How do masters make friends, and how do masters make friends?

When I was a child, I often heard my elders say that it is rare for a person to make one or two real friends in his life. When I was young, I thought, "You just don't know too many people."

Later, when I was older and knew a little bit about the secrets of interpersonal relationships, I guessed that they might be trying to express to each other that your friend is precious. It's a kind word.

What kind of people deserve deep friendship?

After a brief summary, I also hope to work with you**.

First, we can not only share sorrows, but also share joys.

Unlike what is imagined, it is often easy to share suffering, because everyone's conditions and circumstances are not good, and there is no way to do it without sharing suffering.

However, it is sometimes difficult to share happiness, and how many co-founders turn against each other, not because they can't endure hardships together, but because they can't withstand the test of benefit distribution after success.

People who can maintain a peaceful and rational heart in the face of interests and share with you are worthy of association.

2. Don't be jealous of your strengths, but tolerate your shortcomings.

You are truly proud of your merits; You have shortcomings, and they will not dislike you because of this, but sincerely remind you to improve.

Regarding the essentials of Xingqi, in summary, there are roughly the following points:

1) Inhale and breathe, and exhale. "Spitting out the old and absorbing the new" means spitting out carbon gas and absorbing fresh oxygen. Na Shi took a deep breath to the dantian, and then slowly exhaled the exhaust gas.

There are six ways to exhale: blowing, exhaling, sighing, heh, shhhhh "Nourishing Life Extension" cloud: "All the qi is breathed in the nose (acceptance), exhaled through the mouth, and slightly led to it, and the name is long breath."

The method of breathing should be thin, long, deep and even. When inhaling, it should be subtle and slow, and no sound should be heard, Ge Hong's so-called feathers on the nose and mouth without moving. The deep one is said to inhale deeply into the dantian under the umbilicus.

Breathe evenly. Subtle, slow, deep and long, well-proportioned, this is the so-called "continuous existence" of Taoism.

2) It is advisable to exercise in the forest in the morning, in a place with fresh air. The ancients said: "From the middle of the night to the middle of the day, it is angry". Sima Chengzhen said: "All guides should be done before the ugly queen and before the weather is clear." (Introduction.)

3) Guiding Qi is a combination of limb movement, dry bath, massage and qigong, inside and outside. The "Guidance Sutra" says that when you get up, knocking your teeth, closing your eyes and holding it, pranayama, and guiding it are the combination of internal and external skills.

3. Filial piety and righteousness.

A person with filial piety is a person who knows how to be grateful.

Parents are always our greatest benefactors, if you can't even honor your parents, it's hard to imagine that this person won't stab you in a critical moment.

Honoring one's parents is not superficial, but caring for one's parents and accompanying one's parents with long-term actions, and putting one's parents first at critical moments.

I think these masters generally make friends, they will choose friends who are filial and righteous, and they are not jealous of your advantages, can tolerate your small faults and shortcomings, and can sincerely remind you of some problems, just like such friends are worth making deep friends.

The real masters make friends with interests, because these people understand that there is no long-term friendship, only long-term interests, so maintaining the relationship between friends is interests.

This is how a master makes friends, he is always accustomed to praising and respecting others, so that he can get closer to others, and he will humbly learn from others' strengths.

Make friends with your own charisma. Friends are not forcible to be made, they are made by mutual attraction between the two.

Treat every student around you sincerely and relax your circle of friends. Don't force others to be your good friends, pull a friend over as soon as possible, the chance of becoming a good friend is very small.

It's just that you talk about everything... If you know everything, then you won't feel unfamiliar.

Be cheerful, take the initiative to make friends with others, you can ask each other's name, class, dormitory, etc., and become friends by chatting

First of all, smile and greet the other party generously: "Hello, my name is xx, what's your name?" Then tell her name or continue to ask you which dormitory you are, which school you used to have, etc., and then there are several answers, "Coincidentally, we have a dormitory, let's go together in a while."

My bedroom is next door to you, so you can come and sit when you have time.

Ask her about the things on her and say that they are so beautiful, where did they buy them, and then you can turn the conversation to buying things, girls like it.

Or talk about the interesting things in the previous school Gossip The best ** for girls to contact the relationship is gossip The premise is that this girl is not very cold

First of all, let go of yourself and don't behave very inhibited in front of others. First look for any classmates who seem to be easier to get along with, and then communicate with her boldly. You can go from high school, died during the summer vacation, or went somewhere else to play.

After chatting for a long time, I asked her if she was happy to go out on the weekend.

Be humorous, not too rigid. Have a kind smile.

Don't be too low-minded and just say it.

In social interactions, it is inevitable that people will suffer, be misunderstood, and be wronged. In the face of these, the wisest choice is to learn to be tolerant. Tolerance is a good psychological quality.

It not only contains understanding and forgiveness, but also shows bearing and open-mindedness, strength and strength. A person who is not tolerant and only knows how to be demanding of others is often in a state of psychological tension, which leads to nerve excitement, vasoconstriction, and increased blood pressure, making the psychology and physiology enter a vicious circle. If you learn to be tolerant, you will be strict with yourself and lenient with others, which is equivalent to installing a regulating valve on your own psychology.

Optimism is the elixir of psychological health

Optimism is a positive personality and state of mind. It can stimulate people's vitality and potential, solve contradictions, and overcome difficulties; Pessimism, on the other hand, is a negative and decadent personality and state of mind, which makes people sad, troubled, and painful, and is helpless in the face of difficulties, affecting physical and mental health.

Indifferent, that is, tranquil and lacking desires, not pursuing fame and fortune. At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Zhidong's health name said: "No seeking is a peace of mind"; Bingxin, a famous contemporary writer, also believes that "people are self-exalted when they have nothing to seek".

This shows that indifference is a lofty realm and mentality, and it is the positioning of the pursuit of life at a deep level. With an indifferent mentality, you will not follow the crowd in the world and chase fame and fortune; There will be no great joy in what is gained and great sorrow for what is lost; will not complain about the world and be jealous. The indifferent state of mind keeps people in a peaceful state, maintains a normal heart, and all factors that are detrimental to physical and mental health will be repulsed.

Look at this fickle world, and then look at your own life, and suddenly feel how short life is, why not be happy? This is probably the best reason to comfort yourself. Life has both bitterness and joy, and it is best to laugh often; There are ups and downs in the career, and it is best to be calm and calm; Love is sweet and sour, it is best to be open-minded; There are long and short blessings, and it is best to be happy and happy!

Bless friends: always treat life with a smile, enjoy life, and cherish life! ­

Get in touch with people more, communicate more, increase your life experience and knowledge in all aspects, think more, reflect more, and observe more. Able to read words and emotions and take the overall situation into account. Communicators don't just do it in a day or two.

This is not something that can be mastered in a short period of time. If you have leisure time, read more books and read more books, the so-called open book is beneficial; Communicate with people more, the so-called go to life, make friends; I'm also in the middle of a journey!