The most comfortable chat state, the best chat state

The most comfortable state of chatting is when you are saying that someone is listening. Say whatever you want, whatever you want. You don't have to think about whether this sentence will hurt others, and you don't need to think about whether others will read it too much. No one will be taught.

1. Harmonious family-style chat, a family of young and old together, young and old, but very democratic, the way of speaking and the appropriate honorifics, so that the family can feel each other's respect, consideration and intimacy, in the slow life of warm words.

Enjoy the warmth of home and the sunshine.

2. Learning-style chatting, chatting with teachers, leaders, and friends who are highly respected and more knowledgeable than us, a good book to talk about, like-minded, and the longer you talk, the longer you forget the time.

3. Dating chat, borrowing a leisure time, gathering three or five times, a cup of idle tea, a period of wind and moon, let the imagination shine, and it doesn't matter if it's dark.

4, the party, separated for a long time do not know the West and the East, occasionally friends from afar, and the dusty memory starts, the night is thick, lovesick and bitter, the words are not exhausted, and they are all right.

5, comic chat, bitter haha day, if you meet a friend who has no heart and lungs to tease infinitely, it will also make people laugh constantly, what fatigue, intrigue, all troubles, are all forgotten to the cloud ...... under the drive of the "two" comic comparison

6, humorous chat, this is full of wisdom and special funny chat, all kinds of funny hidden wisdom, driving people's thinking, cold and unguarded Niang Niang was disturbed in the cold palace, turned around and the spring breeze got carried away....Haha, it's my favorite puzzle chat.

7, chatting with lovers, obviously holding hands, obviously in the arms, still grinding words constantly, and the heart is full of spring peach blossoms undefeated....

8, I like to chat with children the most, children's words, all kinds of cuties, cute you, let people take out love from the heart, willing to kiss them.

In real life, any good relationship or interpersonal relationship is always the appreciation of the strong for the strong, not the sympathy of the weak for the weak. No matter what the relationship chat, there will be a process of mutual adaptation and mutual understanding, in which two people will find each other's differences, and then use the best way to fill in the differences. Both sides must maintain a state of mutual respect.

If a person always only stands in his own perspective and deals with everything that comes his way, then most likely he will not make true friends. Because no one wants to talk to such a person, I always feel that people with this personality are too selfish and not particularly easy to get along with. The best chat mode for two people is not only to learn to appreciate each other, but also to understand each other, and choose to think from multiple angles when they encounter problems together.

If you want to have a good result, you must treat it with your heart, and don't let yourself have an attitude of indifference.

It is a family with old snacks for dinner, pull a small table to sit in the courtyard, put some melon seeds and peanuts on the table, and the family eats and chats around the small table and looks at the starry sky and the moon from time to time, that state, comfortable and beautiful!

The most comfortable state of the relationship is to chat "without seconds back".

Modern people's social interaction is undoubtedly dominated by communication tools.

As a result, all kinds of offensive banquets are flocking up, and some even specialize in teaching boys or girls how to chat, Kuaishou, Douyin is even more endless, my words are not good, and straight men have advanced cancer. It's a bad thing to do, but I've tried to summarize these strategies, and I've come to the conclusion that it's probably going to be like finding the intersection of interests, and it's a bit worse....

It all sounds reasonable, but it doesn't feel like the best state of chat in my opinion. Now, let's talk about my opinion:

The best state of chat is casual. Just like between acquaintances and strangers, with strangers you will try your best to rent potatoes as politely as possible. But if it's an acquaintance, I don't know if you feel this way, we are very casual, but this casualness is often not disrespectful, and we will send long voices, although we know that it is not very polite.

We'd send an entire text, even though we understood that the other person's phone might be ringing and he would be annoyed to hear it. We don't care so much about seconds. I don't need to add, I'm sorry, what did I do....We interrupted the conversation directly on various topics, but needless to say, I went to take a shower, and I didn't have to talk back, and I didn't have to ask the next time we chatted:

Are you there? This may be the best state to chat with silver...

The feeling of being comfortable chatting with someone makes you feel infinitely close to your truest self.

In fact, each of us does not understand what we are like, and it is precisely because of the collision with others that we have a slow understanding of our own contours.

Pleasant communication with him helps us understand ourselves.

I remember reading a passage of Yohji Yamamoto saying something like this.

The pleasant feeling in the chat often comes from resonance, when a chat makes people feel comfortable, it is often the conversation that disturbs you to have the feeling of "he actually said", and many of the words spoken by the other party are what you think in your heart, which is a tacit understanding that does not need to be cultivated, and it is like a fatalistic encounter.

Your conversation is fluid, all kinds of topics can be natural, you don't need to rack your brains to answer each other fluently, as if the person you are talking to knows everything about you, you are like meeting another self.

Your pleasure comes from the relaxation of the conversation, the other party makes you feel at ease, and you let down your guard and talk eloquently, which is the right you, and it will also make you feel that chatting is such a beautiful thing.

When you are comfortable chatting with someone, it does mean that the other person's information density is equal to or above you, but I don't think that's a bad thing, because it just happens to be the ** that you are comfortable chatting with? If you don't understand what the other party says, and you need to explain it many times, I think this kind of chat is impossible to bring pleasure.

If the other person is really such a powerful person, then why don't we try to be such a person? Isn't the best way to prevent him from lowering his dimensionality to rise to the same dimension as him?

Someone to chat with is actually a very luxurious thing now, everyone is so busy, people who can accompany you to chat nonsense and make you feel happy, you must cherish it.

I hope you can all meet that person who won't get tired of talking.

I also hope that you can all be the one who makes others want to talk forever.