Why do children often deny themselves? What kind of education will lead to a serious lack of self co

It may be because the child has low self-esteem, and if the child is often beaten and discouraged, it will lead to a serious lack of self-confidence.

Children often deny themselves, it must be because parents often deny their children. Parents should not judge their children at will, let alone label their children casually, they should be good at understanding and accepting their children, and they should guide rather than blame when they encounter problems.

Children deny themselves because they lack confidence in themselves. Parents should have enough patience to guide their children, let them do what they can, exercise their children, and encourage them at the same time. The main thing is to respect the child and develop self-confidence.

Children often deny themselves, most likely because they have not found a way to learn, or because parents are usually too strict with their children, resulting in a lack of self-confidence. Parents should encourage and help their children to build self-confidence one step at a time.

Children who lack self-confidence should communicate positively and develop self-confidence, as follows:

1. Communicate and communicate with children more, understand what the reasons for their inferiority are, give targeted encouragement, when children have a lot of low self-evaluation of ability and appearance, they should also correct their bad cognition, let children learn to accept themselves, and constantly give children encouragement and praise, so that they can gradually cultivate an independent personality in a relaxed environment, so that they can have more successful experience and positive influence.

2. Cultivate independent character characteristics, in the face of difficulties and setbacks, we must encourage children to solve problems independently, think more when encountering problems, and not be immersed in painful experiences when they experience failure, but be good at summarizing experience, only in this way can we have a more independent and brave life.

3. How to encourage children's self-confidence. When a child tries to do something and does not succeed, we should avoid proving his failure to him with words and actions. We should separate things from people, and failure to do one thing does not mean that the child is incompetent, but he has not yet mastered the skills.

Once the skills are mastered, he can get things done. If we take a blaming attitude, the child's self-confidence will be hurt, and it will not be as simple as mastering the skill. Your child may never be able to do this.

As far as parents are concerned, we ourselves must not be discouraged or lose confidence in the first place.

Parents can give him some verbal encouragement, communicate with him a lot, and help him build confidence.

I think that children always deny themselves that they are not confident, so they can communicate with their children, find out the reasons for their lack of self-confidence, and help children solve this problem and overcome their inferiority complex through communication education.

To learn to encourage the child, the child is always self-denying, to find the reason for his negation, and then to encourage him, enlighten him, let him learn to accept himself, and know to affirm himself, find his own advantages.

In life or games, let children complete some things within their ability independently, and encourage them in time to help them slowly build up their self-confidence.

Parents should encourage their children to do more than criticize them, and when they complete something or achieve a goal, give them more praise or give him some substantial rewards.

When I was studying, I often met some children, who said that they couldn't do it when they encountered a topic, and even some children defined and labeled themselves, saying that they had a low IQ. However, according to research, most of our children's IQ levels are in the middle range, that is, everyone's IQ is a normal distribution.

And when a student uses some negative words to describe himself, slowly, he will feel that he can't do the problem, not because of insufficient effort, but because his own conditions are not enough. In the theory of success or failure attribution, effort is the only one that can be controlled, and if it is attributed to one's own IQ is not enough, then this is a bad attribution.

Why is attribution a bad attribution due to IQ issues? This is because most people's IQ is constant, that is, throughout his life, if his IQ is measured to be 90, then when he is old, his IQ will also be rotated at the stage of 90. Therefore, when a child attributes his failure or learning problems to a lack of IQ, he will subconsciously deny many problems.

Sometimes parents want to encourage their children to learn, and the children will say that I am not smart, I don't want to learn, and it is useless to learn. With such a negative attitude, children are less and less interested in learning, so how can the child's performance improve? And the child's evaluation of himself is very negative, which will affect other things, and is currently manifested in not working hard in learning, but when he grows up, he may have such a negative attitude towards life and work.

At this time, we parents need to find a way to give our children a counseling and enlightenment. We can let the child start from some simple little things, cultivate the child's self-confidence, and let the child realize that in fact, he is also very good, as long as he is willing to work hard, as long as he is willing to use his brain, then there is no man to his business.

Of course, when enlightening children, we parents also need to have enough patience, after all, it is not a temporary thing for children to feel that they are not good, and they need to be guided by parents for a long time.

The first point is that there is no enthusiasm for learning, which will make the child's mood slow down and unstable, the second point is that parents should encourage the child to quietly assist the child to write homework, so that the child can come out of the impression, and the third point should give the child more confidence in stimulating the scumbag, so that the child can become very good.

Parents should communicate more with their children in life, encourage their children to cheer for their children, and help their children solve problems they don't understand.

The child has no self-confidence and is not active in anything? If you feel that you are not doing well, parents should encourage your children more and let them regain their interest.

In this case, the impact on learning is still relatively large, and the negative negation of the sedan car for a long time will cause a wrong perception of oneself, thinking that one can do nothing, and can not do anything, so the enthusiasm in learning will be reduced, which will seriously affect his academic performance, resulting in a decline in his grades.

