Have you ever rejected someone you like?

When I was in high school, I was an introvert. I never pay attention to anyone, I don't get bothered by anything. I'm all about learning.

Even if someone has a problem with class, someone takes a stool away, and falls, I don't laugh or look back. It was as if there was nothing in my world but learning mechanically.

Until one day, a boy broke into my world. I really hated him at first because he was always interrupting my studies. He was naïve and blew behind me in class.

He touched my left shoulder, and when I turned around, he hid on the right. He was talking in class, and I said to him, can you stop talking. He actually said, I'll buy it, and handed me a few cents.

I really think he's funny and helpless.

Slowly, I felt like I didn't hate him anymore and felt like I liked him a little bit. I grew to like the laughter he brought me. I also slowly began to pay attention to the people around me.

It turned out that I thought that only studying was my only thing. Now I feel that the people and things around me are very interesting. I feel like he's got a lot of things I've never felt before.

I like him, so I'm willing to help him with a lot of things. If he doesn't finish his homework, I'll copy my homework for him. I was the representative of the physics class, and sometimes he didn't have time to make up his homework, so I would cross out his name.

All in all, as long as he says something, I will not refuse him. That's how I faintly bury my liking.

Until one day, he told me that he liked a girl. He began to lend her my homework to copy and give her water to drink. I look sad.

Until one day, he wanted to confess to that girl, and he asked me to help him prepare a romantic confession. He wanted me to help him pick out a gift. This time, I really couldn't take it anymore.

Why? Why should I help him pick a gift for her, I'm good to you because I like you, you treat me as a friend, I'm not, I can't bear it, I can't bear you having a girlfriend. This time, I rejected him, and I refused.

Whoever you like to find, I won't go. You like you, don't you? I'm sorry, I won't play with you.

It was the first time I had rejected him. I rejected the person I liked. I don't regret it at all, I kind of know, he doesn't like me, and it's useless for me to do anything.

Can't I see that I like someone so humbly? Can't you see, do I like him? I treat him better than others, can't he really see it?

I was confused, but I could see that he didn't like me, he only had that girl in his eyes, and he didn't have me in his eyes at all.

Since then, with the first rejection, there have been more and more rejections, and we have drifted apart. But I don't regret it, I don't feel the need to continue to be nice to someone who doesn't like me.

I've turned down a guy I liked, a guy I liked, admired, and chased him three times. Every bit of him is very attractive to me, very sunny, very mature and sensible, very cute and can give me the sense of security I want. <>

It was when I was in junior high school, my best friend's boyfriend was from another class, and I was often with my best friend, and sometimes when they went out to play, they brought me and a light bulb, and they didn't take me and felt bad, so they just found a good friend of his boyfriend to hang out with, and that's how I met him.

When I first met, I was more introverted and embarrassed to chat with him, but my girlfriend and his boyfriend went to another place by themselves, and only the two of us were left, not looking for a topic to talk about and very embarrassing, and I didn't know what to talk about, at first he still spoke, asked me what my name was in which class to study, **, so slowly chatted, the two of them are not so embarrassed, we rarely meet, only my girlfriend can chat when they go out together, he is very humorous, and can always make the atmosphere lively, also very confident. <>

That time was when we were in the school basketball game, I accompanied my girlfriend to watch them play basketball, he was heroic on the court, sunny and energetic, he was already very tall, he was even higher under the backdrop of others, he played basketball very well, and the friends below also interacted, after scoring a goal, he would high-five with his cheering classmates, run around the court, I found that I liked him, his confidence and vitality attracted me, his humor and seriousness, let me fall into it, so I took the initiative to chase people for the first time, let my girlfriend give him a note, He didn't agree, the second time I texted him by myself, he still didn't agree, and he didn't say the reason for not agreeing, the third time, it was when my friends went out to play together, I told him personally, he still rejected me, I don't know why he rejected me, because he was going back to his hometown, or because he didn't like me at all, but he usually showed that he didn't feel good for me when they were together, I didn't continue to pursue him, but I didn't give up liking him, Just silently accompanied him as a friend. <>

A month or two later, we played together again, and there was no awkward situation, the two of us still chatted and played happily as before, and suddenly we talked about something, and I asked him in a joking tone, did you think I hated it before, did you like it? I chased you so much, why did you keep refusing? Or do you have a girlfriend?

