What parenting experiences have you found useful?

Establish a clear system of rules for your child, and children are naturally playful, and as a first-grade child, there are some things that cannot be completely decided by him. For example, yesterday, the child called ** to discuss with me, hoping that the English punch card could only read the paper circled by the teacher, I replied to him in one sentence, this is not negotiable, there is no room for negotiation, you must read English picture books as planned, and the child finally completed the English and Chinese punch in as planned. The English picture books I bought only had about 7 or 8 sentences on them.

Normally, we read one book every three days, and then read a new picture book every day plus the ones we have read before, and we plan to learn English picture books in this way. But every time my son reads a new picture book, he feels difficult, unwilling to read, and emotional. Later, I found out that the child is not really emotional, he is actually testing the bottom line of adults, the child tries to confirm his boundaries in an emotional way, once adults lose the bottom line, their boundaries will be expanded, so the bottom line of adults must not be broken.

If the baby's nose is not ventilated due to a cold, the mother can cover the baby's fontanelle with her hands to make the fontanelle sweat, which is very helpful to the baby. ‍

Give children a good hands-on ability, as well as thinking ability, husband and wife should quarrel less, and build a good family environment, so that parenting will make children smarter in the future.

I have always felt that high-quality companionship is not about playing games and telling stories with children all the time, nor is it about parents being on call and being by their children's side at any time. It is the magnetic field that you invisibly transmit to the child, the state of your child at the moment, if the child is happy and peaceful when he is with you, it is high-quality companionship. Probably many moms will say:

Is it true that parents are doing their own work, and letting children play on their own is also a high-quality companionship? "Yes, it's not just a companionship, it's a very high-quality companionship. It should be noted that the work referred to here is definitely not the work we usually understand as surfing the Internet, playing ** socializing, reading books, etc., but refers to those jobs that children can understand and imitate.

For example, doing housework, such as doing handicrafts, these children can see, understand and imitate, and only such work can become a job when accompanying children. At the same time, the state of your parents when they do work is extremely important, are you working in a hurry to get the job done or do you enjoy the work itself, a leisurely work? You must know that the child absorbs not only what the parents do, but also the state of the parents when they do things. ‍‍

Don't try to use your own life experience to constantly remind children not to jump into various "pits", the world that the baby is in now is different from when you were a child, he has his own life, he doesn't go to jump more pits, how to know what kind of life he wants, the most important thing is that the child will not listen to your experience at all, you say don't let you jump or not? No, he has to jump, jump in front of you, without hesitation, and don't care how you try to stop him. Some children will go through the same detours that parents have taken before. ‍‍

Please speak patiently and patiently explain the things she does not understand in words that the child can understand. ‍‍

I like the sentence "If you want your child to be safe, you will be hungry and cold", and I joked that "there is a kind of cold called the mother who thinks you are cold, and there is a kind of hunger called the baby who does not seem to be full". If you want to raise a healthy baby easily, add a "play with your child". Don't underestimate such a simple sentence, the truth is always simple and difficult to understand, and the details are the devil, when you really raise your children yourself, you will understand that the real situation often makes you at a loss.

I am not a professional paediatrician, but I have studied and spent time in the paediatric ward, and at the same time, during my years as a general practitioner, I have also seen and guided hundreds of children; And as a mother of a child who is basically not sick at the age of four, I understand better than a pediatrician who only focuses on the disease itself that the prevention of children's diseases is more important than **. ‍‍

It is very important to encourage your child in front of others, because children are like adults, and what you think of them will determine what kind of person they will become in the future. Weekend family dinner, only one son is a child, the others are adults, when everyone clinks glasses, we hope that our son can take the initiative to clink glasses with the elders, when everyone raises a glass, the son just drinks by himself, and does not want to respect the elders, and then the grandmother said on the side that the son, more and more ignorant, quickly have a drink with the second uncle and the second aunt, at that moment I didn't hold back to say the son, with the second uncle and the second trial to drink, the more energetic we said, the more the son did not move, only cared about his own drinking, even after the drink in the cup was drunk, They didn't want to ask the second uncle to help pour the drink, but they just held the cup and fixed it. Then we left him alone, and the adults ate and drank there.

In the process of chatting, I talked about the child's excellent performance in school several times, praised him for taking the initiative to learn, no need for us to supervise, homework is completed by himself, and the completion is very serious, very responsible, etc., the child himself began to clink glasses with the elders on the table one by one, and became more and more relaxed and natural. I believe more and more in the saying that how you look at others, they will gradually become that kind of person. Children will gradually become the kind of person in your mouth or eyes, so be sure to encourage your child more so that he knows that he is unique in your heart and that you are actually very satisfied with him. ‍‍

Children are the heart of every mother. When faced with little people, we are always afraid that we will not take care of well, and we should be most receptive to people's experiences in emergency parenting.

But we have to make our own judgments. Because the experience that the other person kindly imparts can also be wrong, and it applies to the other person's child, but not to ours.

Raising a child is really not an easy task. But raising children is also an important experience in our lives. Raising children is the only way to be truly mature.

Let's talk about the stories of gaining experience in parenting. Hope to help confused parents. If something is wrong, I hope you can correct it.

On the other hand, it's also your family.

1.The child sleeps during the day before the child is half a year old and does not draw the curtains.