It will have a negative impact on learning, because negative emotions make children have no self-confidence and often have self-doubt, resulting in psychological pressure Lu Shenli is too big and Xiaozhong's academic performance is getting worse and worse. Sooner or later.

It will affect the performance of learning, will affect the final effect, may make the child's concentration in learning, and will lead to a great reduction in the effect.

Some parents do not take into account the mentality and intellectual development trend of their children, blindly assign learning tasks, and do not do all the interpretation, and conclude that children never know how to learn, every attempt is unsuccessful, and very rarely can feel the feeling of "winning". This kind of learning style that violates the zone of recent development causes children to lose confidence, and they must feel stupid without parents.

In order to better prevent their children from falling at the starting line, some parents who "hope that their children will become talents" carry out reading, writing, and arithmetic exercises for their young children too early. In fact, this kind of knowledge does not correspond to the characteristics of children's cognitive abilities, and although children can learn to memorize some by rote, they do not understand it. This kind of learning style that does not attach great importance to children's logical thinking can not promote the development trend of children's intelligence in an all-round way, resulting in children can not summarize their own memory according to their own way of knowledge management system, but reduce the curiosity and hobbies of training, and provide greater psychological pressure for his understanding.

According to the Department of Social Psychology, humans are the only animals that can be suggested, and external language and personal behavioral cues in daily life are extremely harmful to children's emotional development trends. Some parents' verbal language means that the child is "stupid to death", and sometimes they blame and blame angrily; Sometimes it's about promoting humility, such as "My son is lacking roots"; Sometimes it's not an accusation, but rather a statement, such as "little fool, you can't do that."

But no matter what the original intention is, the child receives all the information content of "he is stupid", and in the long run, he will have obvious inferiority complex, gradually be negative and pessimistic, and subconsciously refuse to enter the memory bank with new knowledge, and then indeed "become stupid". In fact, every child has their own characteristics and strengths that are different from others. Even if you have poor academic performance, you should not be labeled as a "stupid child".

Parents should recognize their children's weaknesses, and be good at discovering their children's strengths and potentials, and with appreciation and encouragement, children will become confident.

Often beat and scold the child, saying that the child can't do anything well, don't encourage and support the child, don't take the child out to participate in social activities, and when others praise the child, he always says something that is not too good to refute, and he doesn't understand the child's true thoughts.

Criticize the child, well, don't let him do some errands, will tell him what he does, if he doesn't do it well, if he doesn't do this, he will be envious of the child's self-confidence, causing him to lose more and more confidence.

When the child's exam does not disturb the high difference in the exam, the parents indiscriminately celebrate and criticize the child, the child is very stupid, and does not listen to the child's explanation, deliberately ridicules the child, persecutes the child, and when the child does something wrong, the parents' blind accusation will lead to the child's lack of self-confidence.

It will cause the child to have an inferiority complex, because his ideas cannot be affirmed, he is not supported by his parents, and he is blindly denied and hit, which is easy for the child to have no self-confidence.

Personally, I think that if parents often deny their children's ideas, they will definitely make their children feel inferior and dare not express some of their thoughts and thinking.

Yes, long-term denial of the child will cause his psychological problems, and we still have to give encouragement to the good places of the child, rather than blindly denying his efforts.

1. Cultivate children's interests and hobbies, cultivate talents, tap children's interests and hobbies, and encourage children to work hard in this field, cultivate children's talents and talents in a certain aspect, so that children's hearts are enriched and praised, and self-confidence will be regained.

2. Let children feel a "sense of achievement", and children with low self-esteem need more encouragement from their parents. Parents should encourage their children to trust their own judgment in their daily life, and when their children succeed through their own judgment, children will gain a sense of achievement, and a sense of achievement is an indispensable factor in cultivating children's self-confidence.

3. Don't hit the child, let the child socialize more with peers, encourage the child more, never hit the child's every effort, which will reduce the child's self-evaluation and enthusiasm, appropriate praise and encouragement, the child will become more and more confident.

Encourage children to socialize more with their peers, each child has their own advantages and disadvantages, Heqiao parents should not interfere too much, with the same age, children will release their nature, get relaxed, through communication with children, play is also easier to advise children's self-confidence.

4. To face up to their own flaws, "no one is perfect", parents should let their children realize that there are few perfect people or things in this world.

Everyone will have their own flaws, but only those who can face up to their flaws can get closer to success step by step. Parents should set a good example for their children, starting from facing up to their own shortcomings, and knowing that mistakes can be corrected, transmitting positive energy to children, and subtly helping children face up to their own shortcomings.

5. Take children to "see" the world more, parents should provide children with unlimited opportunities to let them feel the world he sees, you will find that every child will be very curious when they arrive in a strange environment, like discovering a new continent, in fact, this is the child's cognition and exploration of the world.