I smiled and said this to him, he didn't have me, silent for a while, I used other topics to diverge, not to let the atmosphere be so embarrassing, after a while, only the two of us where were, he suddenly said that he chased me, asked me if I agreed, I didn't even think about not agreeing immediately, I don't know why he didn't finish speaking, I immediately refused, because I was afraid that he just pitied me, seeing me chasing him for so long, so I gave me alms instead of really liking and loving, I didn't hesitate to turn down someone I liked very much.

I've rejected people who like me, and I've never rejected people I like. If the person you like can't bear to refuse, you can only scold Xue Zhiqian's verbal words: Neurotic!

People often say that it is rare to have a confidant in life, and what is even more rare than a confidant is that the person you like also likes you. In the vast world, in the vast sea of people, more than a billion people can fancy each other, how precious it is! How many people can only choose what they love in the journey of life, or choose the person who loves them, who is willing to refuse such a rare feeling, who can refuse!

Like me, who is still single, I haven't found the so-called mutual liking yet, which shows how difficult it is! Whenever I was urged by my parents, I also thought about it, or I would just settle for a while, find someone who likes me, and I won't be too tired if the other party loves me. But every night in the dead of night, I will feel very unwilling, it is really so difficult to find a true love who likes each other, how long does that person need me to wait, please appear quickly!

I tell you, who are still trying to find true love, don't reject people who like you, it's hard to meet, please cherish it!

One of my classmates talked about an incident in college countless times, she was not very good at that time, a little inferior, so she rejected a particularly good boy, in fact, she liked that boy, but she just thought it was impossible, thought it was a joke between classmates, and treated it as a joke. Every time she thought about it, she regretted it very much, saying that if it wasn't a joke at the time, if I agreed, wouldn't I be very happy now, so don't easily refuse the person you like. Don't dislike yourself for not being good enough, maybe he just likes you who isn't perfect enough.

Don't refuse the person you like easily, true love is rare!

When the person you like makes some requests or requests to yourself, it is generally difficult for you to refuse, because the other party is the person you like, you have something that is difficult to say no to the other party, it is difficult for you to refuse the other party, when you see the face of the person you like, you will feel that the other party wants to agree to whatever you say.

But we also have to consider the importance of the matter and the feasibility of the matter, we can't say that because the other party is the person we like, and then agree to everything, because we are embarrassed, because we like it, this look is not right, we have to learn to try to say no to others, try to reject others.

When the person we like says something to ourselves that is difficult for us to do, we should reject the other person, like I have rejected the person I like before, this refusal is not to say that the other party said to me that he also likes me, and then I rejected him, but because he proposed something that I found difficult to accept, which made me feel very unhappy and then I rejected him.

And at that time, I ignored him for a long time because of this incident, I sometimes really don't know what kind of person a boy is, and I don't know what they are thinking about sometimes, at that time we were in love, and falling in love was about falling in love, and I think falling in love is just holding hands and kissing the mouth.

But the other party proposed something to me to cross this level, I believe everyone understands, but I refused, although he said something very good, but I can't accept it, because I still have an awkward relationship with him about this matter, and then part of the breakup is also partly for this reason, I don't like others to put forward some opinions or suggestions to me that I don't like, it's the kind of thing I can't accept, whether it's someone I like or not, I can't.

Meeting the right person at the right time is a sweetness, and meeting the right person at the wrong time can only give up.

In my junior year of high school, a new classmate was transferred to our class, and his tall and handsome appearance immediately attracted everyone's attention, and fortunately, he was placed in front of me and became my front table. With in-depth contact, I found that he was a very motivated and sunny boy, and my liking for him began to grow day by day. After class, we often get together on ** topics, complain about the teacher's unreasonable occupation of class, and share gossip and interesting things in life together.

Those days are wonderful to think about now.