This is the conclusion reached after being tortured. Close the curtains during the day, if the light is dark, the child's day-night view will be chaotic, let the child sleep day and night, and raise the child to sleep at night. Let the child subconsciously know that the day is plentiful, the night is dark, and it is time to sleep.

2.Please try not to raise your child high.

My mom used to hold me high when I was a kid, but she paid more attention when she raised her own children. In fact, this is not right. Because the nerves and muscles of the child's body are not fully developed.

When throwing a child high, the brain ** may occur and the retina will detach, so be careful and careful.

3.Touching a child is the most direct form of emotional communication.

When the child was very young, I tried to talk to the child, which was funny, but the child was still young, and I often stroked the child in the future. Especially smooth strokes after bathing. This contact between ** and ** is the most direct emotional exchange and can calm the child's emotions.

4.If you can't find the reason, it's best to see if your child likes to watch TV and play with his phone.

At the beginning, the principle of taking care of the child was that as long as he was quiet, some pads, mobile phones, TVs, etc. played with him, but gradually found that the child's temper was very rough, and once he didn't tease him, he began to make noise, and his concentration was not enough. Later I realized that this problem, as much time as possible, children need more care and care from their parents, rather than a cold film.

For example, to maintain a "reflex" listening to children, for children, they are new to these rules, some effective questions, if can be more concrete, can help to deepen their impression and understanding.

Practical experience: When babies are young, they always can't tell which foot should be worn and which shoe to wear. Stick such small stickers with directional directions on the inside of the shoes, and the baby will slowly distinguish between the left and right feet.

When the child is six months old, you can read picture books to your child, and cultivate the habit of reading picture books for your child, which will make your child fall in love with reading from an early age and lay the foundation for future learning.

First, don't hold your child more, second, play with your child more during the day, third, give your child some nutritious food, fourth, let your child crawl on the ground, and fifth, install a fence around the bed.

For children, we must let go of anxiety. It can't be carried away by **, and it can be deviated. Each child's growth and development has its own rules. Don't be anxious about some reports on the Internet.

I think the experience of parenting is not to force children, to try to meet children's needs, to let children read more books, read more newspapers, and play more games.

Each stage has a different parenting experience, for example, in daily life with children, we must pay attention to our emotions, learn to communicate with children, fully respect and understand children, give children some independent space, let children have the opportunity to make their own choices, etc.

OneAs a father of two children, I have summed up a lot of useful parenting experience, for example, when children can stand on their own, they must slowly learn to walk independently with the encouragement of adults, and adults should not interfere too much. In the process of getting along with the baby, you can listen to more nursery rhymes, tell stories and other forms to the baby, and constantly improve the baby's understanding of language.

IIIYou can also buy more building block toys for the baby to develop intelligence, and parents can splice with their children to improve their children's hands-on ability and develop intelligence. When the baby grows up, be sure to treat him as their own friend to get along with, if the baby has grievances or selfish emotions in his heart, parents must guide in time, not to add fuel to the fire. Parents should not interfere too much with their children's choices, let them have the right to choose their own friends, and take their children to more scenic spots or outings on weekdays and weekends, which can further enhance the harmonious atmosphere of the family.

I think the best thing is that the baby under the age of three months is more noisy at night, and after three months, his life, especially sleeping, will gradually become regular. There are also children who should talk to him more, such children will talk early.

A great parenting experience is to nurture your child's interests and nurture your child.

Sub optimism. First of all, it is very important to cultivate the child's interest, which will directly affect his life, if he has his own hobbies, then let the child develop in this area. Secondly, children must have an optimistic attitude when they grow up, and a child with an optimistic attitude can actively face any good or bad things, so that he can become strong.

In fact, it is very important to cultivate children's independent character, and some studies have shown that children who grow up with their fathers will be more independent in the future.

It is to take the form of encouragement during child-rearing. For example, after a child does something right, you should recognize and encourage them as soon as possible.

The best home education is indispensable for both father and mother. The father, who determines the height of the child; Mother, determines the temperature of the family.

Teacher Sun Jian often said in the heart and wisdom parents class: what the child is, the parents are what they are, and the child is a copy of the parents.

In fact, the reverse is still true, parents are the mirror of their children, and children are the shadows of their parents. Morality, cultivation, habits, quality, principles, and three views, a person's growth is inseparable from the education of parents.

And the best family education is that the father is a role model and the mother is warm.

Whether a child can become a talent or not is directly related to his parents. Not all the good students are taught by the teachers, and the bad students are not all trained by the school. Parents are the best starting line for children, and doing a good job in family education is more important than everything.

Therefore, accompany the children more, and the high-quality companionship of parents and the dedication of doing what they can give the children the most needed education.

Thinking of what Mr. Sun Jian shared in the Wisdom Parents class, it is important to cultivate children's sense of rules from an early age.

When children are young, we don't have the necessary rules to educate, so as they get older, it becomes more and more difficult to discipline. After children know how to abide by the rules, they will understand what can be done and what cannot be done, and the shape of their hearts will naturally become the boundaries of people's life. The earlier you develop your child's sense of rules, the more you can internalize it into your child's code of conduct.

This is a well-bred child, cultivated from an early age, and don't be a bear child who is reprimanded by others.

This made me learn that when one day my child goes to someone else's house to play, it is not annoying or annoying, and this is the best standard of parenting for my child.