What is it like to be chatting with friends and always can t interject?

I have a deep understanding of this, if you talk about experience, it can only be embarrassing and embarrassing, but when you get used to it, you will get used to it, and I am a person who is accustomed to it from slow embarrassment. I'm always a person who can't interject, and I don't even have anyone to talk to, in a word, my presence is very low, and no one can care, and no one wants to listen to my advice.

In fact, I also wish that others would notice me, and that I could interject when talking to my friends, and not be ignored by my friends, but the reality is the opposite, so this experience is really uncomfortable, and people who have experienced this situation, I believe that most people feel the same. It's hard for someone with a low sense of presence to be noticed, and no one even notices when they speak, let alone interject when chatting with friends.

Now, every time I go out with a few friends, I always get out of the room, and they all talk and laugh very happily, and I always have a hard time getting in, and every time they are talking, they can't say a word, so I can only listen silently. So I'm very reluctant to come out, especially when I come out with several people, and I don't want to come out, and then I always like to do everything by myself, and when I tell others, others don't necessarily take it seriously.

The person who is always ignored, not that they don't want to speak, but that they really don't have the opportunity to speak, and they also like to talk, it's just ignored. I hope everyone can experience this feeling a little less, this feeling is very embarrassing, everyone must pay attention to those who can't interject in the chat with friends, don't just talk to yourself, pay more attention to the people around you.

If it were me, my friends would always be unable to interject a sentence when chatting, and I would feel very embarrassed, and I would be so bored and lost. Usually at times like this, I will wait a little patiently, and if I continue to never say a word, then I will choose to turn around and leave. After all, it's not just my personal reasons that cause this situation, maybe the other party doesn't want me to be there.

Under normal circumstances, when a few friends chat, there will be one person who is in charge, and if it were me, I would take care of everyone. When I spoke, even if a friend and I asked and answered, they cooperated very tacitly. The other laughs without saying a word, and I will also use my eyes to tell the other person that I am taking care of your emotions and feelings, although you may not be very talkative because of your introverted personality.

I want you to be the listener and let you feel that I care about you. In this way, others will not feel embarrassed and uncomfortable because they can't insert a word, and there is a feeling of being ignored and left out.

So when I couldn't interject when my friend was chatting, my friend didn't take into account my feelings and didn't make eye contact at all. I'll feel like I'm so redundant, so I shouldn't exist, and I'll even wonder why they're doing this to me. Am I doing something wrong?

I think it's better for me to leave silently, than to be alone and lonely in that strange atmosphere.

Of course, if they are still interested in the topic of conversation, I will continue to sit next to me and be a quiet listener, which can be regarded as listening to a story. There may be different unique opinions, why not listen to them? In addition, it may be a lesson that can be used as a reference for life.

It's also a reward, a reward for silence, though the experience is so poignant ......

No matter how perfect a person is, he will encounter things that he can't do, just like a person who usually likes to envy and make friends, but he can't interject when his friends talk to others, I think there are many reasons, let's talk about them separately.

The first reason is that your friends don't want you to join you at all. Many times it's not that you think too much by yourself, but the reality makes you have to think more, how can a person who likes to make friends not fit into a conversation, I think most likely your friends don't want you to fit in at all, and then let you chat with them well.

I knew a girl when I came to this school when I was a freshman.,Looking at her very quiet.,I still thought in my heart that I would definitely be able to progress with such a top student.,It turned out to be a scumbag.,Later, I joined another girl who came to this school alone, and then the three of us ate and went to class together after military training.,It turned out that things didn't develop in the direction of a good bridge.,Gradually, I found that the two of them spoke more and more incomprehensible.,And then I realized that the two of them had a little secret., A little secret I didn't know, and then I chose to give up this friendship that I didn't have a heart-to-heart to.

The second reason is that you are out of orbit in your environment. Many people like to make friends does not mean that this person can fit into an environment well, liking to make friends is character, but making friends and being able to make friends is a skill, you don't know the development trends and topics in your environment, so you can't fit in.

The third reason is that you haven't figured out what they're saying, you haven't experienced what they're saying. Only after experiencing it will you know what will happen in such a situation, just like feelings, only after experiencing the failure of feelings will you know whether a person loves you or not.

There was a girl in my dormitory who had never been in a relationship, and when the other five of us were talking, that girl always couldn't interject, because she hadn't experienced what we had experienced, so she ended up talking coldly.

Summary. Hello, glad to answer for you.

Maybe the ability to express itself is not so good. You may be better suited to be a listener than to chat.

It's not that you like to make friends, so you can be in an advantageous or dominant position when chatting.

Maybe in the hearts of your friends, you are a person with few words.

Or maybe your friend thinks they're not talking about something you like or you're good at.

In short, I always can't interject to show that I have a certain problem.

We must be good at discovering our own problems, finding the source, and solving them.

Read more books to improve your presentation skills.

Talking and chatting with a friend is basically not interjected, he is very humorous, I feel inferior to him, what should I do?

Hello, glad to answer for you. Maybe the ability to express itself is not so good. Compared to chatting, I may be more suitable to be a listener.

It's not that you like to make friends, so you will be able to be in an advantageous position or say that you are in a dominant position when chatting. Maybe in the hearts of your friends, you are a person with few words. Or maybe your friend thinks they're talking about something you don't really like, or that it's not what you're good at.

