Ever lost in the process of self denial, self denial, and confusion?

There is a process of self-denial and self-confusion after disorientation, the so-called disorientation, it means that a person does not know where to go somewhere, as if standing at a crossroads, suddenly you don't know how to do it, that's it, self-denial and self-confusion are not good, you don't even believe in yourself, why do you think others believe in you, right, you have to learn self-affirmation, not self-denial, of course, there is some self-denial, But what you need more is affirmation rather than denial, confusion is something that everyone has, from childhood to adulthood, without exception, but whether it is self-denial or self-confusion, you have to know that you can, really, you have to believe in yourself.

I definitely think. What you do during this time seems to be a failure? Bad luck and feeling depressed. At this time, I don't know if it's a problem of my own ability, or if it's a problem. I guess I'm not competitive enough. I don't know how to get out. What to take, etc.

Ever lost in the process of self-denial, self-denial, and confusion? The process of being confused by losing oneself and self-denial is particularly entangled, wondering if I am wrong, and I am very confused and troubled.

Adults have a lot of pressure, and now there are more and more social laws, work, house, car, many people have a time when they lose themselves, they may just feel that they want to get ahead, how much money they must earn, and when they find that their abilities are limited, they begin to self-deny, life is very long, and every day is entangled, and every day is peaceful, and every day has to be lived every day, instead of being confused and entangled every day, it is better to live every day seriously, do what you can, and make a practical plan.

Losing oneself, from one's own point of view, is that a person has no own thoughts, consciousness or behavior, that is, his thoughts and thoughts are completely influenced by the external environment, or by other people around him, and make a series of reactions, such people, people will often encounter in life, that is, many people nowadays, have been living in a state of no self, that is, what they do and think, everything seems to be done for others, simply put, It can be summed up in one sentence: live in the eyes and mouths of others. Lost in the meaning of self:

Living in the eyes and mouths of others means that what he thinks and thinks is completely influenced by the external environment, or by other people around him, and makes a series of reactions.

1. I don't have a conclusion about my life, that is to say, I don't have ideals, I don't know my direction, in fact, the direction is very simple, it's all for survival, how to survive, it's your direction, work hard for your own life and dreams, this is the simplest life;

2. Losing oneself refers to the disorientation of the mind, that is to say, I don't know what I am pursuing, I am busy but I don't know why I am busy, I passively follow others, I have no direction from the crowd, and I feel that my future is confused;

Huai closed 3, it is not very easy to perceive the loss of self, some people do not know what to live for until they die, these people who have lost themselves are born in a daze, and it is really sad to die in a daze;

4. The pace of life in a big city is relatively fast This makes it easy for people to feel abandoned and overwhelmed, and in order to catch up with the rhythm and set off in a hurry before determining the direction of life, so people in big cities are more likely to lose themselves.

People live for a lifetime, and few people's lives are absolutely smooth sailing, and there will be tribulations to a greater or lesser extent.

However, there is one problem that exists for most people:

When life is not going well, I always focus on the external causes and rarely pay attention to the internal problems.

It's not right to do that, because it's within you that you're the foundation of your life.

No matter how many tribulations there are in the external environment, if your inner self does not play a role and does not raise your spirit to fight against it, then you will be very passively led by the tribulations in the external environment.

From this point of view, even if there are no tribulations in the external environment, and if you don't play a role inside, your life will not be smooth either.

It's not that you are born to understand these truths, but you have to understand them sooner or later, and the sooner the better, so that you can really settle down in a relaxed state.

People who are still in the midst of self-doubt and self-denial, don't say that you have no direction, try to make yourself move in the direction of self-affirmation, which is your direction.

Self-doubt has always made you miserable, you can only get rid of it without pain, you can only learn to self-affirm to avoid pain, the road is in front of you, you say you can't go.

Self-denial, self-doubt, I suspect you've spent most of your time in this kind of internal friction.

First of all, why do you deny and doubt yourself, it must be that you think that you are wrong and wrong, but who is right and right? Do you know?