I remember that weekend was his birthday, and a few of our friends celebrated it together. After eating, we walked slowly to the school together, and when we walked to the square near the school, he suddenly showed his heart to me, and at that moment I heard my heart beating, joy, uneasiness, all the emotions welled up in my heart together. I don't know what to do, I know my responsibility at this moment when I am facing the college entrance examination, but it is the boy I like, I don't know how sorry I will be if I miss him.

But at that time, I had no choice, I could not live up to the ardent hopes of teachers and parents, and I could not bear the reproachful eyes of parents. When the words of refusal came out, I also heard the sound of my own heartbreak. Since then, we have slowly drifted apart, each soothing our own wounded hearts.

After college, we were separated, and we occasionally missed each other, but we never kept in touch. I want to know how the other party is doing, but I don't dare to ask, so I can only knock on the side from my friend. Later, knowing that he had a beautiful girlfriend and that he was doing well, I felt a little relieved and a little lost.

How reluctant it is to reject a person I like, even after so much time, I still think of him occasionally, think of that good time, and think of my innocent self at that time. I can only sigh softly when I meet the right person at the wrong time.

As follows:

1. I was relieved for a moment, and when I turned around, my heart was like a knife, and I was finally able to sleep well. Finally, I don't have to stare at my phone all day, and I finally don't have to worry about it every day, I look at the circle of friends dozens of times a day, and I get flustered when I don't reply to my messages. The most important thing is that there is one less person in my life who makes me go up and down, like a fish bone, and I finally swallow it, but my throat still hurts.

2. I probably don't mind being lonely, more comfortable than loving you, I'd rather be lonely than be let down in the gains and losses, it's good that you're gone, otherwise I'm always worried that you're leaving.

3. Actually, I don't feel anything, anyway, in this world, no one can always accompany anyone Finally, he is willing to admit that his life has nothing to do with me.

4, you are still my reason for rejecting others, but I am not waiting for you I just can't like others, I want to hug you so much, but unfortunately I can only accompany you here.

5. I will remember your name many years later, although there is no story between us.

6. I have blurred the appearance of that person, and I almost forgot the name of that person, but I still feel a beat in my heart when I hear it.

7. I want you to be happier than anyone else in this world, but I think that this happiness has nothing to do with me, and I am very sad Don't laugh, tears are falling.

Remember one thing first: let others accept you as you are, not as perfect as you are.

In the process of social interaction, we will reveal the traits that we think are good to others and hide the traits that we think are bad. This leads to the problem that what you think is a good trait may be seen as a bad trait by others, and this display will be frustrated. Gradually, what we show becomes the side that can be recognized by the other party, and the side that the other person does not approve of will be hidden.

As a result, I am afraid that I will not be recognized, and I am afraid of being exposed, and I am afraid of approaching others.

This corresponds to an irrational belief that perfection is recognized, and that I am not perfect. This belief itself contains a desire that I want to behave perfectly.

It's the best chance to show yourself when you're in the cold, but people don't respond well to your performance after the performance, so you feel unrecognized, and you're even more afraid to show it. This kind of logic has been hovering in my heart for a long time, and after a long time, it is inevitable to tremble and walk on thin ice.

When people pursue a sense of value, they are often looking for a sense of value in a relationship, not only "I am important", but also "I am important to you". While we like and recognize each other, we imply that "the other party is very important to me", and then the other person's bad response will be further amplified and exacerbate our own vicious evaluation of ourselves. For the dependent, the other party will be further idealized, because an idealized image will help escape from the dissatisfaction with oneself, then the other party is not wrong, his anger, anger and other vicious emotions are because I am not good enough, this must be my fault.

In this asymmetry, there is another irrational parallel belief: the people I like are perfect.

Therefore, the subject's thoughts of "everyone else is so busy, who cares about you" can't break those unreasonable beliefs at all, because others don't care about you, it can't explain your perfection, and it can't explain the imperfection of others. In fact, you don't need to be perfect yourself, you just need to be true yourself. Otherwise, your so-called liking of others seems to me only to please others, and your so-called fear of approaching seems to me to be just a defense of wanting to keep yourself perfect.

Acknowledging your imperfections is a sieve that sieves who can enter your world; At the same time, please acknowledge the imperfections of others, which is a mirror for you to see that everyone is no different.