In short, I always can't interject to show that I have a certain problem. We must be good at discovering our own problems, finding the source, and solving them. Read more books to improve your presentation skills.

I hope mine can help you.

I've used to feel this way a lot, especially when a group of friends are chatting and I can't interject. I think there are several reasons for this.

One is that he is naturally introverted and not good at words, especially not good at speaking in crowded situations. It's okay for two or three friends to be together, but once there are more people, they will be frightened and dare not speak.

The second is that his language skills are not good enough, and when he sees the constant witty words of others, he can't say anything, and even saying it is boring, and he is quickly overwhelmed by the words of his friends. Psychologically, I didn't dare to speak.

The third is that my knowledge is narrow, and I don't know much about the topics of my friends, and even if I know, I am stuck in what everyone knows on the surface, so when everyone says something deeper and I don't know, I feel that I have nothing to say.

Fourth, they have too few interests and hobbies, and lack a common language to communicate with friends. For example, when they discuss a service brand, they have never heard of the brand, and of course they can't interject.

To solve this problem, I think we should try to change ourselves, first, we should strengthen our study and expand our knowledge. Otherwise, you won't know anything about your friends' conversations, and you won't be able to participate in them. The second is to overcome shyness and try to learn to dare to express yourself.

The third is to increase your sense of humor, consciously strengthen your practice in life, increase the vividness of your language, improve your attractiveness to friends, and be an interesting person. Fourth, we should cultivate our own interests and hobbies in various aspects. Fifth, pay more attention to social news and current hot topics, and increase your understanding of new things outside.

I believe that this situation will gradually improve with a period of hard work.

I think it depends on your charisma. First of all, you have to make yourself a little more confident. When chatting with friends, you can talk about common topics that you are both interested in, so as to shorten the distance between you, if you are chatting and you can't interject, then you try to understand your friend's personality traits, hobbies, specialties and so on in advance.

If you are making friends with strangers, then you can read some books about communication, learn more speaking skills, in short, making friends is nothing more than finding a sense of identity, and friends should have common topics. Common interests are the real reason why you can get together. All people who build true friendships are based on fate.

If you want to establish a long-term friendship relationship, you should have a common goal, the same three views, and not make each other disgusted in terms of behavior.

You must have a tacit understanding between you, at least there must be no barriers in communication, otherwise it will be difficult to persevere. When you are together as a soldier, talk more about your common hobbies, or complain together, people you are not used to, or some strange things you encounter in the company, you can share some of your own ugly things, or some little secrets. Of course, these little secrets are the little secrets shared between the two of you, so that your relationship will go further, because no one is perfect, and only when you show her his unknown side of himself, will he let down his guard and really be friends with you.

Only then can you truly become friends or close friends.

If you like to make friends, it means that you are very cheerful. A strong ability to make friends does not mean that you have a strong ability to communicate with your friends. That's why you can't interject while friends are chatting. So I give you the following advice.

1. The topic of your friend's chat may be something you don't understand, so you naturally can't interject. I don't think there's a need to change your own interests because of your friends' interests. I think being yourself is the most important thing.

You may not know much about what they are talking about. Then you can choose not to talk to them, wait until you are familiar with the topic and talk to them, and have a pleasant exchange with them, which also relieves your embarrassment. Why not?

2. Analyze your own reasons. Do you have different interests and concerns from them? Like I used to have a friend.

He was very fond of military affairs, but many times when he was talking to another friend about military affairs, I couldn't interject at all. Because I don't know much about their military issues. So naturally we can't interject, and that's what we focus on differently from them.

So I chose not to talk to them when they were talking about it.

3. If you really want to talk to them, then you can learn more about it. When it's time for them to talk, you can chime in.

The ability to make friends and the ability to communicate with friends are actually two completely different concepts. Just because you have a lot of friends doesn't mean you have a lot of people who can talk. So we still have to find some close friends.

Find a friend who doesn't talk about anything, and find a friend who can talk to each other without you making a big change for him. Such friends are really good friends who can get along well with you.

Liking to make friends and being able to communicate happily with friends are completely different things, just like a couple without a common hobby will inevitably end up breaking up; Partners who do not share a common goal are bound to go their separate ways; In the same way, friends who don't have a common topic end up being strangers.

The number one reason you can't interject is that you are not knowledgeable enough to express your opinions and thoughts when your friends are chatting, which is the source of your distress. The most important thing you should do is to summarize what your friends are talking about every day, and then learn about it in a targeted way.

The fundamental way to learn is to read more, and you must always believe that the phrase "there is a ** house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book" is the truth. Don't find all kinds of reasons to convince yourself that reading books is a waste of time, in fact, you only need ten or even twenty minutes of accumulation every day, and after a year, you will become the object of worship of your friends.

But the knowledge in the book is stereotyped after all, and the aspects involved are relatively single, I suggest you buy a book of civil service exam questions, you don't need to be able to do it, fill in the answers, read carefully, and portray the knowledge involved in it one by one in your mind, maybe one day will not work, two days will not work, but after a long time you will become a walking library, and you will have a humorous and funny character.

I want you to make these changes, not to please your friends in disguise, there are countless people in this world, I believe that there will always be people who are willing to communicate with the same you, but you yourself don't want to stop there, right? If you want to be a star-studded presence among your friends, try your best to enrich your knowledge and change your state.