Maybe there's no right answer. Everyone lives in their own world and has their own standards for judging, since the standards are different, how can they be right and wrong?

In other words, there is no such thing as right and wrong, you dig a hole for yourself with other people's standards, so that you can't get out.

Stay away from the judgment of the thoughts in your mind, this pit is because of the judgment of your mind, without judgment, there will naturally be no pit.

Get away from your head and feel your heart.

Self-doubt and self-denial may actually be intellectual progress, only constant self-denial. in order to come up with a more realistic answer. The so-called thinkers should also be forged in this way, rather than blindly insisting on certain views.

But self-doubt and self-denial can also be blind behavior, an innate herd and learning behavior, which is actually what most of a person's behavior actually does, and believing what most people believe is theoretically safer and more affordable behavior. This behavior should be concentrated in early childhood. Maybe everyone has a tendency to conform to the herd, and everyone relies on others to prove the reasonableness of their own opinions, which is also a characteristic of human beings, after all, not everyone has enough energy to get to the bottom of all problems, and even for real life, it is not necessary.

Perhaps it is precisely because of this that for the vast majority of people, there is a kind of mental inertia that thinks that what others say is true. When a person's environment changes too much, cognition will generally face a big fluctuation, because many unrelated perceptions are actually just a habitual understanding, and changes in the environment will lead to differences in perceptions, and even lead to doubts about one's own cognitive ability. This suspicion also leads to mood swings.

Disliking people who disagree with them may be a characteristic of most people. There are also people who like people who disagree with them, who are both opponents and help to come up with answers that are close to reality. All the opinions and opinions that I have said, others nod and bow, that is a disaster for mankind.

A thinker does not have a definite point of view in his brain, and he always cites the views of others or even his own to deny himself, and the so-called "opinion" is just an expression in an appropriate way at the right time.

Self-denial and doubt are meaningless self-internal friction, and you can analyze what kind of doubt will help and function of yourself. Anxiety is useless, it is better to do something quickly if you have this time, anxiety is a vicious circle, and only doing things is the solution.

Try to start with something you can do, divert your attention or travel, and by understanding different knowledge and knowing different people, you can also continuously improve your self-ability, and when you reach a certain level, you can get rid of denial and self-doubt.

To get yourself out of constant self-denial and self-doubt, the first problem to be solved is to let yourself re-establish self-confidence, don't always deny yourself, to discover your own strengths, to have a correct assessment and measurement of your own ability, even if your ability is very limited, your qualifications are very mediocre, but you also have certain advantages and merits.

First of all, we must recognize ourselves, what are the advantages and what are the disadvantages, and make a list of them all. Self-doubt and self-denial tend to be blind to one's own strengths and infinitely magnify one's shortcomings.

Believe that there is no perfect person in this world, and then accept the imperfect and flawed self, and tell yourself that there is nothing, although I am not perfect, but it still can't stop me from being excellent.

Keep learning and enriching yourself. Improve your own abilities. Let yourself have enough confidence in life.

Face yourself, no one is perfect, you must see and give full play to your strengths, and make up for your own shortcomings.

Dare to speak in public and express your views and opinions.

Start with the small things in life and be good at helping the people around you, so as to gain self-confidence.

Kissing is like this: there are many people around us who are not confident about the future, confused and lost. They have no direction, no goals, no dreams, and are physically and mentally exhausted when they think about the future.

How so? Because they've always lived for others. That's how my life came to be!

Living in the expectations of others, living for others, there is no ego at all! Often help others bully themselves, often guilty, self-blame, annoyed, ashamed, the whole person is contracted, inferior, no self-confidence! I don't like myself at all, and I always feel bad!

Fortunately, I started the road of learning, I began to find myself little by little, I gradually understood my own value, I learned to love myself, accept my current state, when you learn to love yourself, the whole world will love you! I am very glad that I have gotten rid of the first stage of losing myself and started the stage of recovering myself, although I am not good enough, but I believe that I will get better and better!