleagues at work and classmates when they were students, and then they may come to the conclusion that it is difficult for colleagues to become close friends. If so, then I would say that the conclusion itself may be correct, but the reason for this difference is not necessarily due to the attribute of the colleague relationship itself.

When I was a student, especially my college classmates, I spent a lot of time with each other because of the relationship between living on campus. This kind of long-term relationship can sharpen the living habits between the contract and the school, converge their three views and aesthetic tastes (of course, there are always incompatible, I just say that getting along for a long time helps to form this situation), and finally develop friends who are close to each other.

However, after work, the intersection of your life with the colleagues around you is not as much as the relationship between classmates when you were a student, and most of the 8 hours of work a day are about work, and the opportunities to communicate in life will be greatly reduced compared to those of your classmates. Then, it becomes more difficult to become a close friend.

But you can't deny that, even so, your co-workers are still the people you spend the most time with every day after work, apart from your loved ones. If even colleagues can't develop close friends, then I don't think people other than colleagues will have a higher probability of developing close friends.

After work, because many things are no longer easy to open up to people, sometimes because of the fear of saying the wrong thing and become reluctant to talk to people easily, and after work, it is very limited to be able to really use socks to know, make and make friends.

First, there is a lot of time pressure.

After work, most of our time is occupied. From morning to evening, we were almost so busy with work that we simply didn't have time to fall in love. Even if we have time, we can be tired and have no energy to care for each other, and it is difficult to maintain a good relationship.

Second, the social circle has become smaller.

After work, our social circle may be smaller because of work. We may only be slow to deal with colleagues or clients, and it may be difficult to reach other types of people. As a result, we are faced with fewer and fewer choices when looking for a romantic partner, and we may miss out on many opportunities as a result.

3. Anxiety and stress.

The stress and anxiety that comes with work can also affect our love life. When we feel anxious and stressed at work, it is difficult for us to devote ourselves to love. We may become more aloof and closed-minded, and it is difficult for the other person to feel that we are sincere and warm.

4. Work-family balance.

As our careers improve, we may spend more time at work. In such a situation, it is difficult for us to balance work and family, and it is difficult to find time and energy to maintain a relationship. In addition, having family responsibilities and taking care of children increases our burden, and it is difficult to have the time and energy to fall in love.

The above points are the main reasons why it is difficult to fall in love after work. However, that doesn't mean we have to give up on finding love. If we genuinely desire to have a relationship, here are a few ways we can solve the problem.

1. Take the initiative to look for opportunities.

Even if we are busy at work, we should take time out to find opportunities for love. We can expand our social circle and find a suitable love partner through introductions from friends or joining social activities.

2. Plan your time reasonably.

Outside of working hours, we should plan our time wisely. For example, taking some time out to exercise, learn new skills, or participate in hobbies can not only reduce the stress of work, but also meet like-minded people in these activities and increase the chances of a relationship.

3. Maintain a positive attitude.

We should maintain a positive attitude in work and life. No matter what difficulties we encounter, we should insist on being optimistic, so that we can transmit positive energy in love and attract more people.